How would you feel about this - longish

Freyja

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O.k here goes:

My husband has a degree in anthropology and political scienc: He has however been working with marketing and branding since he was in college. He now owns his own marketing company and has mostly been involved in "territorial branding".

I on the other hand have a BSc in International Business and am finishing my master thesis in Management. I have always thought it would be best for us not to focus on the exact same things education/work-wise, although we are interested in the same genre.

Although I´m interested in marketing and branding, I chose to focus on "CSR" (Corporate Social Responsibility). It is something I am very interested in and keep saying I would love to work with. I have always thought it was important for us to keep out of each others "path". Considering that we live in a country with only 300 000 inhabitants and a limited amount of companies.

In connection with my thesis I have been in contact with one company. I chose this company because it was a place I thought might be interesting to pursue a career at, after my studies. My husband new this very well.

My husband writes articles for an icelandic business journal and decided last week to write about Corporate Social Responsibility. I don´t have a problem with that at all. After all, it´s just an article.

I do have a problem with the following though. He just told me that he had scheduled a meeting with the particular company I have been in contact with, hoping to sell them his service (the company is in the middle of a CSR campaign).

I feel that he could have left the one company I have been in contact with alone. What do you think?
 
Unless it's a problem with there not being enough companies that he could interview for the article.

Or maybe he thought he could make contacts that could eventually help you?

But yes, there are unwritten rules about husbands and wives staying out of each others way. Have you asked him what he was thinking?
 
Unless it's a problem with there not being enough companies that he could interview for the article.

Or maybe he thought he could make contacts that could eventually help you?

But yes, there are unwritten rules about husbands and wives staying out of each others way. Have you asked him what he was thinking?

He´s not interviewing them for the article. He´s offering them his services for their CSR campaign. That means he´s offering them to do the work I would possibly have been applying for.
 
Well, that's a horse of a different color!


He's sleeping on the couch tonight, right? ;) I think you have a right to be upset about this.
 

Well, that's a horse of a different color!


He's sleeping on the couch tonight, right? ;) I think you have a right to be upset about this.

Thanks! He doesn´t get why!!!
 
It seems to have been a very inconsiderate thing for him to do. Explain to him how upset you are and that he had crossed a no no boundary. Good luck to you. I hope everything turns out well.
 
So you are saying he took business from out from under you.....hmmm
Sofa City baby:rolleyes1

Well since you are not actively applying I suppose it is "fair game". I know it stinks to say that. Sounds like you two may be competing with each other.:scared1: (Sidenote...I keep thinking of the movie Mr. & Mrs. Smith for some reason.:lmao: )

I still would be peeved since he knew you were going to try and pursue it. Can you still do that?
Now that would be a horse of a different color, eh?:hug:
 
If you two weren't MARRIED then the company would be "fair game" as the previous poster mentioned.
But since you are MARRIED to each other. He should have stepped back knowing that you intended to pursue that company for employment. That's just what you do when you're MARRIED. He should be supporting you, not trying to compete for the same job as you.
JMHO.
I would be terribly hurt, angry and upset if my DH did this to me.
I'm really sorry this happened to you and hopefully you can work it out. Hopefully it was just a misunderstanding on his part and not an attempt to undermine your career. :hug: Hugs to you. I would talk it over with him and let him know how I feel. That's just me though....I can't keep anything inside like that.
 
Are you in a position right now to offer them the services that your DH can? If so then I can see being upset. If not I think he's looking at it as a way to make money and further his career. For that I couldn't get too upset.
 


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