How many times do you forgive someone...?

[Princess Ash]

...if they are outside your family and they have hurt you emotionally (DEF not physically) multiple times before?

Not going into specifics because I don't want to...

How many times do you forgive someone? ("You" being collective or personal)

Is it 70X7 like God says...? Or is there a point where the human heart says "I have had enough!"?

What are your thoughts?

 

[Sparx]

it really depends for me. if someone keeps playing with my emotions and hurting me, I'd probably forgive them once or twice (I odn't like to be toyed with) but if someone (say a boyfriend) hit me out of anger, I'd never forgive him. if someone wronged me, I would forgive them a few times. I guess it all depends on the situation.

And ash, whatever you happen to be going through, we're all here for you, and you can always send me a message or pm.

 

[pacificnorthwester]

In my church we say if you don't forgive someone you're comitting the greater sin because the savior forgave you and died for you. Like that parable about the Forgiving of the debts.

 

[Starfire]

...if they are outside your family and they have hurt you emotionally (DEF not physically) multiple times before?

Not going into specifics because I don't want to...

How many times do you forgive someone? ("You" being collective or personal)

Is it 70X7 like God says...? Or is there a point where the human heart says "I have had enough!"?

What are your thoughts?

I was always forgiving my friend all the time. In the end we ended up not being friends anymore

 

[polysisterchick]

let me see if i can get this out......

I try forgive.. but it's hard for me to forget if what a certain person

There are some people that i can forgive completely and forget whatever happened, but for some reason there are the select few, who push my buttons so much, that i finally have to throw my hands up in frustration and walk off from that person. I have this one friend, Jesse. While in Disney this past trip, she called me shallow. long story (not looking for sympathy) she claims she was teasing but i dunno when she said it.... we were in an argument and my 2 friends and i really thought she meant it. I forgave her..but it still hurts. even now, i don't know how to act around her.

There's no way i could forgive someone 70x7 times without saying I've had enough. But that's also why I'm not God. and i know i am supposed to forgive... but it's hard.
I WISH i could forgive that many times, I know God tells me too..
but i'm human and sometimes my character will be so hurt that i feel it's impossible to forgive *yet that is not a good excuse, there really is no goog reason/excuse that will excuse a person from forgiving*

i try to forgive as best as i can, whether a person hurts me physically or emotionally.. i try. but that doesn't mean i always will..

Geez.. my thoughts are still jumbled.. that's not really exactly what i wanted to say but it'll do for now..

like shelby said, whatever you are going through - we're here for you and reaching us is only one pm away

 

[splishy]

ok well first i guess it kinda depends on the situation. coz if the person thats hurt you was hurting and was accidently lashing out at people they cared about due to another unrelated situation then it would be easier to forgive, maybe not forget but forgive and try to move on.

if the person did it out of spite then a definate no to forgiving. (im not religious at all and iv always been taught to do what i believe to be right and stand up for what my opinions are so im not saying people shouldnt live by religious teachings on forgivness, i just dont coz im not) unless of course it was someone who has otherwise been nothing but good to you until that point in which case you'd then need to rebuild trust there.

hope this is in some way, whether that be normal or a screwed up rambling way , helps you

 

[MuNkY]

Depends on how bad it is. If it's something small, I don't really care. Give them and don't do it again and get past it. If it's bad, I go by a three strike rule. They do it once, warning, twice, I confront them. Three times and I hold a grudge.

 

[LizzySwan1022]

I continually forgive those who wrong me, but I can never bring myself to forget what they did. I try to think of it like this, "If they died tomarrow, would I really want the last thing I said to them to be 'I hate you' or 'I'll never forgive you'?" The answer is always no, if they toy with me emothionaly, I'll say "I forgive you, but I can't be around you right now, I need to think." Remember that time heals all wounds.

 

[Sparx]

I agree with the other posters who said "forgive but never forget" I may not be angry about it, but I'll remember when you do something wrong to me. I guess I'm just to paranoid to be able to forget those things about people.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

Depends on what they did. I can usually let is slide and forgive them, but something I just can't deal with. Like liars. One of my friends keeps lying to me, and I hardly speak to her anymore. I actually haven't seen her all summer. And if you put down something that I feel strongly about, then I doubt that I'll forgive you, or atleast forget that you said/did that. It also depends on how much I value that person. If its just a friend that I see in school or sports occasionally, then I usually don't forgive them/forget about what they did. But if its a very close friend, then I usually will forgive, again depending on the circumstances.

Its very complicated!!

 

[Babyjustrun]

Honestly, I'm a pushover.
Don't be one. Honestly, I let a friend hurt me emotionally on different levels so many times and I kept on forgiving her. It was stupid, only give them fair chances don't do it for three or four years. Give them a few months. I've gone through depressive times because of this friend bringing me down.