I am insane??

[DreamofDisney]

Help!! I need a sense check from you guys.

My ex-husband has just suggested we go on holiday together this year . It might be helpful to give you a bit of background. We have been apart for eight years and after six years of bickering and back biting have managed to become just good friends. We have 2 kids aged 10 and 11 and over the last year we have had a few days out and spent Christmas together.

He made his suggestion in front of the kids (who immediately started jumping around) so I have to give it serious consideration - I figure I have to agree and have narrowed the selection down to 2 options. Although he wants a beach holiday I think we should do something that involves plenty to do - so it's either Devon (so we can drive home if the going gets tough!) or Olrando (so there is lots to do and talk about!).

Am I mad to consider this???

 

[emily1982]

I think it's entriely up to you, maybe you could have some days together and some days appart, i think it's nice your even considering it, my parents won't even speak on the phone!

 

[snookhams]

I think emily1982's idea of days apart is a good idea, what is great is that you are even considering it. Would you stay in a hotel or a villa - personally if this was me I think maybe a hotel, at least then you would not be together at all times. Your kids come first and the fact that your relationship is relatively good is a good thing for your kids.

 

[natalielongstaff]

i think you should go for it.......and spend some time apart as well

 

[fizz13]

Hhhmmm only you can judge this one. If it was me I think I would consider it, but I would need to know that I had a bolthole and the option of space if needed, I think 2 rooms is an absolute must or a 3 bedroom villa, I would strangle my ex-H if he started messing with how I put things or my routine. Yes space would be very important on my agenda.

 

[carolfoy]

I agree with claire, i think its also important to make sure the kids know that you won't get back together again, it may send out very mixed messages and confuse them. orlando does seem like a really good option, for instance he could perhaps have a day at Kennedy with them while you shop and you could do a water park day with them while he golfs or something. Its great that you get on well, i wish my ex was a reasonable person but you can't have everything.

just a thought, I'd be very wary of WDW after nightfall too - far too romantic!

 

[mandymouse]

i think you should go for it.......and spend some time apart as well

I agree, if you get on, then why not give it a go - have fun

 

[jen_uk]

I agree you should go as long as the kids and him understand its just a holiday, as everyone else said make sure you sepnd time apart so that you don't drive each other mad.

 

[fatdave42]

Do not let him puch you into it, after all, that is why he told you with the kids around, and not talked to you first.

 

[DreamofDisney]

Thanks for all your advice. I think we will go for Orlando and set out ground rules before we go - I hadn't thought about Disney at night - definately give that a wide berth!