How many times a day

[PrincessKsMom]

I know I'll get slammed for this, but here goes.

I'm a secretary. I answer phones all day. Can I tell you how many wives call 5, 6, 7, 8 times a day? I know it's not my business and if there's something going on fine, but your husband works for a living. So let him. When I tell you he's in a meeting don't say "Oh, I'll call him on his cell." I just told you he's in a meeting. Or if he tells you he'll be out at a meeting until 3, don't start calling at 1 because you thought he might be back early. I deal with spouses (both wives and husbands/SOs) all day and 95% of them are fine. They even acknowledge me when they call and vice versa. Or they have a set time the usually call each day. However, the other 5% call repeatedly and act like they've never spoken to you before. And then they call back 15 minutes later. "Oh, did he get back yet? No, okay no message, I'll call again." Great, thanks, looking forward to it.

 

[MIGrandma]

I voted never since there wasn't an "occasional" or "other" option.

Normally we would only call if there is an emergency. I do call him if he is farming, at lunch time, to find out where I need to bring his lunch. But other than that I leave him alone to, well... work. His brother-in-law, on the other hand, calls and bothers him several times a day. He's the type that needs the cell phone glued to his ear all day. DH won't say anything to him about it because they do work together. It bugs the heck out of him though.

 

[SpecialK]

Only if there's an emergency.

 

[Pakey]

Never. I don't take personal calls/texts while at work. I wouldn't want my staff doing it so I try to set a good example.

 

[Colleen27]

Some days too many to count, others none at all. DH is self-employed and I'm his entire office staff, so it really depends on the volume and nature of calls coming in, if he needs directions to a job site, etc.

 

[Disnydad]

I voted "so many I can't count" as we own our own small business and work together.

 

[MushyMushy]

I know I'll get slammed for this, but here goes.

I'm a secretary. I answer phones all day. Can I tell you how many wives call 5, 6, 7, 8 times a day? I know it's not my business and if there's something going on fine, but your husband works for a living. So let him. When I tell you he's in a meeting don't say "Oh, I'll call him on his cell." I just told you he's in a meeting. Or if he tells you he'll be out at a meeting until 3, don't start calling at 1 because you thought he might be back early. I deal with spouses (both wives and husbands/SOs) all day and 95% of them are fine. They even acknowledge me when they call and vice versa. Or they have a set time the usually call each day. However, the other 5% call repeatedly and act like they've never spoken to you before. And then they call back 15 minutes later. "Oh, did he get back yet? No, okay no message, I'll call again." Great, thanks, looking forward to it.

That would suck! If the husband has a cell, email or direct line they should only be contacting him on that except for emergencies.

I would never bother the receptionist where my husband works unless it was urgent.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

That would suck! If the husband has a cell, email or direct line they should only be contacting him on that except for emergencies.

I would never bother the receptionist where my husband works unless it was urgent.

Unfortunately we answer their direct lines. The problem is when even the husband can't be bothered and sees it's his wife calling and doesn't want to pick up. Again, most spouses are wonderful, but there are the exceptions to the rule. They feel the need to tell their hubby (in this case) that they went to the park, had a snack, are back at the house, what would you like for dinner, will you be home for dinner, will you be home to put the children to bed... If you need to tell your spouse about every last thing going on with your day, you either need to work together or set up an internet camera.

 

[Handbag Lady]

It was hard to answer. We work in the same industry and sometimes we're coordinating for the same movie title, so we talk more but it isn't personal.

Sometimes, we need to settle something for a weekend trip so it is more often than usual.

Sometimes, one of us is so busy, there is nothing.

Sometimes, one of the people we know and work with does something really dumb or funny or sarcastic and we'll both jump in on the office ribbing that occurs. Like the time one of our guys loaned the Craig Ferguson white rabbit (not the real one from the show, but one from the same puppet maker and it is identical) to my husband and one night I was cooking spaghetti and this white rabbit pokes it's head beyond my stove and starts cussing me out in a Scottish accent, it was REALLY funny and you had to know the background... but that story lasted a week.

 

[PatsMom]

I answered never but its actually more like a few times a year. My husband is retired so I could call him anytime, but I am at work to work, not make personal phone calls. For the same reason, he doesn't call me.

Even before he retired there was a time we worked in the same building and rode to work together. Between parking the car and meeting at the car, the only reason we might talk would be if one of us had to work late.

I am a salaried employee, so I have to get my work done. If I mess around with personal calls, I will end up working later or on the weekends to make up the time. I really don't have anything exciting enough to say to my husband to make up for that.

I will say though that one of my jobs is monitoring employee e-mails. Everyone knows the company has the ability and reserves the right to review your e-mail. You would be amazed at some of the smut a few people will wirte to their spouse/significant other. Way beyond R rated! I just kind of pass over those when I realize they are that personal unless someone is really creative!

 

[Hutchy]

Currently he's deployed so we talk once a day on yahoo chat. When he's home he works in a concrete hangar and has zero phone service and since I'm used to him being gone so much and not talking to him during the day it's not an issue. If there is an emergency or I just really HAVE to get him a message I can call the number at the hangar and get someone to find him. I think I've done that twice in over 5 years. The last time I called the guy that answered almost panicked when he realized it was me because they all know I never call! lol

 

[ziggystardust]

i picked 4-6 but its almost always texts. Just silly, wow, its really nice out today or i'm bored.

I sit at a computer all day and have plenty of free texting time and he's actually doing physical work, so he'll text me in between jobs (probably on his cigarette breaks).
We very rarely are on the phone with each other.

The girl in the cubical behind me is a different story. She's on the phone with her husband for the majority of the work day (that is, after he wakes up at noon) and almost always getting into crazy fights that the entire office hears.

 

[Carlyzmom]

I chose 1-3 times, but it's more like 0-1 times.

 

[Kae]

DH & I work together, so it is alot. Now when we didn't maybe once a day, if that but that was before Texting, we did have cell phones but I kept in my purse not with me. I was a Hair Designer.

Kae

 

[Pigeon]

I said never, which isn't exactly true. It's more like once or twice a month.

 

[scrapquitler]

My Husband works (about 90% of the time) at home, and I am mostly SAHM (I work a per-diem job, about 15 hours a month). Therefore, we are both home almost always. When one of us is not at home (a day that he is at the office or I am at work), we text a few times per hour. Barely talk on the phone those days, but texting and IM, non-stop.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

DH and I keep a chat window open for most of the day. We aren't talking to each other constantly, but we're always there if the other needs us. Really, it's no different than if he were in the office next to me and we were shouting to one another through the doors...except quieter.

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

I only call DH if I have something specific to ask or tell him, so maybe 1 to 3 times a week. He is often in meetings or secure areas and when he is at his desk he is busy.

He calls me every day, right before he leaves to see if I need him to stop and pick up anything.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

If we can call each other, we do. But we usually shoot random texts whenever we can.

 

[Mama-san]

My DH calls me everyday on his lunch break. It's nice. At his previous job it was once a day too, but it would be to give me an idea of how late he was going to be. Back then, he as so busy I didn't feel like I could call him unless it was an emergency. Now things are much better. I think our little daily chats have been helpful to our relationship (along with his getting new job).