How old is to old "BOYS" in ladies restroom?

[Granny square]

Yes, because we all know that everything on the internet is true, especially tag lines

Its okay I get it, you have no other response because you know I'm right.

Darn that tag fairy! Lol, just a trouble maker!

 

[lexysdad04]

Yes, because we all know that everything on the internet is true, especially tag lines Its okay I get it, you have no other response because you know I'm right.

I'll admit it is a funny quote.

I'll tell you what I'll stick to my way of parenting and you stick to yours. After all we only want what we believe to be best for our kids and as long as our kids become good productive members of society then we both have won

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[Chief Powhatan]

Now that we have settled that - who wants to park at the Poly and spend all day at the Magic Kingdom???

 

[Granny square]

Now that we have settled that - who wants to park at the Poly and spend all day at the Magic Kingdom???

Duh! If you want to go to the mk the contemporary is the place to park...

 

[Chief Powhatan]

Duh! If you want to go to the mk the contemporary is the place to park...

 

[Gracie09]

The poly has a better pool

 

[Lillabelle0]

Check it out!! oh and any Disney pool will do!! http://www.timesunion.com/local/article/Man-accused-of-sexually-abusing-boy-at-museum-4576663.php

 

[Lillabelle0]

I'll admit it is a funny quote.

I'll tell you what I'll stick to my way of parenting and you stick to yours. After all we only want what we believe to be best for our kids and as long as our kids become good productive members of society then we both have won

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Agree with you! Back to original post, it seems experts agree that around 10 is a good age depending on the area and situation. I do use family restrooms when available. Safety trumps everything.

http://www.katv.com/story/17006539/...visit-the-restroom-alone?clienttype=printable

 

[aubriee]

A normal 10 year old boy is already at the age to start going through puberty. Why would a mom want to embarrass her son? I would like to know how a dad would feel having his ten year old girl in the men's. after all some fathers are just trying to " protect " there daughters and can't let them go by themselves into the woman's.

I've posted here before about an incident I saw in the ladies restroom at the UK pavillion in Epcot a few years ago. I walked in there and did a double take when I saw a Middle Eastern man standing right next to the first stall. A couple of other ladies were in there reading him the riot act, demanding he leave. Apparently someone had already ran out to get security. Come to find out, his wife and daughter were in one of the stalls further down. When security ran in, his excuse was that his wife and daughter did not speak English, might need him, and he was not going to leave them in there alone. Security was telling him men were not allowed in the ladies restroom, when his wife and daughter came out and they left. The only reason I mention they were Middle Eastern, is because I always thought the Arabs had a big thing about chastity and women not being seen by other men, so I was shocked to see him standing in the ladies room.

I don't know what's with that UK restroom, but in that same restroom a few years before, I was in one stall and my then 8 y/o GD was two or three stalls down, when I suddenly heard her scream and another child screaming at the same time. I lunged out of the stall with my shorts still down, to find a little boy just a little bigger than her sitting on the floor in front of her stall with a bloody nose. My GD came barging out of the stall, kicked him in the side, screaming that she'd kicked him in the face, and would do it again if he poked his head under her stall again. His mom had came barging out of her stall at the same time I did and started yelling at my GD calling her a brat. Before I could take up for her, several other ladies did, saying he'd peaked in or under their stalls too and my GD had every right to kick him when he did it to her, that the boy was too old to be in the ladies room anyway, and if she couldn't control him, the brat deserved what he got for being a peeking tom. As she took him to the sinks to stop his bloody nose, the mom gave all us a look like we were crazy and made a comment that he was just a little boy and she didn't see what the big deal was. Huh, the kid was at least 9-10 years old and old enough to know what he was doing and should not have been in the ladies room.

 

[Gracie09]

Agree with you! Back to original post, it seems experts agree that around 10 is a good age depending on the area and situation. I do use family restrooms when available. Safety trumps everything. http://www.katv.com/story/17006539/when-is-it-safe-for-your-child-to-visit-the-restroom-alone?clienttype=printable

I'm still trying to figure out how you will protect your ten year old when you are on the other side of a locked door with you pants down.

 

[Granny square]

Lol, a printed article? Wow! I vet there aren't any that say anything different...

 

[luvmy3]

Agree with you! Back to original post, it seems experts agree that around 10 is a good age depending on the area and situation. I do use family restrooms when available. Safety trumps everything.

http://www.katv.com/story/17006539/...visit-the-restroom-alone?clienttype=printable

Honest question, why is a 10 year old safer than an 8 year old? I mean if safety trumps everything, shouldn't a "kid" have to go into the bathroom with a parent until they are big enough, physically strong enough to fight off an attacker? The rate my 13 year old is going, he won't be big enough until he's around 18, and by then he'll be able to carry a concealed weapon, or maybe that is older. I should look into it since a some point my child will be out on his own and I won't be there to protect him anymore.
My friend was at her school bus stop in HS and a man exposed himself to her, should she have had her mom and dad with her after that?
There is no magic age, if someone is gong to do something they are going to do it and while a younger kid may not be able to recognize when something doesn't feel right there is no guarantee an older child will either.

