Husbands are bad planners

[Jasminesmommy]

My husband doesn't want me to make PS for our Sept trip. I am a little upset about it cause I know from last Sept how long the lines were. We had PS last year and he complained we were always running around to get there on time and we only did that 2 times and one of those was a last minute PS we made from the resort. I'm going to do it anways and not let him know.

 

[iwaseeyore]

My DW would disagree.

 

[kimwim8]

my husband is the opposite. I have to try to stop him from over-planning the whole trip. He looks at the park maps & says, ok...I'll run to this ride & get the Fast Passes and you guys go here & we'll meet up & get on this ride, then we can....

UGH! I do appreciate it after we've been in the park for 3 hours & have accomplished all of the major attractions, and then can leisurely see the rest of the park...

But PS's are so important! I would definitely make them. Tell him when you get there...oh by the way...we're eating at _____ tonight! He'll be happy, I'm sure!

 

[DisneyMomx7]

The first time we went my husband was complaining that I was making too many PS's and that he wanted to relax! So I didn't make as many as I would haved like (but did get the imprtant ones like CRT). Well it only took one trip for him to realized that with three small children we needed the PS's. So now I make two a day and if we change our mind we just cancel them. It's better to be safe than sorry.

 

[lissawynn]

On our honeymoon trip, I think I made too many PSs. I had gotten lots of advice from friends as to where we should eat, and we tried so many sit-down places.
We've now learned to try one or two new places and make a visit to our favorite (CG).
I'd rather spend most of my time in the parks, enjoying the attractions than running around to get from one PS to another.

 

[Kaycee]

My DH used to think I overplanned, but after he saw how the planning paid off on our trips, he just leaves me to plan all I want. He's definitely not a planner, so he tells me to just let him know where to show up and when. Since I love planning almost as much as the trip itself, it works out perfect!

I think you should definitely make some PS's for your trip. I don't make PS's for every meal, but I make quite a few, usually about one per day. I don't go over it much with DH, I just tell him when it's time to go eat!

 

[MPLsDad]

Originally posted by iwaseeyore
My DW would disagree.

Mine too!

 

[Jasminesmommy]

Ok then its my husband. Now he says if we can plan and relax then to go ahead. I think he is realising planning is half the fun.

 

[missypie]

Well, your DH must enjoy eating counter service the whole time!

 

[OneMoreTry]

My wife thinks I plan too much. She never plans more than ten minutes in advance -- if that far.

Actually, I think she secretly enjoys the fruits of my planning but won't admit it.

I made twelve PS for our trip next week. We will surely cancel some, but we've got them if we want them. If they don't work out we'll do counter service or just substitute Mickey Bars or Beaver Tails for a meal.

Definitely make the PS. Don't burden your husband with the plans yet. Wait until that morning and then discuss whether you should keep the ressie or cancel.

 

[4greatboys]

My dh is not a bad planner, in fact he is not a planner at all I do all the planning but I love it. Its fun for me. If I were you I would plan 1 ps a day that way you can have 1 nice site down meal and the rest you can just wing it. Maybe that way he wont be stressed out about the planning.

 

[travelitis]

Plan all the PS's you want and just keep it quiet.

Now, having said that, I will say that my dh thought I was over doing it on one trip, but I emphasized that benefits: no penalty so you're out nothing; have 1 place you know you can eat; don't have to make a decision if tired; less of a wait. Maybe this is more about how you present the whole PS idea to him. I would certainly remind him that 1 of the 2 PS's was made last-minute from the resort. Your dh sounds like mine. Sometimes the truth gets distorted and exagerrated. My dh would definitely take these 2 rushed PS's and say "all the time", but I won't let him get away with that. I will call him on those, remind him of the exact facts, (How many meals total did you eat during that trip? How many had PS's? How many were made in advance?) and force him back into reality. One final question to ask him is: "Remember how long the wait was without a PS?"

The bottom line on PS's is they save time, and we pay for every minute we spend at WDW. Why spend all that money on transportation, tickets, and hotel then throw part of it away waiting in line to eat, when you can make a no-obligation PS and save that precious time? Does anyone go to WDW to stand in long lines? You can do that at Walmart.

