How to deal with a DL hater?

[SmoothDisneyH2O]

For years now my wife and I have been trying to convince my parents and 3 younger brothers who range from ages 18-23 that Disneyland is awsome and worth the money and for years (10 to be exact) they have always said they would rather do something else. So finally after much persuasion and convincing they all decided to give Disneyland a try this october, and they actually admitted that they are all quite excited. So anyways now my brother is dating a girl pretty heavily and brought her home to meet us. She seemed like a really nice girls tell we invited her to Disneyland with us and she said she doesnt like DL and said theres funner things to do then sit in a boat watching dolls. WHAT THE I wanted to strangle her. My wife and I have sat and talked DL up and she comes in a brings them all down. So my question is how do you deal with this type of situation? I know shes sitting there whispering in my brothers ear telling him that it wont be fun, and hes losing interest. How do I keep her from ruining this trip for us? (sorry for the long thread)

 

[nutshell]

She may have been invited, but tell her if she doesn't enjoy it then she doesn't need to come - she can get her boyfriend back after the trip.

 

[audrabolster]

She may have been invited, but tell her if she doesn't enjoy it then she doesn't need to come - she can get her boyfriend back after the trip.

agreed! I understand it might be a family trip, but if she doesn't want to be a part of it, she doesn't have to go!

 

[RaeRae's Mommy]

Is it to late to be adopted?

Just kidding. I really would hate to be in your place. Just don't let them get you down. They could end up sucking all the fun out of your trip.

 

[SmoothDisneyH2O]

She may have been invited, but tell her if she doesn't enjoy it then she doesn't need to come - she can get her boyfriend back after the trip.

Oh Ive already told him shes not coming especially since Im paying for the Airfare and hotel. My concern is her bringing the family down with her negative attitude. I want them to be excited to go not bummed that its going to be boring.

 

[SmoothDisneyH2O]

Is it to late to be adopted?

Just kidding. I really would hate to be in your place. Just don't let them get you down. They could end up sucking all the fun out of your trip.

This is exactly what Im worried about.

 

[davidsprincess]

If he is still willing to go, then let DL speak for itself. She obviously is not a fan of IASAW or DL, but he is a big boy and will hopefully want to make his own decision on the matter. Is she invited to go for the trip? If she is and doesn't want to go then that is up to her. If she convinces your brother not to go, then that is THEIR problem, not yours. It is his loss, but as for you and your wife, keep speaking positive things about DL. She may be able to influence your brother, but there are still others in your family. Don't give her the power over YOUR family. Enthusiasm is also contagious, you and your wife make sure that you keep the excitement alive for your family trip. Once your family gets there, it will be hard to not get into the "spirit" of it all. If your brother and his girlfriend decide to go along, make him promise to stay for at least a whole day and that in that time, no negativity will be tolerated for the FAMILY trip (help him to see that it is not just about the two of them, but the FAMILY). If he decides to stay or go after that then let him (hopefully he is paying his share for the trip). You still have fun with the family that stays. And remember, it is HER problem if she doesn't like DL (you thought you were long winded )

 

[RaeRae's Mommy]

If he is still willing to go, then let DL speak for itself. She obviously is not a fan of IASAW or DL, but he is a big boy and will hopefully want to make his own decision on the matter. Is she invited to go for the trip? If she is and doesn't want to go then that is up to her. If she convinces your brother not to go, then that is THEIR problem, not yours. It is his loss, but as for you and your wife, keep speaking positive things about DL. She may be able to influence your brother, but there are still others in your family. Don't give her the power over YOUR family. Enthusiasm is also contagious, you and your wife make sure that you keep the excitement alive for your family trip. Once your family gets there, it will be hard to not get into the "spirit" of it all. If your brother and his girlfriend decide to go along, make him promise to stay for at least a whole day and that in that time, no negativity will be tolerated for the FAMILY trip (help him to see that it is not just about the two of them, but the FAMILY). If he decides to stay or go after that then let him (hopefully he is paying his share for the trip). You still have fun with the family that stays. And remember, it is HER problem if she doesn't like DL (you thought you were long winded )

Nicely said!!!

