How to deal with a DL hater?

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

Pay some kid $20 to drive by her house blasting it's a small world on his Stereo at 3 am.

 

[julieannbabe]

i feel bad for you guys - you don't want someone in your party bringing you down.

i hope that you sort it out.

 

[nunzia]

My (soon to be ex) SIL is like this. he lived in So Ca for a time and all he can do is say he'd rather be at Six Flags, because Disney is too 'kiddy'. Now, mind you, we are taking his kids to DL and he doesn't even want to go with them. I put it down to one word: selfish. If he can't see the magic of the place, fine, but to not want to experience his kids' first time is just wacky.
We offered to still take him and pay his way, even though he and DD are seperated, but nah..he doesn't like Disney.
I'd just keep encouraging those that are going..maybe show some of the rides on YouTube, talk up Fantasmic, the food, the..whatever it takes.
The girls is just jealous she isn't going...and some people don't have magic. As my daughter said" I should have known it wouldn't work when I found out he didn't like Disney"..that's one of our tests.."Do they like Disney??"

 

[twinspluscade]

For years now my wife and I have been trying to convince my parents and 3 younger brothers who range from ages 18-23 that Disneyland is awsome and worth the money and for years (10 to be exact) they have always said they would rather do something else. So finally after much persuasion and convincing they all decided to give Disneyland a try this october, and they actually admitted that they are all quite excited. So anyways now my brother is dating a girl pretty heavily and brought her home to meet us. She seemed like a really nice girls tell we invited her to Disneyland with us and she said she doesnt like DL and said theres funner things to do then sit in a boat watching dolls. WHAT THE I wanted to strangle her. My wife and I have sat and talked DL up and she comes in a brings them all down. So my question is how do you deal with this type of situation? I know shes sitting there whispering in my brothers ear telling him that it wont be fun, and hes losing interest. How do I keep her from ruining this trip for us? (sorry for the long thread)

Oh no! Hopefully she doesn't convince your brother not to go! Just keep reminding him that room is booked, and tickets are paid for.

At the risk of being kicked off the board , I can kind of see why a young adult who doesn't have kids and loves thrill rides would not be into Disney. To be honest, I had no desire to go back to WDW until I had kids. It just wasn't my thing when I was in my teens and early 20s--theme parks in general weren't what I was into. I would've rather gone to the beach or hiking somewhere.

 

[mariezp]

I say shoot her and put her out of her misery

I agree! OFF WITH HER HEAD!
Maybe if your lucky she will be out of the picture before the trip comes up.


But seriously... I would try to avoid discussing the trip while she is around. Maybe ask you brother to talk to her and suggest she try to resist the urge to bad mounth the trip and remind him that it was originally planned to be a special family event that really means a lot to you. (pour on the tears, if neccessary )

 

[prettyprincessbelle]

Honestly, I think it was rude of her to say that in front of your family!! If I were her, I would have just said "Thank you for the invite, but I'm not as fond for Disneyland like you guys are, so you all go and have a wonderful time.." Even saying "not as fond" would make me want off with her head, atleast it's nicer and honest.. And I would make my DBF go with his family if I didn't like DL..

Geez... People these days..

 

[Cadillac_Dreamgirl]

That was rude... If someone invited me i kindly would have said...I cant i have plans elsewhere etc.......


I hate when ppl compare disneyland to Magic mountain... I say its totally different. One is a coaster park and another is theme park..get the picture.. still i cant convince them.

 

[jencav5]

That was rude... If someone invited me i kindly would have said...I cant i have plans elsewhere etc.......


I hate when ppl compare disneyland to Magic mountain... I say its totally different. One is a coaster park and another is theme park..get the picture.. still i cant convince them.

We were just with some friends at DL during spring break and the whole time they just kept trying to convince us to go to Magic Mountain! After I said no a zillion times, they then asked if they could just take our kids with them! (to be with their kids) I still said no! And my kids were not disapointed, either. They finally took off early on their last day and went to Magic Mountain by themselves because to them it is a better park! These same people would claim to do every ride on a day in the park and be ready to leave by 1pm and go back to their hotel to watch movies! I will never go to DL with them again!

