Huge fallout with neighbor - NEW Update post #129!

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

how long have they been in your neighborhood? I wonder if they just keep doing this - making a fool of himself, blaming others and moving/losing his job!? - those poor kids!

Anyway, I am glad your school is handling so well - and good riddance to them - hope they are gone soon!

 

[ChrisnSteph]

how long have they been in your neighborhood? I wonder if they just keep doing this - making a fool of himself, blaming others and moving/losing his job!? - those poor kids!

Almost 6 months -they moved here the same time we did.

 

[golfgal]

Yahoo for you if they move, so sorry for their new neighbors. Their poor kids! What an a$$.

 

[minniecarousel]

Well - that would be nice: if they moved!

Hang in there.

 

[tiggersmom2]

Here's a new update! The school sent the district sheriff liason over to Randy's house today. According to the officer, when he went over there Randy and his wife were fighting over who was going to do the talking, and he said he almost had to file a "415" on them (domestic dispute)! Of course, like I knew he would, Randy blamed everything on us, and our daughter. He also denied ever confronting Hayley after school. The officer said if we can locate that witness who had seen everything, he'll go back and confront Randy about lying about it. He said that he spoke to our daughter and finds her very credible, and if Randy confronts her again he'll be arrested. We have an incident number, and it was filed as a domestic dispute. The great news is that Randy told the officer that they've contacted a realtor and their house will have a for sale sign on it next week. He went on to say that he and his family hate this town and "people like us" are the reason why. I really hope it's true and they're going to leave, then my daughter can feel safe again. Anyhow, just thought I'd update y'all!

YEAH BABY!!!! Crack open the beer and let's celebrate!

 

[darrose]

Please update us next week as soon as the for sale sign goes up so we all can celebrate with you.

 

[mtblujeans]

....He went on to say that he and his family hate this town and "people like us" are the reason why. I really hope it's true and they're going to leave, then my daughter can feel safe again. Anyhow, just thought I'd update y'all!

People like you? People who care about their children's safety and happiness!? Well, how the heck dare you be such great parents!!??!! We're just glad to have you in the DIS neighborhood!

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

wow - who can afford to move that often - he is going to run them into the ground financially as well as all the other damage he is causing!!! So sad!

 

[ChrisnSteph]

Please update us next week as soon as the for sale sign goes up so we all can celebrate with you.

Anyone wanna buy a nice two-story house at the end of a cul-de-sac in southern California??? Please???

 

[zalansky]

WOO HOOO.....see ya freak o' nature!

Let's see if he follows through on his promises, or wait, is that a threat to move?

 

[mickeyfan2]

His moving is the best outcome you could get. I hope he does sell. I wonder how often they have to move?

 

[mum4jenn]

I would still be very careful though. If there is still a neighbor that speaks to him they need to get an address of where they move to. If they do not move very far he could still try something and think he could not get caught. Don't want to scare you but if he is this crazy anything is possible.

 

[laura001]

I don't think so. She tends to stay in the background, and you hardly ever see her. Randy is the one who always answers the door, and at this point I won't step one foot near his property. I could only hope for him to move, but this is a new development and we all just moved here in August! I wonder if there's a way to find out if this guy has record for anything. I tried calling our non-emergency police line and I kept getting recordings. My stomach is so tied up in knots over this, and I feel bad for my dd. Randy has made "buddy buddy" with a guy and his family at the end of our street, and their girls have been pretty mean to Hayley lately. I'm afraid they're all going to gang up on her and make the situation even worse. My dh says he wants to go down and talk to them and let them know how unstable Randy is, but I don't know if that a good idea, since they're friends. We love the rest of our neighbors, and this is such a great neighborhood. I can't believe we live three doors down from a raving lunatic.

His wife stays in the background because he displays all signs of an abuser and a bully with absolutely NO self esteem of his own. She is probably terrified and that is why she stays in the background

 

[laura001]

Actually, I just read the rest of the thread, this guy is a nut job....almost as bad as my neighbour. Without going into detail because that would take me all night to write, I just wanted to say that I feel for you and your family. When something like this happens it can take away all of your energy and consume your life, what a terrible feeling. I hope all this works out for you, oh, and by the way, when his house is sold could you send the "for sale" sign to my neighbour?

 

[lookingforward]

I just finished reading this thread and I am soooo sorry this is happening to you and your daughter. I work as a victims advocate at a police department and I have to commend you and your husband. You both have acted with reason, maturity and great concern. You must be wonderful parents!

This Randy fellow does indeed sound like someone who has a personality disorder. He sounds paranoid. Bottom line is he probably has been this way for a long time. I suspect this is why he stays home, he can't interact with society in a normal way. I would recommend that you pull a criminal history on him (you can do this online for a nominal fee). You can also pull local police reports (they are public record). I would bet money that he has a criminal history (thus the "independent" employment) Get a good idea about what he is capable of. Also, safety plan with your daughter and consider purchasing her a little cell phone that has a 911 button, just in case he confronts her again.

Hopefully he will move but until then make sure you document EVERYTHING he does or says. It might be a good idea for the homeowners association to meet and document incidents as well. It sounds like others have had problems with Mr. Crazy too. I don't suspect he will have many, if any, friends as time goes on.

Good thing that the school and authorities are aware, they will continue to assist you. I hope this guy moves or calms down. Keep us informed, my thoughts are with you!

 

[RitaZ.]

So, Randi is full of "hot air", how typical of men that bully women. I hope they do move, but I feel for his daughter, what a terrible role model for her.

 

[kilee]

This whole ordeal is awful. I really hope they do move.

 

[scoutsmom99]

Thanks for keeping us updated! I hope that he gets that for sale sign out pronto!!!

 

[jbdreamer]

Again I am so glad the school is standing up for your family. Hopefuly they can still find that witness. And what great news to hear your neighbor may be moving. Let's hope it's true.

 

[SamIAm21]

Well I hope he does move! Good riddance to old rubbish I say! Just makes me wonder how many times he and his family (and poor wife) have had to move because of his behavior. I wouldn't be surprised if he moved to your neighborhood because of the hostilities he caused in his old neighborhood. I know you mentioned going back to his old neighborhood to talk with the people there. You may find this is a very old pattern for him.

Either way. I hope he does put the house up for sale and I hope he does it soon.

Best of luck ChrisnSteph!!