 

[audrabolster]

Maybe their concerns are that DL will be too childish for them. Perhaps show them what can be done there as grownups? When I first went I thought it would be lame, and now I am addicted and can't get enough!

Maybe showing them that there is more to Disney than just rides that little kids enjoy (and big kids!). Besides, IASW won't even be open then?

I found this too which might help show that adults can enjoy DL too!
http://www.expedia.com/daily/vacations/disneyland/dl_adults.asp

 

[jemilah]

She may be related to my weird next door neighbor who say's Knott's Berry Farm is funner and cleaner then DL!
When she sees what a great time you all had without her she will be sorry...and anyway a nice girl would be quite and go with the man she loves!

 

[SmoothDisneyH2O]

She may be related to my weird next door neighbor who say's Knott's Berry Farm is funner and cleaner then DL!
When she sees what a great time you all had without her she will be sorry...and anyway a nice girl would be quite and go with the man she loves!

I think they really are related. She says that Six Flags is ten times funner than DL and I said yeah Six Flags is fun up untill you vomit on the first coaster.

 

[SmoothDisneyH2O]

If he is still willing to go, then let DL speak for itself. She obviously is not a fan of IASAW or DL, but he is a big boy and will hopefully want to make his own decision on the matter. Is she invited to go for the trip? If she is and doesn't want to go then that is up to her. If she convinces your brother not to go, then that is THEIR problem, not yours. It is his loss, but as for you and your wife, keep speaking positive things about DL. She may be able to influence your brother, but there are still others in your family. Don't give her the power over YOUR family. Enthusiasm is also contagious, you and your wife make sure that you keep the excitement alive for your family trip. Once your family gets there, it will be hard to not get into the "spirit" of it all. If your brother and his girlfriend decide to go along, make him promise to stay for at least a whole day and that in that time, no negativity will be tolerated for the FAMILY trip (help him to see that it is not just about the two of them, but the FAMILY). If he decides to stay or go after that then let him (hopefully he is paying his share for the trip). You still have fun with the family that stays. And remember, it is HER problem if she doesn't like DL (you thought you were long winded )

Great advice. Thank you.

 

[Rescue Pooh]

I agree with davidsprincess. DL will definitely speak for itself. I'm sure when they get there they'll have a Blast and come back with some Great memories. Of course who could'nt have fun at DL.

 

[davidsprincess]

I am really excited and happy for your family's first trip to DL. Please keep us posted and let us know what their reaction was. I hope that everything works out well.!

 

[JennHales]

I feel your pain! I really do. We went on a spur of the moment trip to DL back in October. It was so busy that we are doing a trip re-do the first week of May. And all the family is saying things like, "didn't you just go"? While you are sitting dreaming of your camping trip watching and dancing with the stars. I will be having fun a DL eating a dole whip and watching my kids face light up as they are having the time of their lives.
Jen

 

[damiel]

I say shoot her and put her out of her misery

 

[RaeRae's Mommy]

I say shoot her and put her out of her misery

Oh god you are so bad!!

Hi from Everett. My brother use to live and work in Sedro. Love to eat at the bakery on metcalf st.

 

[mobopolo]

I think this is more of a security issue. If she was not invited she could be jealous or even afraid that her BF will somehow find his TRUE Cinderella there! So she is making snide commits in hopes that he will not want to go. Maybe every-time she says something negative just simply say, "Oh, I'm sorry that you feel that way". And then go right back to what you were talking about. Maybe after a few times she'll get the hint?? Or not?? Maybe if possible don't talk about it when she's in the room, and maybe call or have lunch with him to discuss the exciting plans. Just don't bad mouth her to him. It will just make it worse. If you must say something, then maybe mention sadness about the commits that she's made about the plans. Maybe he can give you insight as to why she really feels this way. I think deep down she would love to go, but knows you guys don't want her there. Who knows?

 

[davidsprincess]

I say shoot her and put her out of her misery

 

[dalepool]

Leave her home-----No questions Just leave her.