How should this cost be split?

[msjprincess]

Huh. Asking someone else to pay extra for their vacation just so my kid can have a bedroom isn't a "little thing" to me. I'd feel pretty bad about it. If we have to get a larger house because we need X+1 bedrooms instead of X bedrooms, obviously it's going to cost more, and I'd feel horrible expecting my friends or family to absorb that cost when it's all because of my kid. It would feel really selfish to me and I just couldn't do it. Even if they never said anything, my own conscience would prevent it.

Are they really paying more though?

We rent a house in the OBX every year. I'd say 99% of the houses have at least one bunkroom and one room with twin beds. Those rooms wouldn't be used by adults so whether we have no kids going or 8 kids going the house costs the same.

and like I said we've always split things by family whether it be in the OBX, Maine or the Poconos. Everyone in our group is fine with doing it that way. No need for anyone to feel selfish or have a bad conscience

 

[tlbwriter]

I think the OP said that they did not choose this house for the number of bedrooms. They are picking this house because of it's location and amenities. It also happens to have plenty of room. If I understood correctly, the OP and friends would be renting the same house whether the kids were coming or not. They did not rent a larger house to accommodate the kids.

Previous rentals have been priced "per person" by the owner, so it was a no brainer. This rental is a flat rate, regardless of how many people stay.

And as I said earlier, if you were going to pick that house no matter what, things are different. But the post I was specifically replying to talked about picking a house that had enough bedrooms for everyone. And if you need more bedrooms than you would have needed otherwise because of my family, then darn straight I'm going to pay for them. I realize not everyone thinks the same way, but that's just how I am. I also won't let you split the lunch bill equally if my meal cost more than yours. Again, I realize there are people who see nothing wrong with this, but that's just how I am.

 

[msjprincess]

And as I said earlier, if you were going to pick that house no matter what, things are different. But the post I was specifically replying to talked about picking a house that had enough bedrooms for everyone. And if you need more bedrooms than you would have needed otherwise because of my family, then darn straight I'm going to pay for them. I realize not everyone thinks the same way, but that's just how I am. I also won't let you split the lunch bill equally if my meal cost more than yours. Again, I realize there are people who see nothing wrong with this, but that's just how I am.

My friends and I also split dinner bills evenly .LOL

 

[design_mom]

And as I said earlier, if you were going to pick that house no matter what, things are different. But the post I was specifically replying to talked about picking a house that had enough bedrooms for everyone. And if you need more bedrooms than you would have needed otherwise because of my family, then darn straight I'm going to pay for them. I realize not everyone thinks the same way, but that's just how I am. I also won't let you split the lunch bill equally if my meal cost more than yours. Again, I realize there are people who see nothing wrong with this, but that's just how I am.

I apparently didn't see your earlier post. I agree with you. If a larger house had to be rented *specifically* to suit my family's needs, then I would expect to pay the extra. However, I don't think that's the case in the OP.

I also agree with you about lunch, unless it's a person I have a close relationship with and know it will "even out" sometime soon.

 

[luvmy3]

Hey, luvmy3! Wanna share a vacation rental??

As long as you were willing to pay your share that we all decide is fair, then sure!

Huh. Asking someone else to pay extra for their vacation just so my kid can have a bedroom isn't a "little thing" to me. I'd feel pretty bad about it. If we have to get a larger house because we need X+1 bedrooms instead of X bedrooms, obviously it's going to cost more, and I'd feel horrible expecting my friends or family to absorb that cost when it's all because of my kid. It would feel really selfish to me and I just couldn't do it. Even if they never said anything, my own conscience would prevent it.

I'm using the way my family does this, so in our case nobody is asked to pay more. The group of 4 families decides that we want to go on vacation and share a house, so we search for a house that will fit all of us comfortable (whether that means many bedrooms, or pull-outs as we need) Everyone is invited, knowing that they have to pay xxxx amount of dollars to rent the house and since we all agree that we are all using it then we have no problem splitting it up evenly between families. We are not asking for anyone to pay more than anyone else, and if they wanted to pay less because they only are using 1 bedroom instead of 2 like some of us then they would be free to rent their own house. Nobody is being forced to stay to stay with eachother each family is free to decide their own accomodations so there would be no reason for anyone to feel selfish for askins someone to pay their share of the shelter. None of us have a problem doing it this way, because we dont see it as who uses what space within the house we see it as we are all using the house. Apparently other families would tally up the space used and charge accordingly.

