"I don't like you,Mommy!"

[Stitchfans]

Youngest DD never said that to me at least not to my face. But oldest did. I just told her that it was a shame cause I still loved her. She changed her tune real fast.

 

[joviroxx]

When my DS was 4, he said that and I did the "Thats ok cause I love you enough for both of us." When he was around 6-7 he tried the "I won't be your friend" game and I quickly told him that too was alright as I had plenty of friends and that God didn't put me on this earth to be his friend but to be his mommy.. Now that he's 11, when he gets mad at me, I just remind him that if he's mad, I'm probably doing my job really well

 

[mhsjax]

I guess I just don't get it, and I have 3. they have all at one time or another said that to me, and it doesn't bother me in the least, and I don't understand why it would bother anyone. They don't mean it, and trust me as they get older there will be times that you don't like them either. When mine would tell me that, I would say back to them, Good, because right now, I don't like you either and that shut them up.

 

[Cee]

I remember as a kid I would say to my mother, "YOU DON'T LOVE ME!" just to make her guilty. Of course it didn't work. She'd reply, "Don't be silly" or something like that. We still laugh about it today.

 

[Serena]

It does sting the first few times. It will be okay though. They do not mean it, even in anger. They are just learning what buttons to push.
The first time my youngest said it, she cried more than I did. She never said it again, without adding to the end, you know I don't mean it don't you. I would say ok, then she'd slam her door.
With my oldest she would say it and at first it did sting. But as she got older I got used to it. She didn't say it a lot, but I did get used to it. I think one of the last times she said it, she was a teenager and I was just as angry. I yelled back, I love you too brat! She cracked up laughing and then so did I.

 

[NY Disney fan]

My drama queen 2 year old daughter said "I don't love you any more!" once. I just rolled my eyes. They don't know what they are talking about at that age. I do feel lucky though because when she does something wrong she feels guilt and empathy as any healthy child would.

 

[Disneyland1084]

Well my daughter is 6 1/2 and for mother's day, she made me a card, it said:

"even though I love Daddy more,
your the #1 mother I adore!"

She reminds me all the time that she loves daddy more. It used to bother me, but I just tell her I would love Daddy more too if I was a kid since he is the pushover

I'm sorry ,but I laughed when I read that.


OP-Don't feel bad. Sometimes when my DD 3 would rather be with Daddy, she says to me "Mommy, go away." I laugh because I think it's funny.

 

[MushyMushy]

Awww, I know it does sting the first time they say that. You'll get used to it, though. My oldest disliked me throughout a good bit of his teens. Oh well, I figured I was doing something right with him. I wasn't trying to be the cool mom.

He finally likes me again, though.

Well my daughter is 6 1/2 and for mother's day, she made me a card, it said:

"even though I love Daddy more,
your the #1 mother I adore!"

She reminds me all the time that she loves daddy more. It used to bother me, but I just tell her I would love Daddy more too if I was a kid since he is the pushover

OUCH!

That was clever of her, though.

 

[disneybound2010]

OP-Don't feel bad. Sometimes when my DD 3 would rather be with Daddy, she says to me "Mommy, go away." I laugh because I think it's funny.

LOL DS saiys that a lot,too. Whichever one of us is telling him No or correcting him is usually the one to be told go away. My sister lives next door and babysits for me all the time. When she is the one correctign him, he goes to the door and points at it, "Go Home Auntie!"

 

[HelenePA]

The other day my 6 yr old gave me a note that said Mommy I hate you but I love you... She is going to be a wonderful teenager.

 

[2girlsmom]

My now 11 year old used to tell me she hated me, too. I would tell her "okay, I love you and want you to be happy, so come on, I'll take you to find a new mommy that you will like". Then she would cry and tell me she loved me really... it was just a way to express that she was angry or upset. She has since learned to rephrase her words. My kids both tell my dh that they love him, but they love me more... dh tends to get cranky with them if they make loud noises, etc. I am more laid back about that kinda stuff. He's learned to accept that he's not the most popular with the girls, though I am sure that it hurt at first when they would say it.

 

[emdav]

My daughter takes it a step further. Instead of telling me she doesn't like me, she says, "Mommy hates me." Ugh! That upsets me.

 

[Disney Doll]

If your kid doesn't like you, you're doing your job.

I don't have kids, but I have nieces, nephews and children of friends who think of me as an aunt. They all, at one time or another, have told me they hate me. My stock response is "it doesn't matter because I always love you, nomatter what".

 

[mill4023]

It's so common. Glad things are better this morning.

The other week my DD -9 was having a bit of a melt down and we were having a loud "discussion". After she slammed her door for like the third time I called out "I guess I'm not getting mother of the year!" She opened her door and screamed "You weren't even nominated!!" After I got done laughing we made up. I thought it was one of the wittiest things I had ever heard coming from her mouth.

That's awesome!

We've got 5 kids, so we hear "I HATE YOU!" at least a couple times a week. Our very emotional 8 yr old DD probably says it more than any of our other kids. But she's also the one who, at least once a day, tells me "I love you so much dad" and "You are the best dad I could ever have".

So now, when she tells me she hates me, I usually respond with "That's ok, because in an hour, I'll be the best dad in the world again."