MsDisney23
<font color=blue>Has cabin fever-induced dreams of
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I got up yesterday morning to find MIL not doing well at all! Her breathing was very bad and I could hear that she had what I call a bad rattle in her chest! I checked her feet and they where swollen, her toes where purple! She was white as a ghost as well. I knew she was is trouble. Sure enough she was filling up with fluids. Congestive Heart Failure.
The ambulance came and rushed her to the hospital. They put her in the trauma unit. Her other son and his wife went over to the hospital. My dh went over lastnight after a long day of work.
MIL also needed another blood transfusion. she is doing much better and thinks she is coming home today, I do not see it myself. I told dh lastnight that something has to be done, that I am also upset with his Mom. I kept asking her how she felt, etc. She would lie because she does not want to go to the Dr.'s etc. To make a long story short, I asked her on the phone yesterday if she knew that she was getting ill, and she said yes, and so on. Then she laughs like it is funny. Well it is not funny, she could have died. I told dh and his brother that it was a good thing that I had the sense enough to know tha it was just not a cold.
DH and BIL both said that she is the biggest part of the problem, as they know how she is. I told my dh lastnight, that Ihave busted my backside to help her for over a week now with "NO HELP".
I became a private/personal cook, nurse, maid, taxi service, secretary,, etc, and it is all gone out the window because she can not tell the truth. She could have died! I told dh that his Mom needs 24/7 care because she can take a turn wtihin a half hour. Everything now has to be done for her. She has just given up. I told dh that I am now tired physical and mental. I can no longer do this. I was in tears. I can not provide the care that his Mom needs. I told dh that I did my very best and took very good care of her, as he knows this. I had her up and walking etc, now she is back to being bed ridden!
I have a feeling that she will come back here to me when she gets out of the hospital, however dh and BIL know that they will have to make some kind of arrangements for her now. It just breaks my heart. I did call Hospice and they are going to go in and see her dr's and talk with her as well. Thanks everyone for letting me get this off my chest.
The ambulance came and rushed her to the hospital. They put her in the trauma unit. Her other son and his wife went over to the hospital. My dh went over lastnight after a long day of work.
MIL also needed another blood transfusion. she is doing much better and thinks she is coming home today, I do not see it myself. I told dh lastnight that something has to be done, that I am also upset with his Mom. I kept asking her how she felt, etc. She would lie because she does not want to go to the Dr.'s etc. To make a long story short, I asked her on the phone yesterday if she knew that she was getting ill, and she said yes, and so on. Then she laughs like it is funny. Well it is not funny, she could have died. I told dh and his brother that it was a good thing that I had the sense enough to know tha it was just not a cold.
DH and BIL both said that she is the biggest part of the problem, as they know how she is. I told my dh lastnight, that Ihave busted my backside to help her for over a week now with "NO HELP".
I became a private/personal cook, nurse, maid, taxi service, secretary,, etc, and it is all gone out the window because she can not tell the truth. She could have died! I told dh that his Mom needs 24/7 care because she can take a turn wtihin a half hour. Everything now has to be done for her. She has just given up. I told dh that I am now tired physical and mental. I can no longer do this. I was in tears. I can not provide the care that his Mom needs. I told dh that I did my very best and took very good care of her, as he knows this. I had her up and walking etc, now she is back to being bed ridden!
I have a feeling that she will come back here to me when she gets out of the hospital, however dh and BIL know that they will have to make some kind of arrangements for her now. It just breaks my heart. I did call Hospice and they are going to go in and see her dr's and talk with her as well. Thanks everyone for letting me get this off my chest.
's Kitty. If, as you have said over the past days, mom's days are likely few, and it is so difficult to care for her, especially with your own condition, hospice is the answer, and it is time. She and you continue to be in my prayers. 
