How old is to old "BOYS" in ladies restroom?

[smitch425]

I have no desire to see some half naked woman when I walk in the bathroom. There are hooks inside the stalls, no one is telling you to put your clothes on the floor. Doors are our friends.

This x 1000.

 

[mjkacmom]

Thanks for your responses I really appreciate it. I was hoping for some other parents thoughts on this situation. And to reply to the response that there are threads about this I'm sorry if this start of a new one bothered anybody. I'm new to the dis boards. It was just a question that thought I could get sum insight on here. Believe me I will NOT start a thread again without more in dept SEARCHES. I will talk to my son and will explore all options of letting him go it alone from now on and hope for the best outcome. Again thanks for the responses.

This is one of the most heated topics on these boards. It usually gets very ugly, and the thread then gets closed, until someone starts another one a few weeks later.

That said, my boys started using the proper bathrooms around the ages of 5/6. I do think your ds is too old - I know dd10 would think so. Strangers aren't the danger - people who know your children are much more likely to abuse them. Not many (okay, none) children have ever been picked up and abducted from WDW.

I find that when a child is uncomfortable going into the ladies room, that is the time for him to use the mens room - please let your kids trust their instincts - they will need to for the rest of their lives. It's called growing up.

 

[Lisa71]

My DS turned six and I take him in to the womens room with me, and probably will if I have to for a few more years. What does it really matter? Its not like a locker room where women are changing, or using the toilet in public. I think I would have more of a problem with my husband taking my daughter into the mens room! Do what you feel is right.

Yes!! My DS is 6 but has CP so he cannot toilet himself ..period...unless every place on earth has family restroom (thank you Target for yours) we have no choice. If Dad is with us he goes with the boys. Our DD is almost 8 and she goes alone to a women's bathroom if out with Dad and in a safe place.

 

[mamabear0222]

I think 8 and up is too old. Please remember that there are girls of all ages in that bathroom, not just us women who may not care about seeing an 8 year old boy in there.

I have never understood this response. Sorry. Women's bathrooms have doors on all stalls. Complete privacy. So the only thing someone should see is other females of all ages washing their hands. What's the issue here or what am I missing? It's not an 8+ yr old girl hanging out waiting for dad beside the urinals. Unless the boy or parent feels uncomfortable I see no issue.

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[cjbcam]

I have never understood this response. Sorry. Women's bathrooms have doors on all stalls. Complete privacy. So the only thing someone should see is other females of all ages washing their hands. What's the issue here or what am I missing? It's not an 8+ yr old girl hanging out waiting for dad beside the urinals. Unless the boy or parent feels uncomfortable I see no issue.

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Then you prefer everywhere be unisex? They have men's and woman's bathrooms for a reason. U shouldn't have a problem with an 8+ girl in a men's room if you don't have a problem with an 8+ boy in a woman's. after all unless the girl is right beside the urinals she shouldn't see anything.

 

[luvmy3]

I have never understood this response. Sorry. Women's bathrooms have doors on all stalls. Complete privacy. So the only thing someone should see is other females of all ages washing their hands. What's the issue here or what am I missing? It's not an 8+ yr old girl hanging out waiting for dad beside the urinals. Unless the boy or parent feels uncomfortable I see no issue.

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Well clearly you arent the mother of a dd who would not be comfortable attending to her personal female issues with a boy in there. Like I said, people should be considerate of the girls in there that may be uncomfortable. Just because you aren't doesn't mean that there aren't those who are. A woman, or girl shouldn't have to be uncomfortable because someone of the opposite sex is in their gender's bathroom. Not sure what you can't understand about that, its a pretty simple concept.

