PhotobearSam
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A little history first...Back in 1990...
Right at high school Graduation, I met an fun, handsome and steamy guy named IAN and I dumped my steady "nice" boyfriend for this new Bad Boy...
I was used to dating a lot but I was really innocent and he took me for quite a ride. In the beginning, he was nice, sweet and fun, or so I thought. He was my "first" and I thought this was real love. I was wrong. In the space of 5 months, it went from being nice to controlling to violent.
I lost my $, my pride, my self-esteem, and almost myself. I got kicked out of my apartment by my roomates that could see the jerk for what he was but I was blind. My grades went down the tubes and so did I. He got very jealous and controlling and he pushed me around a lot. Then he began hitting me...I of course thought I could "fix him" but after a few months, we had a huge fight. I dropped him off at his parents and I went to a friend's place.
The final straw was when he threatened my best friend. That was when I called it quits and that is when my nightmare got worse.
For the next year, he followed me, harrassed me, and threatened my friends and I. He said he would kill himself if he could not have me. When I could not take it anymore, I ran to another city 12 hours away to go to school and thought it would help. My best friend joined me 1 year later...
He found my phone number several times and I had to get an un-listed number. He always found a way to get at me. When I would come home for summer vacation or for a week or Christmas, he would call and tell me what I was wearing that day, where I had gone, and who I was with...I was a prisoner...I started staying in Ottawa in the Summer when school was out because I did not want to see him. This went on till 1995-1996...
In the mean time, in 1998, I met DH..Fell in Love and have found the most loving, caring, sweet and nice man I could ever dream of. God has blessed me with a walking angel and I am the happiest woman alive.
The other day I got an email at work from someone saying that we had gone to school together. I asked who this person was and he respinded that his name was Randy...thinking this was my weekly driving buddy from College (we would share gas to go home on the weekends...Just buddies), I was happy to hear from him and I was just about to send my answer to his email when a funny feeling came over me...I did not think this was Randyfor some reason...So I turfed my original email I was going to send and asked him a bunch of questions to see if it really was Randy. I never said the email were from me as I left them unsigned.
I got an email back saying,
"Hmmm..well you got me there. I have been caught. It isn't randy, it's Ian. I know i don;t need to give any more info for you to remember me. I didn;t think you would want to talk to me if you knew it was me, so hence i had to try some way to see if it was you. I am hoping that you will talk to me Sam. Last i remember of you is you telling me that i did something, but i have no clue as to what it was. I didn;t know what it was that day on the phone and to this day i still don't know what went wqrong after we last met. I think of you often Sam, and wonder what it is i did that was so bad. I hope you will tell me.
Ian"
Everyone including DH, my best friends and my Mom all have different ideas on how I should handle this...I am not sure.
Do i answer and tell him off, do I just delete it, do I tell him not to contact me ever again and block his addy from my email, my DH want to tell him off, etc. etc. etc...
The bad thing is He knows where I work since he found my email on my business site. I am alone at the motel several hours a day but it is now closed for the winter so it'snot so bad, I guess.
Please tell me what you would do...Even 15 years later, this has sent shivers down my spine and fear in my head.
How do I get this creep to leave me alone...???
Sorry it's so long...
Right at high school Graduation, I met an fun, handsome and steamy guy named IAN and I dumped my steady "nice" boyfriend for this new Bad Boy...
I was used to dating a lot but I was really innocent and he took me for quite a ride. In the beginning, he was nice, sweet and fun, or so I thought. He was my "first" and I thought this was real love. I was wrong. In the space of 5 months, it went from being nice to controlling to violent.
I lost my $, my pride, my self-esteem, and almost myself. I got kicked out of my apartment by my roomates that could see the jerk for what he was but I was blind. My grades went down the tubes and so did I. He got very jealous and controlling and he pushed me around a lot. Then he began hitting me...I of course thought I could "fix him" but after a few months, we had a huge fight. I dropped him off at his parents and I went to a friend's place.
The final straw was when he threatened my best friend. That was when I called it quits and that is when my nightmare got worse.
For the next year, he followed me, harrassed me, and threatened my friends and I. He said he would kill himself if he could not have me. When I could not take it anymore, I ran to another city 12 hours away to go to school and thought it would help. My best friend joined me 1 year later...
He found my phone number several times and I had to get an un-listed number. He always found a way to get at me. When I would come home for summer vacation or for a week or Christmas, he would call and tell me what I was wearing that day, where I had gone, and who I was with...I was a prisoner...I started staying in Ottawa in the Summer when school was out because I did not want to see him. This went on till 1995-1996...
In the mean time, in 1998, I met DH..Fell in Love and have found the most loving, caring, sweet and nice man I could ever dream of. God has blessed me with a walking angel and I am the happiest woman alive.
The other day I got an email at work from someone saying that we had gone to school together. I asked who this person was and he respinded that his name was Randy...thinking this was my weekly driving buddy from College (we would share gas to go home on the weekends...Just buddies), I was happy to hear from him and I was just about to send my answer to his email when a funny feeling came over me...I did not think this was Randyfor some reason...So I turfed my original email I was going to send and asked him a bunch of questions to see if it really was Randy. I never said the email were from me as I left them unsigned.
I got an email back saying,
"Hmmm..well you got me there. I have been caught. It isn't randy, it's Ian. I know i don;t need to give any more info for you to remember me. I didn;t think you would want to talk to me if you knew it was me, so hence i had to try some way to see if it was you. I am hoping that you will talk to me Sam. Last i remember of you is you telling me that i did something, but i have no clue as to what it was. I didn;t know what it was that day on the phone and to this day i still don't know what went wqrong after we last met. I think of you often Sam, and wonder what it is i did that was so bad. I hope you will tell me.
Ian"
Everyone including DH, my best friends and my Mom all have different ideas on how I should handle this...I am not sure.
Do i answer and tell him off, do I just delete it, do I tell him not to contact me ever again and block his addy from my email, my DH want to tell him off, etc. etc. etc...
The bad thing is He knows where I work since he found my email on my business site. I am alone at the motel several hours a day but it is now closed for the winter so it'snot so bad, I guess.
Please tell me what you would do...Even 15 years later, this has sent shivers down my spine and fear in my head.
How do I get this creep to leave me alone...???
Sorry it's so long...
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Something as simple as those free credit bureau reports could easily show him everything! (ex. your current employer....)
