How often do you talk/text to your spouse during the day?

[SDFgirl]

I'm a SAHM.

DH and I IM each other a lot throughout the day while he is at work.

We probably talk on the phone once a day or so.

 

[dizluvah]

we talk at least once a day sometimes two or three times.... i never text anyone

 

[bicker]

How often do you talk/text to your spouse during the day?

Continually. Picking one day last week at random... (counting)... 72 pings (we use Microsoft Office Sharepoint Workspace to chat with each other). So figure 36 in each direction.

 

[bicker]

Believe it or not, sometimes we even have discussions which aid us professionally.

Us too.

 

[NHdisneylover]

We do not text (but DH gets his email on a blackberry which is similar I guess--in that he gets it no matter where he is). If something comes up that we need to handle we email or (occasionally) call. We can go for a couple of weeks with no daytime emails/calls and then something will be going on and we will have a dozen or so in a day.

After work, if DH is working at the home office (maybe on week out of every 6) he will often call me while he drives home (totally handsfree, built into the car system--no more dangerous than talking to me if I am sitting next to him) so we can talk about boring adult things and get that out of our system and have a nice family conversation at dinner. Otherwise, we skype every night for about an hour. Occasionally he will have a late dinner with colleagues and then sometime we have brief emails during that as well--often something comes up in conversation and the guys want me to look up the answer to a friendly dispute, etc and get back to them LOL.

I think the sun rises and sets on my DH--he is the love of my life. I don't feel compelled to be in constant contact with him though I don't mind others who do that (and have jobs that let them) but it always just seems foreign to me (likewise I am sure the idea of having a DH who travels a lot seems foreign to a lot of others).

 

[luvsJack]

Anywhere from 1-4 times a day. Dh is on the road 5-7 days a week. I usually call him on my way to work but if he is unloading/loading, in traffic or just unable to talk; we won't talk again until I am on my way home from work. He doesn't call me while I am at my desk unless its something he really needs to tell me right then. He calls every night to talk to me and to dd.

 

[beattyfamily]

We text tons each day and sometimes he sends me 'hello' videos and pics as well.

We talk at least 2-3 times a day as well.

 

[bicker]

I don't feel compelled to be in constant contact with him though

I think it actually works the other way for us: I don't feel compelled to refrain from being in "constant contant" with my wife. There is simply no good reason not to keep in touch throughout the day.

And I think it would be much worse if I have more not-strictly-business pings with a co-worker (the colleague I work with most is actually located in another office) than I have with my wife!

 

[NMAmy]

Not unless some kind of emergency has happened. I occasionally forward emails from his family but that's about it.

I call at the end of the day to remind him to come home. Sometimes he gets involved in a project and forgets what time it is. I'll call him to get an ETA so I can plan when to start dinner.

 

[MiniGirl]

We never text, and dh will call me a few times during the day when he is travelling. If he's not, he'll call only if he is going to be home late for lunch or something like that.

To each his own, but I'm one of those people that hates receiving/making calls and texts. Having dh call me and then text me more than 2 or 3 times a day would bother me. Yes, I hate when he is on a trip with a long layover and calls several times because he is bored and just wants to talk. I don't say anything, though, because I used to fly for a living to, so I know what it is like.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I think it actually works the other way for us: I don't feel compelled to refrain from being in "constant contant" with my wife. There is simply no good reason not to keep in touch throughout the day.

And I think it would be much worse if I have more not-strictly-business pings with a co-worker (the colleague I work with most is actually located in another office) than I have with my wife!

Interesting. I don't feel compelled to avoid the contact either--it just doesn't occur to me. Maybe it is because we have been a couple since long before cell phones were around to allow us to be in constant communication so we never got into that habit. Our early dating years were while we were both in college. We mostly saw each other after classes (in the evenings) and on weekends but rarely had the opportunity to see one another during the day time (different classes in different departments)--so it is what we have been used to (communicating in the evenings and on weekends/vacations) since we were teens

 

[Aisling]

I didn't know so many people talk to/text their spouses during the work day. I hate when I have to call my husband at work because I know he's always busy.

 

[dawn1620]

I have to be at work at 7am and DH gets DD ready and off to school, he goes in at 9am. I'll usually get a call in the morning because shoes can't be found or something along those lines. Then DH usually calls after he drops DD off at school just to say good morning. We usually text a couple of times during the day - usually about schedules or something like that. Sometimes we may call the other one just to say hi and see how the day is going. Then he usually calls before he heads home from work.

Some days we don't even talk until he gets home from work.

 

[Bren's Mom]

Dh and I talk if we need to. If something is going on at work and either of us needs to vent we might call each other. Or if I make an appointment for him or the kids and need to let him know I'll e-mail him. But mostly we're at work and we don't call just to chat. Usually we'll talk briefly when I leave work...I check in on his ETA, when he thinks he might be leaving work...that sort of thing. Or he might call me to say he had a meeting in another town and is going home right after and would I like him to pick up ds from daycare.

So, some days we'll talk/e-mail 1-3 times, other days not at all.

 

[joviroxx]

Only when there is some communication needed. Usually something to add to a to do list, a reminder or something about the kids. Otherwise, we catch up at home.

Well, we have been known to share an occasional family gossip item LOL

 

[alexandria674]

I just voicemail him a stupid joke or something because he works with the phone on silent so during his lunch he calls back asking "OK what was that?" He texts me if he tells me he is going to be late or something or what do I want him to pick up for dinner.

 

[daughtersrus]

The thread about the dh who was mad at his wife for not calling her got me thinking... How often do you talk to your partner during the day?

Dh will text me if we need to, but it is not an everyday thing. It is mostly about the kids and their schedules.

On the other hand my brother and his wife call or text each other all day long. He calls when he is on the road, he calls or texts when he gets to work.
I do not know how often he will call/text my SIL during the day, but she will often say he must be in a meeting because she has not heard from him. He calls when he leaves work and once he gets to a certain point on his travels home so she knows he will be home soon.

How about you, do you text/talk with each other all day??

Unless something really important is going on at home, zero. I wait until he gets home. He's got the kind of job that it isn't easy for him to even hear the phone let alone talk.

 

[java]

anywhere from 2-4 calls- quick pop in type of calls- last no more than 5 minutes.

 

[binny]

We dont really need to do either. He is sitting behind me in the office most days.
When he is on the road though we talk several times a day, especially if he is in his hotel working on a project. I will text him if I dont hear from him and he will answer me later if hes in a meeting.

 

[ilovejack02]

We text quite a bit during the day sometimes.
I am a SAHM, so he will call in the am to say good morning, or to talk to DS7 before school. He leaves at 4:30 am so we dont get to say good bye .

Usually its just a quick text to say Love you or to tell something funny that happened. Very rare we call during day besides the am phone call, unless it is an emergency.

I don't expect to hear from him and he doesn't expect to hear from me. When we have really busy days, we may not communicate at all.

I enjoy hearing from him and he is the same, but no one gets upsets if it is a quiet day.

He had surgery yesterday and is in alot of pain and can't move arm at all. He is totally dependent on me right now, when I got out of shower yesterday he had sent me a text telling me how much he appreciated help and he loves me.

I had another one waiting for me when I got up this am, lol he must have been awake in the middle of night and sent it to me .