I can't stop crying (sorry long)

[Gretel]

Our other dog keeps looking for our dog Gretel that we had to put to sleep on Thursday.......the whole family is so sad and it is so hard watching the other animals in the house. The Vets agree we did the right thing but it is so hard. I havent been able to eat or sleep.....I just feel so helpless....it helps me to talk about it........our vet called yesterday and even he was crying, and said how lucky she was to have such a loving family...........It is hard knowing how to help our daughters thru it too, we have had her since our youngest was 5 and it is there first pet loss.....

 

[DawnCt1]

I am so sorry. I hope that I never have to make the decision you did. I know it must be hard even when you know its the correct choice. When its Chelsea's "time", I hope that God takes her in her sleep. My DB's dog was old and had been suffering with Cushings Disease for a long time. He needed to be carried up and down the steps to get in and out of the house. Not an easy task for a 140 pound Golden Retriever. He passed away in his sleep about 3 weeks ago. They were blessed that he went that way.

 

[Mishetta]

Oh...I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is more like losing a family member. Everyone needs to adjust to the loss now.....even the other pets. Very sad.

 

[eclectics]

I know it's a cliche, but time indeed does help. It's going to be a rough road for a while.

 

[FreshTressa]

What a terrible thing you are going through...

The loss of a pet is very traumatic...for you and for your other pets.

I'm sorry you have to go through this.

 

[crazee4mickey]

I totally understand the utter heartbreak you are going through and feel so sorry for you and your family.
We had our 15 year old basset hound put to sleep in August of 2004, we got him 2 months after our second son was born, all 4 of the kids could never remember a time he wasn't there for us--I cried uncontrollably for days and days.
I still tear up and get a huge lump in my throat when I think of him and the things he used to do like eat all the candy cames from the bottom of our Christmas tree so we had to put candy canes on only the top 3 feet of our tree, when we go to decorate the tree its hard. I know dogs aren't supposed to have chocolate but Buford loved getting his lips around chocolate--we used to hide Easter eggs for him and he would run around the house sniffing them out--it was adorable!
I just felt so very guilty even though we knew and the vet told us it was time to let him go, I felt and still do like I didn't do everything he trusted me with for him.........I understand completely how you feel.
(as I am typing I am crying just thinking about what you are going through and about how much we still miss him).
There is no easy way around it...it's very heartbreaking...some people just don't understand how much a beloved pet can touch a person's heart and soul--they are not simply a pet but truly a member of your family

 

[Pugdog007]

I'm so sorry. I'm feeling hopeless and helpless too right now. My 5 year old pug had an oral tumor removed yesterday and the vet believes it is an aggressive melanoma. We won't know for sure until the Pathology report comes back, but I just can't stop crying. She's just a baby and trusts me and I feel like we've failed her. I saw that her lip was puffy several months ago and thought she'd been stung by a bee or had gotten into something. It went down and then about 2 weeks ago puffed up again and I realized there was a tumor there. How could I not have seen that? I can't eat or sleep and can't stop crying and she's looking at me like, "what's wrong?"

May God bless you and comfort you and your family. Let's pray for one another, ok?

 

[MAKmom]

 

[THE HAT]

grief is one of the hardest things to go through in life, there is no set way to do it, and everyone will have their own way about it. grief comes from so much more then losing a person in your life. loss of a pet, is a tragic thing to go through. it will take time and that is the hardest part, you will have so many different emotions with it. guilt, sadness, laughing, crying etc. it is all part of the healing process. talking about it, and writing about it are all ways to cope. it will take some time for the other 4 legged family members to adjust. so hold them close, they can tell when you are upset, and want to help.
i will keep you all in my prayers, and thoughts!

 

[Gretel]

Pugdog....I know I can't stop crying and dont know how in the world I can go to work on Monday......sorry for your baby too....

 

[Gretel]

I feel like I let her down

 

[Pooh67_68]

 

[Dan Murphy]

's Gretel. It is tough, very, but recall the memories.