Things are going to happen, there are crazy people out there but at some point you have to let go of your paranoia and let your child go. I couldn't imagine dragging my 10 year old 5th grader into the woman's room because I think there is a predator around every bathroom corner. I can't imagine what raising a child like would do to him in the long run. I want to raise kids that know how to take care of themselves, not kids that are afraid of everyone.

 

[LilyWDW]

If the child is too old to go in the stall WITH the parent then they are too old to be in the wrong bathroom. Simple and easy. If you as a parent are not comfortable with your child seeing you in the stall, then it is not appropriate to have them in their at all.

 

[maxiesmom]

I'm still trying to figure out how you will protect your ten year old when you are on the other side of a locked door with you pants down.

Me too. Seems no one can explain it. I still think it is about (in most cases) the parent making themselves feel better. It really isn't doing anything to keep their child safe, but it makes the parent feel better about it for some reason.

Anyone who would want to mess with a child could do so in the blink of an eye, and being on the other side of a door the parent couldn't do anything about it. False security is not a good choice. If you really want to do something to keep your child safe, take them in the stall with you. That is the only real way to make sure nobody messes with them while you are taking care of your bathroom needs.

 

[kkmcan]

I haven't read all the responses but I know my son was ready to go use the mens bathroom by himself when he was 8. He wouldn't go with me into the ladies room anymore at that point. It was too embarrassing for him.

 

[ktmo]

I have always wondered about older boys who are alone and go in the ladies restroom. If they are allowed to walk across the restaurant by themselves, they should be in the correct bathroom. I know that I don't feel comfortable being in a bathroom alone with a 9 or 10 year old boy.

 

[jensen]

He is little for his age

This, for me, is really key to the question... my DS has always been big for his age (he's 5' 9" at 13YO)... and his size has always caused me to treat him as if he's older than he really is. Fortunately (or as a consequence of this treatment) he's also quite mature.

I honestly cannot remember when he stopped going into the ladies room with me, but I bet he was only 5 or 6.

DD, on the other hand, is 10 and average to small in stature. I still tell her to wait in the stall until I'm done and tell her it's OK to come out.

 

[Granny square]

This, for me, is really key to the question... my DS has always been big for his age (he's 5' 9" at 13YO)... and his size has always caused me to treat him as if he's older than he really is. Fortunately (or as a consequence of this treatment) he's also quite mature. I honestly cannot remember when he stopped going into the ladies room with me, but I bet he was only 5 or 6. DD, on the other hand, is 10 and average to small in stature. I still tell her to wait in the stall until I'm done and tell her it's OK to come out.

Nice that she holds up a stall that someone else might need. Who lets her know it is ok at school?

 

[mjkacmom]

Nice that she holds up a stall that someone else might need. Who lets her know it is ok at school?

Lol - ds15 has always been in the 95th% in height, dd12 is in the 12th% (6% for weight). Although it's tempting to not allow dd to do the same things as ds, at the same age, I do realize it's not logical. Ds was walking all over town at the age of 10 (with friends), and I remember hesitating letting dd was a few blocks to a friend's house. Stupid, I know - I let her. It's harder for me to let her be more independent, because she's so darn little, but I deal with being uncomfortable, for her sake.

 

[NotUrsula]

Agree with you! Back to original post, it seems experts agree that around 10 is a good age depending on the area and situation. I do use family restrooms when available. Safety trumps everything.

http://www.katv.com/story/17006539/...visit-the-restroom-alone?clienttype=printable

The irony of this one is killing me. (Even without that missing "b" in "public restroom" at the beginning of the third paragraph.)

Arkansas and Louisiana are two states where hunting is a very popular activity for school-age boys. (I grew up in rural S. Louisiana.) Most boys that I know in both places are allowed to use bb guns by second grade, are taught to manage a .22 on by the time they are 8, and traditionally are gifted with a long-gun of their own at age 12. So, 10 is well old enough to be trusted with a firearm, but not old enough to manage alone in a busy public restroom? (This isn't about gun control at all; it is about the issue of the relative probability of injury.)

I agree that it does depend on the situation -- I wouldn't recommend that ANYONE wander into a little-used restroom at a highway rest stop in the wee hours or in a large park without thoroughly checking it out and putting a doorstop under the door before dropping trou. (And removing that ASAP, of course, once you've finished in the stall.) However, if it is a single-sex restroom in a busy place of business, I think that a child who can manage alone at school should be able to manage alone just fine.

PS: Yes, I do carry a rubber doorstop whenever I travel; it's a habit I developed as a female business traveler. That little rubber wedge is a wonderful backup safety device if you find yourself in an iffy neighborhood or situation, because it can buy you time.