How soon is too soon...

[indimom]

My parents were married within six months of their first date. Going on 50 years now.

My hubby and I had a "long engagement" since he was in the military and I was finishing college. BUT, I knew on the first date that he was something special. No doubt. I didn't tell him I loved him for almost 7 months (keep in mind that we only saw each other about once a month for a weekend), but I felt like you for quite a while before that. We've been married 15 years.

Sounds like you've found a great guy. Take whatever time you feel you need. (And enjoy the fun of dating. Marriage has its benefits, but your only young once! )

 

[BELLE1109]

I told my mum that I would marry DH after our first date. 10 years and 2 serious boyfriends later...I did!
I don't think its too early for you at all

 

[Loves Disney]

Thank you all sooo much for your responses!!! I really do feel better about this and I think I will let my boyfriend know how I feel. You guys definitely boosted my confidence. It really does make sense for there to be no real "time" frame. I feel silly for over-thinking this lol (although not surprised, I tend to do that sometimes haha).

 

[JessicaR]

I was engaged 6 months after meeting my husband and we were married a year later. That was 20 years ago.

 

[BCV513]

I knew I was going to marry my BF on our second date. So did my parents. My father actually said to me "If I could have created the perfect man for you, this would be him."

We've been dating about 9 months, and we're talking seriously about wedding plans, dates, etc. His family is insistent on one year before engagement, and that's okay with me.

 

[JessicaR]

I knew I was going to marry my BF on our second date. So did my parents. My father actually said to me "If I could have created the perfect man for you, this would be him."

We've been dating about 9 months, and we're talking seriously about wedding plans, dates, etc. His family is insistent on one year before engagement, and that's okay with me.

Why? That sounds rather controlling. Glad it doesnt bother you though! It would annoy the heck outta me.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

Well...my ex-husband and I were engaged after 6 weeks of dating. Obviously too soon and hence, the "ex-husband."

My fiance...we "met" online in August (2008), met in person in November, and I think it hit me around the following March or April that I was completely in love with him. I don't know exactly when he figured it out...I just know that it took me until October to finally get out "I love you" and he immediately answered "I love you, too." We started talking about marriage right after that. It took him until September 5 of this past year to formally propose, but apparently he'd been ring shopping since May!

 

[Eliza32]

DH propsed to me after 2 weeks, stayed the night (I was renting at the time) and never went home again!! That was at the end of May. At the beginning of September we bought and moved into our beutiful new home, and in the December we got married. This was 17 years ago!!!
Some of you may think we did things the wrong way around, but I wanted a winter wedding!!!
Sometimes you just know when it's right!!! I trust my gut feeling most of the time in my life and it rarely lets me down.

 

[BCV513]

Why? That sounds rather controlling. Glad it doesnt bother you though! It would annoy the heck outta me.

It's a little annoying, but we're all pretty traditional. I love his family and I'm not in a hige rush to get married, so it's fine with me.

 

[mjkacmom]

I dated DH for 6 years before we got married, and knew him fir 15. I'd say at least a year. I remember getting to the one year mark, and realizing I loved him, in spite of his faults. I think hitting that milestone will give further indication if this is going to be long term. Once you discover all of his faults, and find they're not deal breakers, you might start to consider he's the one. We've been married 15 years, and people my age seem to be divorcing left and right around here.

 

[Loves Disney]

DH propsed to me after 2 weeks, stayed the night (I was renting at the time) and never went home again!! That was at the end of May. At the beginning of September we bought and moved into our beutiful new home, and in the December we got married. This was 17 years ago!!!
Some of you may think we did things the wrong way around, but I wanted a winter wedding!!!
Sometimes you just know when it's right!!! I trust my gut feeling most of the time in my life and it rarely lets me down.

Oh wow!!! That's amazing. I really wish my intuition was that in-tune hahah. I could never make a decision that fast.

 

[Loves Disney]

I dated DH for 6 years before we got married, and knew him fir 15. I'd say at least a year. I remember getting to the one year mark, and realizing I loved him, in spite of his faults. I think hitting that milestone will give further indication if this is going to be long term. Once you discover all of his faults, and find they're not deal breakers, you might start to consider he's the one. We've been married 15 years, and people my age seem to be divorcing left and right around here.