 

[kc10family]

I don't think of my dog as a pet, she is my four-legged daughter. In fact I have never thought of any of my four legged family members as pets. It is so hard to loose one. I will be thinking of you and your family and sending prayers and PD your way.

 

[Gretel]

Thanks everyone, it is the memories that are making me cry right now and making me laugh, I think I am angry also, thinking I didnt help her enough, and my daughters are devasted, one crys uncontrolably and the other quite but having her moments, same with my husband

 

[Moonmom]

We had Moondoggy before we had Journey, who we got as senior at age 12..and only had him for 2 years til his dear sweet body wore out; but afterward, for weeks Moondoggy would act as he were always waiting for him; like looking at his dish then looking up and behind him then at me.. as if to say..'where's his?".. or leaving the spot in front of fireplace empty.. that was Journey's favorite..til one day he just stood stared and then then laid across both spots..and let out the biggest sigh.
We lost Moondoggy just 20 days ago; we all miss him so much. I know that he was in pain; and I had the utmost faith and trust in his vet and that letting him go peacefully was the right thing..but I'd still give anything to have him back healthy again. What does help is talking about it.. keeping busy with regular things but also realizing that it's good and healthy to feel sad... it's natural to grieve.
People deal in different ways... my husband didn't want to deal with having to get rid of the food/excess blankets/stuff. I did it out of necessity.. I didn't want to get rid of his favorites; certainly not his "Go Greyhound" coat I made, not his favorite stuffies that smelled like him.. but we couldn't keep every quilt we'd accummulated over 8 years and every water dish. Funny, though, when I did finally break down in tears and insist that I couldn't do it all. and told DH that he was going to take those quilts to the no-kill shelfter NOW..he came back and realized that doing so made him feel that Moon would've wanted those dogs to have anything now that he didn't need it here and it was okay.
Take it one day at time... even an hour at time, if you have to. I picked up a book the other day to read and a bookmark fell out..and I laughed because it was one I'd made with the photos of the two of them; both with Santa at mall; and an hour later I cried; because I heated up chicken soup and without thinking poured some into a second bowl because he loved chicken noodle soup.
Let the kids write or draw memories if they want.. of good or fun times.. things that made them laugh... look at pictures and remember and be thankful for the time you did have... and hug Gretel!

 

[disneynutt1225]

It's so hard to lose someone - whether they be 4 legged or 2. I still tear up when I think about my DFi's first dog, Lady (we put her down 3 years ago). She was with him for 16 1/2 years, and it was so hard making the decision to put her down. There wasn't a dry eye in the office on that day.

My thoughts will be with you. Stay strong through this difficult time. It does get easier as time passes.

 

[Virgo10]

I feel like I let her down

NO! You didn't. You gave your dog the most unselfish loving gift you possibly could. You took away her pain at the expense of your own.

But I really do know how you feel. When The Old Cat died, I was bereft for days. I would wake up crying at night and really thought I was losing it. He was my guy and I devoted a great deal of time to him when he got older and then got sick. I too felt I let him down and it took me about a year to realize I did the correct thing.

I'm so sorry for this painful road you're traveling down right now but it will get easier even if there are a few bumps along the way.

Peace to you and your family.

 

[Mimi Q]

 

[Martha7]

The level of emotion that we feel when we lose our pets is what tells me that we were good owners and that we did our best for them! We never seem to have pets who pass on their own, (except for one hamster); we always seem to end up taking them to the vet to be euthanized. Remember what the word euthanisia means: it comes from the Latin, meaning "good death." I was always comforted that this option is available to our pets. I wish it could be available for some of us when our time comes! Although it's definitely hard on our children when they experience the loss of a pet for the first time, experts say that it's better that they deal with those feelings with a pet, before they have to know the death of a family member. After time, they'll see that they get over it, and can be reminded of that, when a person they know passes away. Since our pet's lives are so short compared to our own, everything happens on a faster track, and therefore, (in my opinion), the emotions that we experience; the joy of loving and living with them, and then the intense pain upon their loss, are especially strong! Just remind your kids, (and yourself) how much richer we are with these wonderful and beloved pets in our lives!