 

[aaarcher86]

I have never understood this response. Sorry. Women's bathrooms have doors on all stalls. Complete privacy. So the only thing someone should see is other females of all ages washing their hands. What's the issue here or what am I missing? It's not an 8+ yr old girl hanging out waiting for dad beside the urinals. Unless the boy or parent feels uncomfortable I see no issue. Sent from my Samsung S3 using DISBoards

Little kids don't always think that way. They're shy, embarrassed, self conscious, their bodies are changing, etc. it's not always about the fear of being seen through the cracks but that's also a big one I'm sure. From day one little boys and girls go to different bathrooms most places, including school. I don't think an 8 year old girl is going to feel the same amount of openness as a grown woman.

I'm sure you've been around a child that felt uncomfortable in a situation you didn't feel it was necessary. It doesn't make them wrong for feeling that way.

 

[bowmandanielle]

I have a son who is 8 and a daughter who is 6. My son will usually go to the restroom by himself and daughter with me. There are still times when the mens restroom looks to crowded or something that makes me uncomfortable with the situation that I make him come with me to the bathroom. He stands by the sink with me in the first stall (when possible) and we talk the whole time so I know he is safe. Even though its not as common there are women who would/could just as easily harm a child. That being said there has been a couple times where this momma went in to the mens room because my son was taking to long and I wanted to make sure he was safe/not doing something he shouldn't. I spoke as I was going in telling the reason loud enough so everyone knew a momma was in there and she meant business. My husband has to take my daughter to the mens room when she was 2/3 because it was just them and obviously to little for her to potty without help. He said no one ever even batted a eye at it. Of course he always made sure no men were occupying the urinals for everyone's comfort. I am very much about keeping my kids safe while letting them be independent but only you know whats best for each situation.

 

[becpee]

For the love of God, WHY??

 

[Lillabelle0]

As a single mother who travels often with her DS who is 10, I do what I feel comfortable with for the given situation. At rest areas, he comes into the restroom with me. At Disney, it depends on how crowded it is. As another poster said, sometimes there is more than one entrance/exit. My son's safety is worth more than some stares I may get. If I do let him go alone, I wait for him at the entrance and instruct him to come right out. I then have him wait for me and DD in that little area in the ladies room that is away from the stalls. Please don't let others pressure you into going against what you are comfortable doing. Good Luck and enjoy your trip!

 

[maxiesmom]

I have never understood this response. Sorry. Women's bathrooms have doors on all stalls. Complete privacy. So the only thing someone should see is other females of all ages washing their hands. What's the issue here or what am I missing? It's not an 8+ yr old girl hanging out waiting for dad beside the urinals. Unless the boy or parent feels uncomfortable I see no issue.

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There is not complete privacy. Have you not noticed the large gaps in most stall doors? Pay attention next time you are at WDW, and I think you will be surprised. They are not solid walls.

At any rate, the name says it all. Womens Restroom. It doesn't say Unisex Restroom, or Family Restroom. None of us live in a bubble. Do what you have to do to keep your kids safe, but at the same time you need to be respectful of those around you. Don't want to let your son out of your site? Take them in the stall with you. Otherwise you are only kidding yourself that you are keeping them safe. You are no protection to them on the other side of a stall door, with you pants down around your ankles. None.

 

[Granny square]

As a single mother who travels often with her DS who is 10, I do what I feel comfortable with for the given situation. At rest areas, he comes into the restroom with me. At Disney, it depends on how crowded it is. As another poster said, sometimes there is more than one entrance/exit. My son's safety is worth more than some stares I may get. If I do let him go alone, I wait for him at the entrance and instruct him to come right out. I then have him wait for me and DD in that little area in the ladies room that is away from the stalls. Please don't let others pressure you into going against what you are comfortable doing. Good Luck and enjoy your trip!

At 10 your son can't figure out that if he doesn't see you out one exit then check the other? A 10 year old is ridiculous. Poor kid. Boys need to be allowed to grow up. No boy ever benefitted from an overprotective helicopter mom.