It never hurts to wear something sexy when you make your case.

 

[kguenther]

4greatboys,
That is hilarious! My hubby is the same way--not a planning bone in his body. However, I also enjoy the planning, and he just relaxes and lets me lead him around.

I get the joy of planning and seeing the fruits of my labor, and although he is oblivious to how much I do, he enjoys being able to relax!

 

[Cailin'sMom]

I am definitely the planner in our family. My DH is the type who likes to do everything spontaneously. However, he likes for me to do the planning.

In fact for our December trip, he told me to decide where I wanted us to eat and all the fun things for DD to do and he would go along. I have asked him to look at a few of the menus and he has given slight input.

He voted yes for Cindy's breakfast, but no for dinner there. (Princesses would not be his first choice, however, he knows of DD's love of "Rella" so he will not deny her this...he actually has a lot of the dialogue and most of the songs from Cinderella memorized since she watches it so much.)

I must say that he is pretty laid back about most things. In fact, the only request he made is a return trip to Coral Reef, because he thinks that DD will like the aquarium. (She is really into animals and fish at this point and I might add that Finding Nemo is another favorite).

 

[Castillo Mom]

My DH likes to be spontaneous. His thought was that we should just go to the parks and decide what we want to eat then or eat off site. We're staying on site and I don't think he realizes how self encompassed WDW is. He also doesn't realize how popular some of the restaurants are and that you can't just walk up and ask for a table and expect to get one without a wait or get one at all for that matter. I think he's coming around to the idea a little because he gave me a wake up call twice this week so that I'd get up in time to make that all important call to WDW Dining to make a PS. We're on the West coast, so getting up at 3:30 a.m. isn't easy. I thought it was really sweet that he did that and I was very surprised. I know he'll be glad I did all of the planning once we get there.

 

[luvmarypoppins]

Make the PS to your hearts content. I am sure your dh will thank you later. I would never let my dh plan anything but I do ask his opinion. He says make sure we eat at a buffet, make sure we eat in norway and I dont want to eat anywhere where the people will involve me with the meal a.k.a. he NEVER wants to go to whispering canyon again, would never step foot in prime time etc. My family complains sometimes during the trip, like we have to go there and eat etc. But when the vacation is over they are very grateful for all the planning I did. Hope your trip goes well.

 

[JKanownik]

My DH was so great throughout the entire planning process and we had the best trip because of it.

We were there for 7 days and had 1 PS scheduled for each day. Well, he decided he wanted to add 2 more at the last minute. Since we were only going to be at the parks 5 out of the 7 days, I felt that one a day was plenty. Besides, I wanted to be sure that we would get everything done that we wanted to do and if you are running to a PS every few hours much time can be wasted. After much convincing on his part, he finally talked me into it and I'm glad he did. Not only were we able to do everything we wanted several times, but we also got to relax and enjoy 2 more great meals.

While we were in WDW, he would get out the park maps every night and circle the attractions we wanted to do the next day and cross off the things we wanted to skip. This helped immensely, because we already knew what our plan was before we reached the park and we wasted very little time trying to figure out where to go or what to do next.

I'm really glad he takes such an active role in planning. It was so much fun to share the experience with him.

 

[MrsJ Henry]

My husband is NOT a planner but realizes how much fun it is for me and always thanks me in the end. He likes that I make the plans while asking for some input from him.
My husband is such a NON planner that I think I'm going to have to step in and help him with a fishing trip that he is going on with his friend.
If you want to see something funny, you should see these two guys trying to plan a simple weekend fishing trip. I have no idea what would happen if I ever let him try to plan a trip to WDW!!!!!

 

[jimmiej]

Originally posted by iwaseeyore
My DW would disagree.

mine too.

 

[Micca]

DW mocks me for planning too much. I have cut way back on the planning over the years, but it has taken many WDW trips Although I am a recovering park commando/planner, there is still one thing I would advise fellow travelers(especially those with kids): Nothing is worse than having tired/hungry tourists at WDW facing the prospect of a long wait for food. Make the PS, if you can't make it, call & cancel