Hubby doesn't want to go back :(

[budbeerlady]

I go with out him. I find other victims, my mother in law, cousin and her 4 kids, friends, anyone I can beg, borrow or steal!

(Really, I have shared a hotel room with my mother in law for the week just to be at Disney.)

 

[PinkRhombus]

As a kid, we did a lot of the same stuff over and over again...and I really wish there would have been some variety in there.

I don't like Disney enough to go every year, but I DO love to travel.

We will try to go every other year just because of the ability of the kids to do more than before.

But there is SO much more of our country and world to experience. I want my kids well rounded.

 

[livie1205]

That is why my dh is the BEST! He loves wdw as much as I do and so do the kids! When I met my dh he had only went one time with his ex wife and since they had a bad marriage of course he had a bad time so did not go back...well when we were dating I took him,his son and my son to wdw for 4 days and everyone had a BLAST! Then he started to notice all the good deals I could get so now it is not where are we going it is "when are we going back to wdw?" he tells me all the time he is happy that I made him learn how to go on a family vacation because that one trip with his ex had made him stay clear of family trips.....we had been together 6 months when we went and now 7 yrs later we have a great time every time we go!

 

[okeydokey]

I see it! He is an equal member of the family. BUT....doesn't help my feelings any!! Guess I am just being a brat!
I guess he just wasn't bitten by the Disney bug like I was!!

Not everybody is, and since he is a partner you need to take his wants into consideration also. He suggested a compromise that is reasonable. Pensacola this year, Disney next year.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

I think you should ask your husband why he doesn't want to go. Maybe there is other things he wants to spend the money on.

I know every time we we spend a lot of money on vacation, a little part of me somewhere says "well, that could have bought our daughter a professional grade French Horn...".

 

[WishMom09]

But the crazy thing is that we go to the beach EVERY summer!!
We have all our 15 married years! And only been to Disney twice!
(2002 and 2009)
Oh well!
The battle isn't over.....

 

[Luvchefmic]

Better to leave someone home that doesn't want to be there then be there with someone that would rather stay home

 

[Suzanna1973]

Being AP and DVC.. there will be minimal other costs.. and YES I WILL GO in 2 seconds without him. If I can get the extra reward points, and get in using points we have. I WISH I HAD A FD PIN That would make it even better.

You have DVC and can still use a Free Dining pin code? Have you done that before? That is the main reason I have yet to purchase DVC because I was told no more FD Pin codes.

 

[monorailsilver]

Well we went in 2008 & we were on the every 3 year plan so our next trip was going to be in 2011.

But after 2008, my dh said 4 years & I said OK because I figure I will make it a longer trip (like 10-14 days).

Now that Fantasyland is being redone, he said we have to wait until 2013.

It is killing me but I know I would be upset if we went in 2012 & there is FL not done & me wanting to see it ASAP.

Plus we had water in the basement & the cost of tile to redo it is a Disney trip. And I have that much longer I can save for the trip now.

 

[3lilpiggies]

My husband is also a Disney hater. I am agonizing big time over whether or not to go without him. As much as he gets on my nerves complaining about how hot it is or how expensive everything is, both I and the kids would rather he be there. Then he says we could still go this summer but not on a 10 day trip maybe more like 3 or 4. But I dont like that idea either. Maybe I am just selfish because I feel like if I cant do everything then whats the point of going?

 

[tami82]

I too say go without him. For many years i have taken my kids on mini trips throughout the year without DH. My oldest i started taking her on trips when she was around 4 and is now 18. My other two kids also started taking them when they were babies. I never drove all the way to FL from NJ but if he said i could go without him i would. We spent alot of our vacation last year at Disney seperated between the kids because who didnt like one park, etc.... then again he did tell you you can go back next year so i dont know if i would be too mad, just upset. Try to make another trip somewhere else that you can have fun. I have been to many places and have had great times, its always nice to try something new. I know getting the pin for the free dining is a big thing so you have the right to be upset, its just bad timing

 

[ToddyLu]

DH loves Disney once a year...but I am obsessed. My 18-19 hours of Disney music and the DIS help me get throught the bleak months of waiting for the trip. In a month or so...leave a Pass Porter or some other Disney info in the bathroom....for reading purposes of course. Maybe that will get him. But, he does seem like a good guy and I would just wait it out with him. DH and I joined DVC last year and he now looks forward to the trips a couple of months ahead. We are going in Dec and I already have my spreadsheet ready to go. Buy a CD for yourself on line and load it in to an Ipod--even a cheap shuffle and listen to it at night. It will really help. Of course getting a fix on the DIS is my daily crack.

 

[MacFam4]

I'm pretty sure I will have to resort to going to Disney without my hubby too. I've already made one trip without him (my boys and my parents came along). We're leaving for our 4th trip next month , but I think this will be our last trip for quite some time. I don't think I can stay away for literally years, so I foresee me and my youngest taking a couple mini trips alone.

Sometimes you've just gotta feed that craving

 

[GaSleepingBeautyFan]

Ask him what he had in mind for a vacation this summer. If it's reasonable for you to do it, I'd do what he wants and save Disney for next year.

It's not what you want but you may find that you all have a good time.

My DH only wants to go once every 3 years. I managed to drag him there several times last year and am again over Memorial Weekend this year because DS is going to be playing his trombone with his band there.

After this year, he says he wants to wait another 3 years before going again. He's not a big Disney Fan. He just puts up with it. That's ok, it's good for us to try new places.

I know I'll be doing a few solo trips to get my Disney fix.

 

[cheshireqt]

I feel your pain. If you look down you will see there is no countdown clock in my siggie
But hope springs eternal! Trying to find a way to get DH to agree to a vacation in FL and I know he is eager to see HP at Universal soooo....as long as we are already there...and if there is free dining at the end of Aug, something he loves....Mwahahaha

 

[cm8]

]Dump Him! Kick him to the curb! Clearly something is very very wrong with him.[/B]

 

[iheartdisney]

No second thoughts GO if you want to GO! You will be so disappointed and even resent him. Live your life if you have the $$.. THEN GO! Don't look back.

That is so so sad! RESENTMENT?
One day my DH and I were discussing something, and he told me, "It doesn't matter what I say, because you'll just do what you want anyway." I realized how childish I was being, and how that might make him feel. I LOVE my husband, and hate to think that I made him feel that his opinion doesn't matter, or to feel like he doesn't have a voice in our family. What kind of example did that set to our children? (future Man and Women) Since that discussion 3 years ago, I have done alot of growing up.
And let me tell you, the 8 hours from Pesacola is a long, long haul. Its not just a hop, skip and jump. It is exhausting (especially on the way back!)
I've gone without DH, but because he can't take leave whenever he wants. Those trips have been thier vacations with Meme, as my mom always came out from *Pensacola* and split the cost with me.

 

[WishMom09]

Just wanted to give you an update! I feel really bad for trying to pressure him into changing his mind....and realize how childish I was being...and ungreatful....since we are taking a week long vacation to the beach....not like we weren't going anywhere!
I have decided to count my blessings and be thankful we can afford to go on vacation at all!!
Also I really want to see Disney at Christmas time....so maybe I can encourage that!!
If not he has agreed to go next year!
Thanks for your opinions! (some were good...some were a little much )

 

[ut*disney]

Dump Him! Kick him to the curb! Clearly something is very very wrong with him.

Here is some pixie dust. Maybe it will change him into a Disney lover.



I would go without him. I couldn't imagine my husband saying enough with Disney.