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There are 12 kids on our block. Our neighbor has 2 boys , 10 and 9.
All of them get along fine except those 2. The oldest one is constantly starting fights and can not get along with anyone.
My Ds-12 decided a few years ago that he did not want to play with him because he was mean. Kicking people in the privates if he did not get in the way. The neighbor boy starts fights and will tell his mom if the other kids are not listening to him or giving him what he wants.
Last summer, he was hitting a neighbor girl with a bat and had the police called on him.The mother blamed the girl, even though her mom was sitting on the porch and stopped it.
I have told my kids not to play with him and ignore him. My son is getting more and more upset by him. The neighor boy was throwing rocks at our dog( I did not see- but there was rocked all over our driveway ). We have a 7 ft. privacy fence, so they had to be thrown over the fence.
The mother has two set of rules. Her kids and others. We have told our kids to just be polite to her. I know my kids are not angels and will say something if they feel wronged. they have come inside many times upset because she reprimanded them in some way. She does not like anyone to disrespect her. I tell them just to ignore her.
Neither one of my kids play with them. I do not let them play on their lawn, in their backyard, etc.
Lately, they have been playing soccer and baseball across our driveway into our front yard. I feel like a old crab since I do not want them playing in my yard. They like to use my car as a back stop. I have asked them many times not to play there. So, now I hear balls hitting the side of my house, side door, and garage.
I have been in the backyard when they yell not nice things to the kids playing in our backyard. I have let them come over in the past where I can monitor them. I usually send him home for fighting.
One day, my DS let him come in a play. He had a friend coming over and told the neighbor boy he had to go home when the friend got there. When the friend got there, the Nboy did not want to go home. My Ds told him it was time to go. The Nboy was screaming at my Ds that he did not need to listen to him. He did not have to go home. I told him it was time to leave. A few minutes later, the mom called me yelling at me that her son came home crying
because my DS did not want to play anymore and why would I let this happen. Our friends could not believe it. They were amazed since the Nboy was fine when he left here.
Tonight, my DS had a different friend over. They were swimming . My DD came in the house and told me my neighbor wanted to talk with me. Apparently, DS friend made a funny face at her because she asked them not to squirt the trampoline with water guns. She was upset.
I spoke with the boys and they said that they were squirting them over the fence because the neighbors were throwing large mud balls at them. There was mud all over the driveway along with mud balls golf ball to softball size.
I went back to the fence and told her what I found out. She did not care that
her kids were throwing mud , just that my DS friend made a face at her. She said she asked them not to squirt the Trampoline. The Nboys were on there with there squirt guns.
She said that she did not want to get into it with me. She would not put up with disrespect. I told her that her kids did not respect me. I asked her why she did not come over herself and had yelled for DD. She said she did not want to disturb us if we had company. So, instead she yelled it from her back porch about 20 ft away from me. ( We have a section of the fence that is a gate to access next to our garage). Everything that I had tried to set aside came out- how her kids throw balls, speak to the other kids, her different set of rules. Again, she told me she did not want to get into it with me.
I do not want to fight with my neighbor, but I am sick of it. The neighbor(80 yr old couple) on the other side of me calls him "Demon Boy". He has gone into their backyard and ran over all there flower bushes on his bike. One was 4 ft high. He said he thought it was a dandelion.
Any suggestion would be terrific. We use to invite them/ be invited to parties at each other houses. We stopped that a few years ago. It was just too much drama. We now occasionally talk in the front yard.
All of them get along fine except those 2. The oldest one is constantly starting fights and can not get along with anyone.
My Ds-12 decided a few years ago that he did not want to play with him because he was mean. Kicking people in the privates if he did not get in the way. The neighbor boy starts fights and will tell his mom if the other kids are not listening to him or giving him what he wants.
Last summer, he was hitting a neighbor girl with a bat and had the police called on him.The mother blamed the girl, even though her mom was sitting on the porch and stopped it.
I have told my kids not to play with him and ignore him. My son is getting more and more upset by him. The neighor boy was throwing rocks at our dog( I did not see- but there was rocked all over our driveway ). We have a 7 ft. privacy fence, so they had to be thrown over the fence.
The mother has two set of rules. Her kids and others. We have told our kids to just be polite to her. I know my kids are not angels and will say something if they feel wronged. they have come inside many times upset because she reprimanded them in some way. She does not like anyone to disrespect her. I tell them just to ignore her.
Neither one of my kids play with them. I do not let them play on their lawn, in their backyard, etc.
Lately, they have been playing soccer and baseball across our driveway into our front yard. I feel like a old crab since I do not want them playing in my yard. They like to use my car as a back stop. I have asked them many times not to play there. So, now I hear balls hitting the side of my house, side door, and garage.
I have been in the backyard when they yell not nice things to the kids playing in our backyard. I have let them come over in the past where I can monitor them. I usually send him home for fighting.
One day, my DS let him come in a play. He had a friend coming over and told the neighbor boy he had to go home when the friend got there. When the friend got there, the Nboy did not want to go home. My Ds told him it was time to go. The Nboy was screaming at my Ds that he did not need to listen to him. He did not have to go home. I told him it was time to leave. A few minutes later, the mom called me yelling at me that her son came home crying
because my DS did not want to play anymore and why would I let this happen. Our friends could not believe it. They were amazed since the Nboy was fine when he left here.
Tonight, my DS had a different friend over. They were swimming . My DD came in the house and told me my neighbor wanted to talk with me. Apparently, DS friend made a funny face at her because she asked them not to squirt the trampoline with water guns. She was upset.
I spoke with the boys and they said that they were squirting them over the fence because the neighbors were throwing large mud balls at them. There was mud all over the driveway along with mud balls golf ball to softball size.
I went back to the fence and told her what I found out. She did not care that
her kids were throwing mud , just that my DS friend made a face at her. She said she asked them not to squirt the Trampoline. The Nboys were on there with there squirt guns.
She said that she did not want to get into it with me. She would not put up with disrespect. I told her that her kids did not respect me. I asked her why she did not come over herself and had yelled for DD. She said she did not want to disturb us if we had company. So, instead she yelled it from her back porch about 20 ft away from me. ( We have a section of the fence that is a gate to access next to our garage). Everything that I had tried to set aside came out- how her kids throw balls, speak to the other kids, her different set of rules. Again, she told me she did not want to get into it with me.
I do not want to fight with my neighbor, but I am sick of it. The neighbor(80 yr old couple) on the other side of me calls him "Demon Boy". He has gone into their backyard and ran over all there flower bushes on his bike. One was 4 ft high. He said he thought it was a dandelion.
Any suggestion would be terrific. We use to invite them/ be invited to parties at each other houses. We stopped that a few years ago. It was just too much drama. We now occasionally talk in the front yard.
I said i just need to tell her something??
He said i need to know what before i let you in?? WTH?? then she came to the door..didnt correct him or anything?? IMO he needs a swat on the behind...I better not ever hear my dd talk to an adult like that...
We have been there to...(maybe you can get on to her kids while she is outside...then you might not see them for 8 years or so
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