I started to admit to myself that I was thinking more seriously about this relationship when I realized I loved him entirely - even for his, what people would consider, "faults." I consider myself a pretty deep girl lol, I like to believe that at least lol. Anyway, I do have a shallow side (naturally) and in the past, I've had a difficult time getting over the "faults" of my ex-boyfriends. I tried to find the "perfect" man. If he had faults that I felt disturbed about, I figured he wasn't the one for me. It got to the point where I began looking for faults. With my current boyfriend, I habitually began looking for his downfall. I thought I found it and then I only saw that in him. I broke up with him after a week of being an "official" couple. After 5 hours, I asked for him back because in those 5 hours, I felt like I had just done the worst thing I could have ever done. I have broken up with guys in the past and NEVER felt the way I felt this time. I just knew it wasn't right in ways I will never be able to explain. Then, after that, I couldn't see what originally made me break up with him. (Side note: whatever it was, was something shallow and absolutely not important to a relationship). Since then, I've discovered that I love every aspect of him. I love the things that make him human. I LOVE that he isn't perfect because even though he isn't perfect, he is perfect to me. When I realized I was looking at him differently than I've ever looked at anyone, I knew this relationship was different. From there, everything has only grown.

 

[Maryr1]

I remember getting out of his car after our first date and thinking to myself-game over,this is the one I am going to marry......I wasn't excited, giddy or anything else-I just knew. It took him a bit longer but 8 months after we met, we got engaged (even though I wanted to wait-go figure) and 6 months later we were married. He was 28, I was 23 and we have been married 27 years now. He is a great husband, a great father and an all arounf great guy.

 

[Golf4food]

When you know, you know. You know?

DW and I both new very quickly though it was three years before we married due to college.

 

[pilesoflaundry]

I think if you know, you know. There is no set time to know someone or to be together before it's suddenly right.

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[BC]

Wow, I have to say it sounds like you have really thought this thing through. Although 22 is not a child, there are lots of 22 yr olds that have not thought about the things you talk about. (lots of folks older than 22 that haven't either) Anyway, I say you sound very mature and seem to know what it is you are looking for. I hope you have found it and have a long and happy life together!

 

[GAGirlInVA]

DH said he knew on our first date (we knew each other before hand.) It took me longer.

We started seeing each other at the end of March and he proposed in July. We got married the next April. This coming April will be 7 years of wedded bliss.

No one ever expected us to last this long. I say it all depends on the people and circumstance.

 

[bumbershoot]

At 22, my instincts could not be trusted. I felt that EVERYONE was "the one", even those who were absolutely 180 degrees away from my values.

At just-about-31, however, I met a guy and he proposed just inside of 4 months. I knew myself better and wasn't blinded like ridiculous things like "he smells good" or "when he looks at me I melt" or things like that. The things I'd been going by previously.


However, my brother and sister in law were married when they were 22, and they are now in their 17th year of marriage. Because I know my brother and we've talked about it, I know that they made the marriage decision based on real things just like I did. He's just a lot more mature than I was at that age. Ahead of the game.

(and a friend who married at approx the same age, but mainly fell in love b/c they thought that the other was attractive, just got a divorce, because they were never truly happy, they didn't KNOW each other. So be sure of your reasons for marrying!)

 

[momof1princess]

DH and i started dating not long after i turned 18 (he was almost 17) and 3 1/2 months later, he proposed. we were lying in the floor together at my house, watching TV, and he started talking about how we were going to do this or that when we got married and i said "wait, married? you never asked me to marry you!" he looked puzzled and said "i didn't? then i'm doing it now. will you marry me?" of course, i said yes. we got married 3 years later and are will celebrate our 19th wedding anniversary in june. i knew he was the one after just a couple of dates, and he says he did too.

 

[Colleen27]

I had only known DH three weeks when I realized that he was the one. Of course we didn't jump into planning the wedding quite that fast, but we met in May and he proposed in December. That was 12 years ago, and he's still the one. Sometimes you just know.