I do believe this was the rudest thing anyone has ever said to me!

[Aisling]

Being in your 40's isn't "old", but it is middle aged.

Technically, numerically, 40 is middle-aged. But realistically, the 40's isn't what it used to be.

Life-style-wise, appearance-wise, and medically, the 40s are the new 30s , and so on.


If someone made a comment to me like that, I would've just started laughing really loud!

 

[KimOhio]

middle age I am so depressed now

 

[HollyJoy]

Ya know, some people just aren't nice. I think the reason is very clear as to why she was sitting all by herself! Don't let her rotten attitude and mean spirit get you down. What goes around, comes around.

 

[doxdogy]

Originally posted by gymnasticsmom68
I woulda asked who peed in her Wheaties!

 

[Robinrs]

First I don't understand why that was an insult....

I'm middle aged and PROUD.

I work in a independent senior citizen's home and at 48 I'm the age of most of their children. These people are so wise and so together, I so enjoy their company and their stories.

On the other hand the 20 somethings I work with are more like your lonely stranger.... sitting around proud of their youth and their immature nastiness...

This society puts so much stature on youth, unlike other societies, including the one I'm from, who revere age and wisdom. I spent my time as a youth, it was fine, but am now enjoying my life as a "middle aged" woman.

Find pride in your age, it's nothing to be ashamed of. If she said that to me she would've realized that SHE was the insulted one, not me. Sorry, but she'd STILL be reeling....

 

[Micca]

I heard about a woman who is 114 years old. I believe that makes middle age for women around 57

 

[Pixie_Dust]

Originally posted by Jeafl
WHEN DID 41 BECOME MIDDLE AGED??? I am so depressed.

At 42, it is kind of depressing to think that people half my age are in the work force and thinking I'm old and washed up (if they even give it a thought, which is unlikely.)

Didn't Frasier just say on the last episode that "Due to advances in medical science, 40 is the new 25"? However, in answer to when "DID" it become middle aged, the 40s have been considered middle aged all along, given that throughout the 20th century they approximated the midway point in the average life expectancy. I don't like to think about it, but facts are facts.

 

[poohandwendy]

I don't understand why people have such a problem with being/becoming 'middle aged'. Life is what you make of it. If you feel old...you are old. (I am almost 38 and I have loved every age I have been)

But, maybe that comes from the fact that I had some health problems a few years back? There is nothing like wondering about your mortality to put things into perspective.

 

[crazyforgoofy]

Originally posted by Robinrs
First I don't understand why that was an insult....

I'm middle aged and PROUD.

I work in a independent senior citizen's home and at 48 I'm the age of most of their children. These people are so wise and so together, I so enjoy their company and their stories.

On the other hand the 20 somethings I work with are more like your lonely stranger.... sitting around proud of their youth and their immature nastiness...

This society puts so much stature on youth, unlike other societies, including the one I'm from, who revere age and wisdom. I spent my time as a youth, it was fine, but am now enjoying my life as a "middle aged" woman.

Find pride in your age, it's nothing to be ashamed of. If she said that to me she would've realized that SHE was the insulted one, not me. Sorry, but she'd STILL be reeling....

Robin, you are one SMART woman!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by cheeringmom
I guess I'm in denial!! hehehehe

LOLOL! Been there!

 

[Kallison]

On 41 being middle aged -- I work with 13 year olds and 20 something teachers, I'm 42 definitely middle aged to them.

On maybe she was upset for not being invited over sooner - it is not your responsiblity to make sure everyone has a playdate and it was very nice of you to include her. She is an adult, she could very well have come over after game 2 or 3 and introduced herself.

When I worked at Princeton I had a group of ladies that I lunched with every day, I was 25, one was 38, one was 50 and one was 60. I don't think age defines friendship and I was the youngest who brought them all together from the different offices I had worked in.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by Sandy V.
Pin Wizard, you may very well be correct that she didn't really want to be approached in the first place. Hard to know here.

Either way, I think that the "middle aged" comment didn't have to be made, even if it is true. Like someone else said, it just sounds like she had her panties all in a twist and was being rude. Or at least, she could have chosen her words MUCH more carefully!

I'm 44 now, and to be honest, I've never really put ANY thought into whether I am "middle aged" until now. But I guess I am. I deal more now with my husband who thinks that at age 44 (like me), he's "old". Now THAT I strongly disagree with and am not afraid to tell him so!

Sandy

I agree she shouldn't have made that rude comment. She must be quite insensitive...in my book any way. And your husband is not old. LOL! Old to me is like 80. It's inching up! I have a friend whose husband turned 50 a few years ago. He was so bad on that day she couldn't deal with it.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by DISshopkeeper
And on the eventual middle-aged slap-in-the-face....

I started a new job and the boss told me I reminded her of someone and she just couldn't put her finger on who it was. Later in the night it came to her.... HER GRANDMOTHER!!!

ROFLMAO!!!!!! LOLOLOLOLOLOL!!

 

[Sandy V.]

Pin Wizard, that's what I'm afraid will happen when my husband turns 50 (like your friend's husband)!

Luckily, I've still got 6 years to get him into a better frame of mind!!

 

[Pin Wizard]

That's right...still 6 years till he hits it. No sense in worrying about it for 6 years. That's a waste. He thinks he's old at 44. Hmmm...might it be due to his career? I know we all start to worry about switching jobs and if we'll be able to find something else due to age. Could be lots of things.

 

[Sandy V.]

You do have something there about not being satisfied with his job. He also comes from a long family line of "worriers", and that certainly doesn't lessen the unnecessary (in my mind) contemplation!

He's an attorney; has done it for 20 years. It provides a very good living, but a highly stressful life at times. With 2 kids approaching college age (ages 16 and 14), we would like to get them through undergraduate degrees with little or no student loans, and then have him get out of the law business for good. We've got a plan in place; just need to raise those babies to young adults! I'm not in any rush, though - they're growing quickly enough as it is!

We'll get through it all!! You are very perceptive!

 

[Jeanny]

WOW, I guess I should borrow my Mom's walker if I'm considered "middle age"!! I'll be a half a century in a few years!

Someone mentioned maybe she was bent out of shape because it took until the 5th game to notice.... but who's "job" is it to look around each game and make sure every one has a chat buddy?? It was very nice of you to try to include her... but if she really wanted to be included, she would have sat closer to your group.

Don't worry about MissSnottyPants, she's not worth it ... oh, and my friends' Gram will be 105 in November

 

[Pin Wizard]

Sandy V. -- Sounds like the career can certainly be contributing. I don't know how people do the really high stress jobs! My piddly jobs were stressful enough. LOL! Burned out and went back to school. Now looking to go back to work...vicious cycle.

 

[Jeafl]

Part of the reason I took her comment as an insult was her tone of voice. The way she said "You middle aged women" sounded like we were the lowest form of life.

I never invited her over to sit with us before because she was always reading a book or magazine. Last night she was not, so I thought I would extend an invitation to her. I guess I won't be making that mistake again.

It is very interesting to hear what everyone's perception of "middle age" is. I still hold to my claim that I am in the prime of my life. I won't be middle aged for at least another 3 or 4 years.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Hey, Jill! You have a new tag! LOL!

Three or four years will FLY by!