How to handle kids fighting...it's driving me nuts!!

[PaulaSue]

Oh God Please not let it be so for another family. My oldest 2 (almost 7 and soon 5) are like cats and dogs as soon as they are together. So far the youngest is not into the stupid arguements but she is only almost 2 1/2.

They are very good when kept busy but like tonight they (oldest 2) were fighting over a baby-ish bath toy that was just opened. MIL seems to miss on the gifts but the thought was cute.

 

[poohtown]

when my kids argue over anything, I just simple walk into the room and remove whatever it is they're fighting over, and walk out without a word. They'll yell at each other for a minute over who's fault it is then it's over.

 

[always quiet]

Well, a new day has started and this should be interesting. They are home from school today. Only 1 is awake so far. I think I'll put them all to work, keep them busy...of course, I'll hear that _________________isn't pulling there load. Always do.

You know, I have had every teacher tell me how wonderful the kids are, what great kids they are....always helpful, work well with other students, very pleasant, cooperative, respectful of authority......why can't they send THESE KIDS home from school??!! I guess I should be happy that the world sees the 'good' ones.

When they were younger and the bickering first started in the oldest two, I did a twist to the "time outs" they used to get. I would stand them in front of the microwave (it had a timer) and make them either hold hands or hug the entire time. If they started to argue during this, I would add 5 min. Eventually, it stopped. I don't think at ages 15, 14 and 11 time out would work anymore. I do like the suggestion of tyeing them together though!!

 

[allie&mattsmom]

Oh how I can relate. My kids are 8 & 10 and fight and bicker what seems like all the time. Honestly, they can't even play a simple game together without it ending in a knock down, drag out fight. Drives me crazy! Most of the time I separate them and tell them they are not to speak to one another. Sometimes I take the thing away that they were arguing over or playing with. I don't really know what the answer is, but I'm glad to see I'm not the only one in this boat! Hang in there!