Perhaps there is an iphone app that will make all the calculations for us, based on square footage each person occupies, based on number of kids, based on number of bedrooms, based on how much toilet paper each person uses, etc. Problem solved.

Judging by some of the posts in this thread if there isn't one already there may be one soon

 

[LtlTee]

Wow ~ thanks for all the replies!

I think the OP said that they did not choose this house for the number of bedrooms. They are picking this house because of it's location and amenities. It also happens to have plenty of room. If I understood correctly, the OP and friends would be renting the same house whether the kids were coming or not. They did not rent a larger house to accommodate the kids.

Previous rentals have been priced "per person" by the owner, so it was a no brainer. This rental is a flat rate, regardless of how many people stay.

The above is true; the house we like this year actually has more bedrooms than we need. We just love the house and the location. I sent an email out to everyone detailing the cost and asked how they wanted to split it, and everyone voted to split it by family.

And the way we decide who gets the master or biggest bedroom? The person who did the research looking for the house, dealing with the owner/realtor as the responsible party for the rental, sending payments, etc. gets it. (this year it's me!! )

 

[krcit]

Wow ~ thanks for all the replies!



The above is true; the house we like this year actually has more bedrooms than we need. We just love the house and the location. I sent an email out to everyone detailing the cost and asked how they wanted to split it, and everyone voted to split it by family.

And the way we decide who gets the master or biggest bedroom? The person who did the research looking for the house, dealing with the owner/realtor as the responsible party for the rental, sending payments, etc. gets it. (this year it's me!! )

I vote that you get the 'good' room!!

 

[luvmy3]

Wow ~ thanks for all the replies!



The above is true; the house we like this year actually has more bedrooms than we need. We just love the house and the location. I sent an email out to everyone detailing the cost and asked how they wanted to split it, and everyone voted to split it by family.

And the way we decide who gets the master or biggest bedroom? The person who did the research looking for the house, dealing with the owner/realtor as the responsible party for the rental, sending payments, etc. gets it. (this year it's me!! )

Glad it works out for everyone. Enjoy!!

 

[sbell111]

Perhaps there is an iphone app that will make all the calculations for us, based on square footage each person occupies, based on number of kids, based on number of bedrooms, based on how much toilet paper each person uses, etc. Problem solved.

There is. It's called 'calculator'. Just divide the cost by the number of people and you have your answer.

 

[DisneyBeagle]

And the way we decide who gets the master or biggest bedroom? The person who did the research looking for the house, dealing with the owner/realtor as the responsible party for the rental, sending payments, etc. gets it. (this year it's me!! )

I think this is a GREAT way to decide who gets the master or biggest bedroom.

 

[RadioFanatic]

I would split by how many bedrooms each family uses. If everyone is using just one, same price. If most families use one bedroom and the other family uses two bedrooms then they should be charged more.

DING, DING, DING - this is what I was going to say.

 

[LindaG4458]

I would split by how many bedrooms each family uses. If everyone is using just one, same price. If most families use one bedroom and the other family uses two bedrooms then they should be charged more.

I agree with this.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

We dont sweat the little things like this. We just split the cost per family. Over the course of the stay, some families might contribute more than others with groceries, booze, or some other consumables. So in the end, its just about a wash for everyone.

We don't sweat the little things, either, but we divide by the number of people. It's just as simple as dividing by the number of families. My family happens to be the largest one, so we pay more, but we think that is fair, since we take up more space. It would feel petty to me to suggest that we pay by family, especially knowing that we can afford it. I suppose if the kidless couples in our family were the more well-off, they would insist on splitting by family to help us out, too.

The bedroom thing works, too, if looked at reasonably. We shared a cabin with another family recently and split it equally. All the girls shared a big bunk room and the lone boy had his own room, but it would have been silly to charge them more just because they happened to have the only boy.