I can't work this girl out at all...what does your experience tell you?

[StuZioCardyni]

I am good friends with a girl who it seems has something of a thing for me, at least it seems that way...sometimes. We have days when she's chatty and flirty. Her body language is amazingly positive and she's very very tactile. And then there are times like last night, when she hardly talks, spends all her time on her phone, doesn't answer when I ask questions and is generally very, very stand offish. I happen to know she talks about me a lot when she's with other friends and on the good days there are really no other people who work as well together as me and her. But you just don't have a clue how she's going to be and it makes it so hard to relax. She's 21 so maybe it's an age thing but I would have really thought she would have got past all that...

I'm just a bit confused this morning, sorry if that's not all that much help. I've always been a pretty good judge of people and women but this one frazzles my mind lol

 

[teacups]

I am good friends with a girl who it seems has something of a thing for me, at least it seems that way...sometimes. We have days when she's chatty and flirty. Her body language is amazingly positive and she's very very tactile. And then there are times like last night, when she hardly talks, spends all her time on her phone, doesn't answer when I ask questions and is generally very, very stand offish. I happen to know she talks about me a lot when she's with other friends and on the good days there are really no other people who work as well together as me and her. But you just don't have a clue how she's going to be and it makes it so hard to relax. She's 21 so maybe it's an age thing but I would have really thought she would have got past all that...

I'm just a bit confused this morning, sorry if that's not all that much help. I've always been a pretty good judge of people and women but this one frazzles my mind lol

Have the two of you made it clear that you both have a "thing" for each other, are you actually dating... or are you still acting like friends? Maybe she's mad that you wont make a move?

 

[StuZioCardyni]

no we're not dating and to be honest it's very hard to know how I feel while she's being so inconsistant. If she stayed like she is when she's open and positive she's amazing, it's just this dark side...it's very hard to like her when she acts like that.

I think it's something to get over it's just a lot harder to say than do

 

[teacups]

Very few 21 year olds (at least the ones I know/knew) are famous for their stability and longevity. Give her 10 years and she'll know who she is.

 

[Serena]

How old are you? And if you are interested, just tell her. She could be playing games, like hard to get to get a reaction from you. Yes, it is possible she isn't interested and is just a touchy feely girl. But there is only one way to find out what is going on, and that is to ask.

 

[Aardvarks]

cough (hormones) cough

........................Aardvarks runs for the hills

 

[Serena]

cough (hormones) cough

........................Aardvarks runs for the hills

Why you!! I resemble that remark!

 

[AlleyKat]

We have days when she's chatty and flirty. Her body language is amazingly positive and she's very very tactile. And then there are times like last night, when she hardly talks, spends all her time on her phone, doesn't answer when I ask questions and is generally very, very stand offish.

Hormones!

 

[StuZioCardyni]

I'm 25...yeah I know I should ask her why she's acting like she is but to be honest I think she'd get very defensive, she would see she does it!

I would be interested if I could tell how she was going to be. But as it is it would be way to stressful.

The thing that confuses me is how positively she talks about me with her friends (so they tell me) if that's the case I don't see why this stand offish thing happens...last night it was boardering on being rude! Really strange

 

[StuZioCardyni]

haha damn those hormones lol...I did suspect, a lot of pain killers fell out her bag, maybe it was just a bad time for her

 

[Serena]

So, why do you like her?

If she's worth it, wait until she figures out how she feels or stops playing games, or whatever she's doing. Has she always been like this? How long have you known her?

 

[Serena]

haha damn those hormones lol...I did suspect, a lot of pain killers fell out her bag, maybe it was just a bad time for her

pain killers?

 

[StuZioCardyni]

she gets bad cramps when it's her time of the month...so i'm guessing last night might have been to do with that...it would explain the dreadful mood too.

We're known each other a while but we've only been close like we have for about 6 months or so

It just makes you doubt yourself after a while, that's the frustrating thing about it

 

[Serena]

Yes, it's scary isn't it when you care about someone.

 

[teacups]

Are you totally innocent? Did you do something to make her mad last night? I mean, that totally sounds like the cold shoulder to me. If not, you might want to consider she may just be like that. Can you deal with a moody person? Maybe some time apart would be good.

 

[StuZioCardyni]

yeah it is...oh well i think she has a lot of growing up to do...she was in a very long term relationship (since she was 15) and so I suppose in a lot of ways this is the first time she's ever been single as an adult and maybe she doesn't quite know how to deal with it

 

[teacups]

Good luck.

 

[StuZioCardyni]

I don't think I did...I cooked food, was interested in her day, I didnt say anything wrong as far as I know...She was fine for the first hour then suddenly she turned!

We'll see, I wouldn't want to be with someone that moody! ashame though because when she's nice she's actually really wonderful

 

[AlleyKat]

I wouldn't want to be with someone that moody! ashame though because when she's nice she's actually really wonderful

I can't help but think of the Nursery Rhyme "There Was a Little Girl, Who had a Little Curl".

 

[StuZioCardyni]

exactly allykat!! It's a shame you can't pick people you like...it just kinda happens!!