How much to give for a wedding gift?

[jerseygirl81]

It's been years since we have been to a wedding. We were invited to a family wedding, the wedding is a couple of hours away in PA and I could'nt get a sitter for our DS who is autistic so DH is going alone. I'm not really sure how much people are giving as gifts these days, I realize it differs by state and by how fancy the wedding is. It's in PA at a country club and its my nephews wedding and DH is going alone. Thanks, Linda

 

[4under4]

I know it differs by location/family/etc. etc. etc. so take this as just my two cents. For us, extended family is usually $50-$100 (depending on how close we are to the couple).

 

[jackskellington01]

I know it differs by location/family/etc. etc. etc. so take this as just my two cents. For us, extended family is usually $50-$100 (depending on how close we are to the couple).

I agree

 

[jerseygirl81]

Thank you I was going to give $100 but was'nt sure if it was enough now I feel more comfortable with it. Linda

 

[jackskellington01]

Honestly I think $100 is perfect and since your husband is going by himself it is more than sufficient.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

I always give what I can afford to.

If the couple really wanted us there because they love us and wanted to share their big day with us, then they will understand we can't afford to dish out $$$ to "cover the plate." If they only invited us because they wanted lots of gifts, then I don't want to give them $$$ anyways.

 

[MAH4546]

I usually give between $125 and $200 per person invited, depending how close I am ton them.

 

[a1tinkfans]

It's been years since we have been to a wedding. We were invited to a family wedding, the wedding is a couple of hours away in PA and I could'nt get a sitter for our DS who is autistic so DH is going alone. I'm not really sure how much people are giving as gifts these days, I realize it differs by state and by how fancy the wedding is. It's in PA at a country club and its my nephews wedding and DH is going alone. Thanks, Linda

I read the first line only...how much to give..
I always say, give what your heart and pocketbook dictates...it is so much more that you can share in the couples day...at least thats my take.....

 

[java]

With a nephew, I am thinking $200 for one person. We gave my DH's cousin $500 but both of us went and it was in NY. Are you giving a shower gift as well? If not I would bump up the $100.

 

[okeydokey]

$50-$100 would be in my budget too.

 

[mjkacmom]

If the wedding was here in NJ, I'd say $200, but I'm guessing that far into PA, $100 would be more the norm.

Here's our wedding dilema. DH's step niece is getting married in ND. Due to the cost of the flight ($500+), he is going alone. He will pay for a rental car (hotel is 2 hours from the airport), and 2 nights at a hotel. We did not attend the shower, or send a gift. I have absolutely NO idea what her parents gave us at our wedding.

If the wedding was here, and just DH was going, we'd give $250. However, with all this is costing us for him to go, I was thinking $100, especially since I'm guessing most of the guests won't be giving huge gifts (and we've had many unexpected expenses this summer).

 

[Kirby]

I always give what I can afford to.

If the couple really wanted us there because they love us and wanted to share their big day with us, then they will understand we can't afford to dish out $$$ to "cover the plate." If they only invited us because they wanted lots of gifts, then I don't want to give them $$$ anyways.

Same way here. I don't believe in "covering the plate". If you are expected to help with covering your meal at the reception, then the wedding couple should have chosen a less expensive one to begin with. I realize that this is the norm for some areas of the country, so I'm glad I don't live there.

Recently my niece was married in another state a little over four hours away from here at a resort. I went online and picked out a gift and had it shipped to her. Total cost, including shipping and handling was about $70. We spent about $800 in addition for gas, lodging and food to attend the wedding. I figure she got a very nice gift.

With the economy today, forget where you live and what is "expected". Give what you can. The wedding couple should be grateful to receive anything.

 

[DisneyYahoo]

OP - I think $100 is a fabulous gift amount. I wouldn't go any higher, but that is us.

 

[jerseygirl81]

Thank you for all the responses, I don't want to be a cheapskate but I also don't want to spend more than we can afford. Linda

 

[burberryplaid]

I'd give $100 total for a friend or non immediate family members.

We gave my brother in-law $250 for his wedding 2 years ago but he's immediate family and it was at a super fancy hotel in Boston.

 

[AZMermaid]

We give $50ish to distant relatives and coworker type people, $100 to cousins and friends, and $200 to close family and good friends. I think $100 is totally acceptable and generous!

 

[pigletto]

For us it really depends on the budget and how close we are to the couple.
I think your gift sounds more than fine
I know for a fact when I got married I wouldn't have ever looked at anything someone brought and thought it wasn't enough! And hopefully most people feel the same.
As someone else mentioned, out of town weddings can get expensive as well!
We have one this weekend and all four of us are attending. 2 nights hotel, gas, travel expenses like food, full outfits for all of us for the rehearsal, full wedding attire, gifts, 2 bridal showers (one of which I threw), hair cuts for all of us, coloring for me, nail appointments..
Well.. for this wedding we are probably close to 1800. (why in the world did I tally that up!!??!!!)
However, this is my baby brothers wedding and a really really big deal to me. And it is 6 hours away.

For a friend or cousin? We might spend in the 200 range for the two of us.

 

[aprilgail2]

I usually give between $125 and $200 per person invited, depending how close I am ton them.

This is about what I do too

 

[Nina1]

$100 for a PA wedding is more than enough. We have family living there and that seems to be the average amount most people give. When my cousin got married there, most of the gifts were in that range, with more and less given based on the relationship.

 

[kirstenb1]

If the wedding was here in NJ, I'd say $200, but I'm guessing that far into PA, $100 would be more the norm.

Here's our wedding dilema. DH's step niece is getting married in ND. Due to the cost of the flight ($500+), he is going alone. He will pay for a rental car (hotel is 2 hours from the airport), and 2 nights at a hotel. We did not attend the shower, or send a gift. I have absolutely NO idea what her parents gave us at our wedding.

If the wedding was here, and just DH was going, we'd give $250. However, with all this is costing us for him to go, I was thinking $100, especially since I'm guessing most of the guests won't be giving huge gifts (and we've had many unexpected expenses this summer).

I think 100.00 is fine in both the OP's situation, and yours.