I did do the right thing...right?

[jekajekalynn]

I had a bit of drama (somewhat good drama though). My ds7 just called from my dmil since he is spending the night , and he had some VERY interesting news concerning my neighbors children. He told me they were taken away from their rather shady mother and put in foster care. (I dont know how he found this out though)

I think I may have facilitated this IF it is true since I made a call to the child services a month ago when it was snowy and like 20 degrees out. I saw the kids (3 of em, no older then my ds7) out in the cold snow with NO coats on or winter wear. They were passing by my house and I asked them if there mother was home, they said yes but she locked the door.

The kids are really sweet but they have NO social interaction skills , and when they are home from school the wander the busy street. The cops are ALWAYS coming to their house too.. *sigh* I kinda feel bad if I did help this happen, but I feel good too cause I have seen there mom and she seemed ummm....rather shady...

I shouldnt feel guilty if this did happen, right?

 

[robinb]

Yes, you did the right thing to report that 3 children were locked outside their home in below freezing weather with no coats. Perhaps this will be a wake up call to the mother to get her life together.

 

[minniecarousel]

I think you're in the clear if the cops were always coming to their house.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Of course not, don't feel guilty. Anyone, no matter how dumb and ill equipped to raise a kid can produce one or several. She locked her kids out of the house in the cold? That would be terrible even if they did have on coats, do NOT feel guilty. You would have for sure felt guilty if one of the kids ended up seriously hurt or deceased and you had nothing.

 

[WheresTheLove]

I understand why you may feel a sense of guilt, but if you ask me, you did the right thing. The children may not understand it now, but as they grow up, I'm sure they'll appreciate the fact that someone was looking out for them and their best interest.

If anything, maybe this will be the motivation that their mom needs to get her act together and take better care of her children.

 

[Duckyiam71]

I had a bit of drama (somewhat good drama though). My ds7 just called from my dmil since he is spending the night , and he had some VERY interesting news concerning my neighbors children. He told me they were taken away from their rather shady mother and put in foster care. (I dont know how he found this out though)

I think I may have facilitated this IF it is true since I made a call to the child services a month ago when it was snowy and like 20 degrees out. I saw the kids (3 of em, no older then my ds7) out in the cold snow with NO coats on or winter wear. They were passing by my house and I asked them if there mother was home, they said yes but she locked the door.

The kids are really sweet but they have NO social interaction skills , and when they are home from school the wander the busy street. The cops are ALWAYS coming to their house too.. *sigh* I kinda feel bad if I did help this happen, but I feel good too cause I have seen there mom and she seemed ummm....rather shady...

I shouldnt feel guilty if this did happen, right?

If they were taken away, CPS must have found something really bad. I would be guilty on some levels but removing the children from a potentialy harmful environment definitely would outway any guilt that I would have. I would feel even more guilty if the police were over there for something worse like a death. I think you did the right thing. Many hugs and prayers to the children, they are going to need it.

 

[dislaney]

Don't feel guilty. It sounds like you definitely did the right thing for those kids.

 

[Sparx]

Kids aren't put into foster care for not having winter coats. Kids are put into foster care for much more serious issues. You absolutely did the right thing. Even if there was nothing more than neglect, you saved those children. Don't feel guilty, you did the right thing. I'm almost positive that there is something much more serious going on. DCS removes as the absolute last resort.

If you are ever in this position again, please make the same decision you made. If there is truly no abuse going on, DCS will leave the family alone. If there is abuse, you saved the children. There is no reason not to report suspected abuse.

 

[disykat]

I also wouldn't worry that all foster care is bad. I've seen some really good foster situations. I pray that these kids get in a good foster situation and that their mom straightens up!

 

[Disneycrazy!!]

You totally did the right thing!! My step daughter who we got custody of almost 4 years ago, was also taken from her mother. We tried for years to get social services involved but because we lived out of state, they wouldn't accept our complaints. My step daughter could have been removed sooner if someone would have gotten the nerve up to call and complain. She lived a sad sad life while with her mom. She watched her mom do drugs, have sex, left alone at night while mom partied. Sometimes her mom would take her to the parties, where they did drugs and drink and dance provacative. They didn't have running water, so they didn't bath often, they bathed with baby wipes or she would strip them down outside and hose them off with the neighbors waterhose. The nastiest thing was they used the bathroom in a bucket, that was never emptied and no toilet paper. The trailer they lived in had dog poop on the floors and holes in the floors and in the walls. The mom sold her clothes we would buyfor my SD, or return them to the store for money. She also sold her foodstamp money. Finally the mom got in trouble with the law and was in a wreck involving drugs, so children services FINALLY took the kids away and placed the children in custody of the fathers.

So please don't feel guilty! You helped those kids!!!

 

[PatsGirl]

Pat yourself on the back and know that you did the right thing. I detest people who look the other way when abuse or neglect is clearly going on

 

[dawn1620]

You did nothing wrong..I'm sure you were not the only person that made that call. This woman was going to lose those kids one way or another. Those children deserved better.