 

[Gracie09]

I have never understood this response. Sorry. Women's bathrooms have doors on all stalls. Complete privacy. So the only thing someone should see is other females of all ages washing their hands. What's the issue here or what am I missing? It's not an 8+ yr old girl hanging out waiting for dad beside the urinals. Unless the boy or parent feels uncomfortable I see no issue. Sent from my Samsung S3 using DISBoards

Have you not notice the cracks, often large cracks around the doors? I have been walking passed stalls minding my own business looking for an open stall and have seen glimpses of women while they were doing their business. And different people have different levels of comfort. I fostered a little girl who was abused in every way possible by her "father" in a bathroom. For her any male bigger than her (she was ok with boys smaller than her because as she put it she can beat them up), in a bathroom was a threat. And would cause her to have a panic attack that would take hours to completely recover from. It took months for her to be comfortable in any room alone with my husband, living room kitchen etc. we had completely separate bathrooms for my husband and her. Only girls went in her bathroom. So your tween boys, yes 8,9,10 year old are by definition Tweens, in the bathroom could cause others to be uncomfortable or even worse.
If your sons are too young to go into the men's room by themselves, bring them into your stall. If you don't want them in there because they are too old, time for them to use the appropriate gender restroom.

 

[cjbcam]

I asked my older girls what they would think if a boy their age was in the girls bathroom. They are 8 and 10. They both thought it would be strange. My ten year old said it would be embarrassing as she already hates even girls hearing her go. I asked what they thought if I made them go into the boys they both said they wouldn't go. I would think a boy that is 8 or 10 would be embarrassed.

 

[Lillabelle0]

At 10 your son can't figure out that if he doesn't see you out one exit then check the other? A 10 year old is ridiculous. Poor kid. Boys need to be allowed to grow up. No boy ever benefitted from an overprotective helicopter mom.

You can't make everyone happy. When I am at a rest stop, he goes in the male bathroom.. I wait for him and then he comes in with me and waits at the entrance. No one's stares or opinions will ever dissuade me from keeping my son safe. Others will have to deal with it. Anyway, California has just passed laws where there will only be unisex bathrooms in schools. So OMG, what are all you phobic people going to do? It's a bathroom with closed stalls!

 

[Granny square]

Darn those little girls who are uncomfortable. They should be ashamed.

So at a rest stop he is safe and a Disney rr he is in danger. That is whacked. It is a shame that child can not be uncomfortable. Or rather you can't but Gracie's abused foster daughters should suck it up. Nice

 

[Gracie09]

You can't make everyone happy. When I am at a rest stop, he goes in the male bathroom.. I wait for him and then he comes in with me and waits at the entrance. No one's stares or opinions will ever dissuade me from keeping my son safe. Others will have to deal with it. Anyway, California has just passed laws where there will only be unisex bathrooms in schools. So OMG, what are all you phobic people going to do? It's a bathroom with closed stalls!

Actually the ca law allows transgender students to choose to use the bathroom of the gender they identify with instead of forcing them to use the bathroom of the gender they don't identify with. If your going to try and cite a law you may want to get it correct.

 

[Lillabelle0]

Actually the ca law allows transgender students to choose to use the bathroom of the gender they identify with instead of forcing them to use the bathroom of the gender they don't identify with. If your going to try and cite a law you may want to get it correct.

Well, if you have boys and girls using same bathroom.. It's a unisex bathroom!

 

[aaarcher86]

You can't make everyone happy. When I am at a rest stop, he goes in the male bathroom.. I wait for him and then he comes in with me and waits at the entrance. No one's stares or opinions will ever dissuade me from keeping my son safe. Others will have to deal with it. Anyway, California has just passed laws where there will only be unisex bathrooms in schools. So OMG, what are all you phobic people going to do? It's a bathroom with closed stalls!

Fortunately Disney has an age limit on boys being in the female restroom. Apparently you'll be the one sucking it up there. I imagine your son will be just fine.

Can't make everyone happy also applies to helicopter parents.

 

[cjbcam]

Fortunately Disney has an age limit on boys being in the female restroom. Apparently you'll be the one sucking it up there. I imagine your son will be just fine.

Can't make everyone happy also applies to helicopter parents.

Good what is the age limit?