How social are you? How often do you have friends over?

[dizluvah]

Add to us to the not social category - since our best friends moved to Montana last September I don't think we have had any friends over - we do go out with friends to dinner on occasion - maybe once every couple months or so - mostly we spend our weekends together doing errands, shopping, household chores going out just the two of us, etc.

In general I think I might be a little more social than my hubby but he seems better at actually coordinating events and inviting people over - BBQ, poker games etc.

 

[Disney Ella]

Before we had kids, we used to get together with friends nearly every weekend. After we had kids, it was more difficult and we didn't just have the energy. I am another one who now prefers spending time with my family on the weekend after a busy week of school and work.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

Super social - people are always popping in and then there are the parties.

We have a great area for dancing and live downtown, so it seems like we always have something going on.

 

[John VN]

Stick in the mud here. ......QUOTE]


I am the mud.

nuff said

 

[SOnotLayuh]

Until this past January we had a really relaxed habit of just having people come over whenever. I would also do sushi and a movie with one of my good friends once a week.

However, we moved to Charlotte at the end of January. In a huge city you would think we would have even more reason to go out, but we can't find any friends! We're now bums who just hang out with each other

DH just started a new job and I will be starting the local university in July. Hopefully our friend forecast will change!

 

[Micca]

We're not social at all. Sometimes I wish we could be more, but we love our solitude.

This is us too. Not that we aren't friendly, we just keep to ourselves.

 

[scrapbookworm]

I'm pretty anti-social. I'm fairly certain I have undiagnosed social anxiety disorder.

I do go through spells where I am more social. But honestly, a full day of visiting and chatting with people leaves me very drained. Making small talk has never been one of my strong points.

I work for a very small company, and am the only woman here. No office politics. It fits my personality perfectly.

I'm sure that my DD would love for me to be more social, to have friends over more frequently, etc. But it justs seems that the people around here are mostly takers instead of givers. We used to have her friends over more often, but cut back some when it became apparent there would never be any reciprocation.

 

[Buckalew11]

We aren't. like NMAmy, we do a lot of stuff as a family, just not with others.

We have a couple we are close to and we go out to eat with them, have them over for dinner or more often, we go to their house. She's very social and loves throwing parties for everything and anything. I'd rather take a beating than throw a party, lol.

I have a few girlfriends I enjoy going to dinner or movies with. DH rides and runs with his friends several nights or weekend days.

I work at home and have people in and out of my house all day, everyday so in that sense, I'm very social. I have X amount of words to say a day and use most of them up at work. After work and weekends, I want low-key and quiet.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

DH and i usually have people over on Saturday's just to hang out and talk and have a few drinks. not EVERY Saturday, but most Saturday's. sometimes we like quiet Saturday's alone, too.

Thursdays we also have a few friends over to watch some of our tv shows together.

aside from that, we don't usually do anything else.


i don't HAVE to be around people all the time tho. sometimes i do like just being by myself and reading a book or watching tv or going on the internet. it all depends on my mood, i guess.


eta: i should probably mention the most amount of people we usually have over on the weekends is 8 people, including us. we don't have big, elaborate parties or anything.

we had a big party for my DH in January for his birthday and we had about 30 people over and i didn't really have much fun at all. i had to pay attention to EVERYTHING and we have 3 cats so i had to make sure that the doors got closed right so they didn't get out and food and drinks....it was crazy.

i'd rather do the 8 people every weekend than a big party like that.

 

[scrapbookworm]

Oh, and I hate to go shopping with other people. Except for souvenir shopping on vacation. But otherwise, going 'out with the girls' to buy a new outfit, new shoes, etc- that's never appealed to me. I prefer going grocery shopping by myself too.

 

[pigletgirl]

Yep, i have friends over alot. Probably 4-5x/week.

 

[RC Fan]

I'd rather take a beating than throw a party, lol.

I have X amount of words to say a day and use most of them up at work. After work and weekends, I want low-key and quiet.

That sums up my feelings as well. To each their own! It is funny though that my sister is happier with a house-full.

 

[ckay87]

I'm completely the opposite from most people here, it seems. I enjoy doing fun things with people other than the same 3 family members all the time. I love them, of course, but I seem to need more variety than that. Can't help it.

 

[jimmalru80]

Not social at all. I wish we were a little more social sometimes, but the PITA-factor outweighs the fun.

Same with us. Only hang out with immediate family.

 

[DisTeach1]

I guess my dissatisfaction and comparison comes from the fact that I wish I was more social and had more people to be social with. Meeting this friend has shown me the gaps in my own life. I never felt dissatisfied before, but now I compare myself to her.

My husband and I have been married 20 years...we went out with friends and stuff a lot more when we were young before having our son, but it obviously doesn't stop anyone.

Also...what is PITA?

 

[AKL_Megs]

Not often.

Mainly, because I don't like cleaning up after people leave. I DO NOT do dinner parties, oh no, but still, cleaning up after a BBQ or just movies and drinks is a PITA.

I do hope come summer, we can have more backyard BBQs and bonfires!

 

[iwrbnd]

I used to be much more social but now that I'm raising 2 teens and 2 tweens I'm just too dang tired!

 

[SpecialK]

PITA = pain in the ---

We have a couple of big parties a year, dinner parties or casual get-togethers a couple of times a month. I also have a night out with the girls once a month.

We made up our minds to be more social when we moved to this house five years ago, and we've met some nice people.

 

[bjscheel]

Not much. We live in the country near my hometown, and the majority of my group of high school friends are still here. But, I don't really make the effort. If I want a shopping companion it is my mom or my sister and that suits me fine. We have one couple we invite out about once a year.

We don't have much in the way of neighbors, mostly old farmers, but they will stop by to talk to DH. They are all interested in his projects and things. He has other friends/old coworkers that might be by. DH and DD8 are more social, DD11 and I are happy to stick with family or a BFF.

 

[busyshrew]

We have a nice mix. Weekdays it's just family stuff (playdates for DD, but that doesn't really count). Quite often we see friends on Friday or Saturday night. We entertain a lot more in the summer than in the winter.

In fact, every year, DH and I have a "cocooning" period, from the middle of January (shortly after DD's birthday), until up to Easter, where we do very little socializing with anyone.