How would you respond? BE HONEST!

[always quiet]

I had a "situation" with a co-worker. Before I reveal the final outcome of this, I would like everyone's honest opinion.

I received an E-card in the mail last evening. It was from a co-worker. It begins with a little red bird, telling me a secret. The secret is that someone "likes" me "really LIKES likes me with a capital L". At the end of this card, written in all lower case is "so what do you think?".

Please tell me what you would think at this point. I will return a bit later with the outcome of this.

Thanks.........and remember, be HONEST!

 

[LoraJ]

Are you single?

I would guess that the person who sent you the card really likes you.

 

[Alice's Mom]

Not sure, are you married, if so I would respond with that information and nip it in the bud.

And if you aren't married an e-card like that seems a little immature, but maybe thats their personality, do you have a thing for them??

 

[always quiet]

Definitely married....will be 18 yrs in Nov.

 

[Cindyluwho]

I think I need to know more info before I chime in with my thoughts. How old are you? Are you married, single, engaged? Do you know who it's from and how old are they?

 

[va32h]

It sounds like you have a 12 year old for a co-worker!

 

[babytrees]

Seems to be immature...something middle schoolers might send.

I would probably email them back telling them thanks for the info and drop it.
Unless of course you "like" them back and then go for it.

edited to add: I just the answer to the married question. Unless it's your husband that's your co worker. Let it drop. Don't mention it at all.

 

[helenabear]

I'd either ignore it or respond saying I'm married.

At least that's what I do when I get IMs from people like that (strangers). It always just depends on my mood

 

[always quiet]

Ok..now for a bit more info. I am 41, married..........not sure this person's age, but I know they are married..........and here was the kicker....this person is also a woman (FYI........so am I!!!)

 

[Mandabella]

Knowing your marital status, I say nip it in the bud and firmly/politely inform that person you are not available.

 

[julia & nicks mom]

was it your co-worker saying he liked you or that they knew someone who did

it could be your DH putting a little romance into your life!!

I would respond - although I am flattered - I am very happily married and leave it at that

ETA: we must have posted at the same time - what does your DH say - maybe he is setting this all up

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

are you SURE they even sent it? At my old job, some co-workers would get on someone's email when they went to lunch or on break and send emails that LOOKED like it came from them but didn't.

Could it have been a joke?

 

[jiminyC_fan]

I say OH-OH!

 

[Evil Genius]

Maybe this woman only wants to be friends?? I don't really see this as a sexual thing.

 

[luvflorida]

Funny that you posted this! I know the e-card you're talking about. My DD15 sent it recently to her older sister, who is 22 and attending grad school across country. She showed it to me and I thought it was really cute.

Now of course, they're sisters, not co-workers, and my daughter is a teen, not an adult. I also don't think it had the words, "so what do you think" at the bottom, so I'm guessing your co-worker added that herself.

If you and the co-worker are really good friends, I guess it could be that she just thought it was cute. If it's someone you don't really know, I would think it was a bit strange. I would probably just ignore it.

 

[U2_rocks]

Honestly? If it wasn't addressed to me by name in the card, I would think it was an error - she sent it to the wrong e-mail address or something. Not sure how I'd find out the truth though - I'd have to wait for the right time to bring it up. Then if she said I was the right recipient .... well, my jaw would be on the floor ... after that, who knows? How do you deal with something like that? Eeek!!

 

[always quiet]

The words at the bottom were added by her (I double checked on the card site). Also, it WAS sent by her to me. I have only been at this job since early March.

Can anyone imagine my reaction last night??!!

 

[robinb]

If you're single and don't mind an office romance, then I think it's OK as long as the co-worker is not your boss. The co-worker probably wouldn't have opened themselves up to you if they didn't think you were at least a little bit receptive. If you're not OK with an office romance (or you're not single) and the co-worker is not your boss, then I would thank them but tell them you are not interested. If the co-worker is your boss, that's sexual harassment in my book.

ETA: I just saw that you were married. I would tell the co-worker "Thank you for the card, but you do know that I'm married don't you?". I wouldn't be able to just "drop it" like some have suggested. FWIW, I don't see what the co-worker's gender has to do with anything. Either the person is coming on to you or they are not.

 

[kimmikayb]

Could it be someone just trying to be friendly? Cheer you up? Give you a spring time hello?

 

[inaminute]

It may have been sent accidentally. Maybe she received it and wants your opinion about what it means. Maybe she just wants to be friends. Maybe she's hoping for more.

My honest response would be to ask the co-worker what it was all about. That way you'll know for sure. You can then take the opportunity to let her know your feelings about receiving it.