I can't - I can - I can't - ...

[SandraVB79]

I have a new trip coming up in October. It involves a cruise. A cruise involves a bikini. And since I spent way too much time eating at Disneyland Paris, the bikini involves a weight loss.
About 20-25 pounds. Which is not the end of the world. However... I can't hold on to my diet.

Last year, I went 3 weeks on a very strict diet, then went 3 weeks on vacation to the US and then 3 weeks in the diet again, and lost about 30 pounds. Then I broke up with the BF and I started eating comfort food again, so I'm back at start. I know it's posisble to loose about 20 pounds by the time I go on vacation, but it's so hard.

I changed jobs in the mean while, and at the new job it's very hard to eat the diet food at lunch. WHich means that I eat or regular lunch or I eat about nothing. If I eat regular lunch, I can't go back to diet in the evening. If I eat about nothin, I can't survive the afternoon, and must really keep myself away from the candy machine.
I start the diet, after a day I give up, two days later I start again, ...

I know I shouldn't complain too much, I'm only a little overweight, and it's more for esthetic reasons than for health reasons (although it never hurts to loose weight), but it depresses me that it seems I can't do this diet, compared to last year when it went so well. If something depresses me, I just start eating again

 

[eeyore45]

I think you know that the way to lose 25# and be Bikini ready - you will have to work at it - maybe join a gym or go on a restrictive calorie diet...

I've been at it so long, I've tried everything. The bottom line is working at it in a gym is the only way to tone up those muscles - and with a trainer!

Yes, you absolutely can do it at home, but you have to be discplined, something I lack!!

Good luck!

 

[ohMom]

Sandra to the WISH board!!

i feel your frustration, i have been struggling and yo-yo-ing about 15 lbs for the past 2 years. i often ask myself why i just can't get it together. there is always this stress, or that vacation....it never ends. for me I do best to just focus on each day, making healthy choices, making exercising a priority and routine in my week. the results will happen when we live it.

if you have 8 weeks until your vacation you can safely lose 15 lbs. maybe not the entire amount of your overall goal, but i bet you'll feel alot better shedding a good amount and then you'll have cause to jump back on the wagon when you get home

and i just have to ask, does a cruise have to involve a bikini??

 

[Tiger Lily 03]

I'm offering good WISHes as you struggle with the lifestyle issues. It is something that you need to do w/o using the "D" word. Consider that you need to eat healthy and move healthy for the rest of your life and the bikini-look may be a bonus.

If it were easy we'd all be there.

Never give up.

 

[SandraVB79]

Thanks for the support.

I'm afraid to say that I'm in the "I can't" phase right now. I have set Mondya as teh new "start"-day of the D-word, and I am preparing my gym-equipment at home. You know hometrainer, thing to do crunches, thing against flappy arms, ... The hometrainer came in handy to hang my purses, the crunch-thing is handy for my jeans, ... : I have to clean all that up, ebfore I can use it.
I also plan to print out a table, with for each day of the week the things I am supposed to do/ eat. Breakfast, lunch, dinner, exercise, an dthen every time I have done it right, I can check it. Oh, why do I need childish stuff like that.

It's not that I am that overweighted, compared to Americans I still look thin, so the bikini shouldn't be too much of a problem, but I just want to avoid my weight becoming a real problem.
OK, and I want to be able to ahve pictures in bikini. Bikini = vacation, lol!

Last year it was way easier to keep on with the D-word. It was warm and sunny and I had no problems eating like a rabbit.
Now it's cold, raining, ... I crave warm comfort-food.

But, Monday it will be. Then I won't be alone at home anymore (no additional cravings for more comfort food), the table will hang on the fridge, and I'll do my exercise and eat like a bunny!

 

[rlduvall]

It's not that I am that overweighted, compared to Americans I still look thin, so the bikini shouldn't be too much of a problem,

Ouch!!!!

 

[Tiger Lily 03]

Ok, first off. I'm going to have you thinking positive. Look at that title to your thread. You end it with I can't. I'm knowing that you can and you need to know this too. Please do...edit your first post so you can change the thread title to add one more at the end...I CAN!

Yes, ouch is right. We Americans are having a reputation aren't we.

Don't wait until Monday, do something, anything tomorrow! You CAN remember, You can!



PS--(It does seem like you've got a great idea with writing that plan. I find when I have my calendar of exercise goals that it really helps me stay on target. Also helps when I track my healthy eating choices to make sure I am getting the right amount and balance.)

 

[Green Tea]

I'm new on this board, so maybe this isn't the right thing to say, but....wear what you are comfortable in. Don't worry about the you are presenting to others. If you want to lose a few pounds, then do it. If that doesn't work out so well this time, then you can still have a great trip, bikini and all.

I'd say exercise is the best way to get the pounds off to stay. You definately have time to lose a few with a vigerous exercise program.

 

[Amy&Dan]

Well whatever program you decide to do, I would recommend its something that you can do for a lifetime. Because some crazy diet you can only go on for a few days or weeks isn't going to help, in the long run of life. Think of it as a lifestyle change not a diet. And definitely revisit the thought of looking at this from a health standpoint. Fluctuating weight (whether you're a "fat American" or just looking to be a bikini babe) is never healthy, regardless of how much your starting weight is. Maybe you have an unreal expectation of what you should look like. Women all over the world suffer from that. Good luck and be sensible, it will happen. Especially if you think you can.