 

[jencav5]

For years now my wife and I have been trying to convince my parents and 3 younger brothers who range from ages 18-23 that Disneyland is awsome and worth the money and for years (10 to be exact) they have always said they would rather do something else. So finally after much persuasion and convincing they all decided to give Disneyland a try this october, and they actually admitted that they are all quite excited. So anyways now my brother is dating a girl pretty heavily and brought her home to meet us. She seemed like a really nice girls tell we invited her to Disneyland with us and she said she doesnt like DL and said theres funner things to do then sit in a boat watching dolls. WHAT THE I wanted to strangle her. My wife and I have sat and talked DL up and she comes in a brings them all down. So my question is how do you deal with this type of situation? I know shes sitting there whispering in my brothers ear telling him that it wont be fun, and hes losing interest. How do I keep her from ruining this trip for us? (sorry for the long thread)

I also feel for you! I think all of us Disney lovers have to deal with the non-Disney lovers, and sometimes they are just mean or rude! Unfortunately, I don't think there's much you can do to make your family "feel" the magic. I know this from experience. When they watch Fantasmic or the Fireworks, try not to be too disappointed if they are not awestruck! Of course, if they love it, rejoice! I would just tour them around, maybe trying to hit things that they might relate to, like a ride based on a favorite childhood movie, etc.... They may even enjoy DCA better, since it is not so Disney and is more open. The other problem with non-Disney first timers I've noticed is that anything can make the experience not good, like crowds, weather, lines, etc... Good luck!

 

[darph nader]

What's the big deal? She was invited and doesn't want to go. Hey, more DL for you and yours.
Hey, give me a call,I'll go with you .I won't even hang around.

 

[SmoothDisneyH2O]

Thanks for all the replies! I really appreciate the advice that has been given. Ive read every response and Ive decided Im not going to let her ruin this for my family, we have lots of other things to worry about like the crowds and weather and schedules etc.... and dont need to worry about what she thinks. Its going to be her loss and I think in the long run she will regret having such a bad attitude towards something that is designed to be fun and uplifting for an entire family. Lets just hope that if my brother and her get married that she will have a change of heart as she gets older and matures a bit more.

 

[JadeDarkstar]

lmao @ the pay kid 20 to blast its a small world. at 3am lol

Now I would keep talking about all the fun things to do even when shes there i wouldnt stop keep telliing the family all the plans and fun and stuff. and tell her she really dosent know anything about disneyland so she shouldnt be putting it down. small worlds even closed this year lol

 

[jemilah]

See if you cell phone company offers IASW as a ring tone and have people call you while she is around!

 

[davidsprincess]

If your brother marries her, suggest having the wedding at DL right if front of IASW!!

 

[SmoothDisneyH2O]

If your brother marries her, suggest having the wedding at DL right if front of IASW!!

HA! Now that would be funny!

 

[DesertBell]

Sigh. I get irritated with people who don't feel the magic, too - like my ILS, who just cannot understand WHAT in the WORLD I can possibly fill my time with on an 8 day Disney vacation. The fact of the matter is, when they think of Disney, they think of the attractions and that's it. They don't get the same feeling of joy and contentment I get from just being there. Really, it's their loss.

Can you imagine not being able to feel the magic? Tragic.

 

[LisaZoe]

Has she actually been to DL? If not, she may be basing her impression on misinformation... kind of like your family was doing before they decided it might be fun after all. If she has been, when was it? Again, her age and experience on one trip could be what makes her think another park would be more fun. I know some people who went once for a day and didn't like DL but, after some questioning, I found out they had gone on a very busy day and spent much of their time in lines. They came away from the experience with a bad impression of high ticket/food prices and long lines. Although that can be said about DL at times, it's not at all what people think of who can see past that.

BTW - Not trying to jinx your brother but... your trip isn't for almost 6 months so she may well not be part of his life by then.