My husband did a lot of the communication with our SM as he is much better at negotiating and clearly stating what we wanted. We took on the task of wedding planning as a joint venture and together we made conference calls for many of our vendors and such. He was the one that initially found and interviewed our DJ, and bagpiper, as well as some other vendors that we considered using. For us it was also about who was avaialble when regarding making phone calls and returning emails. So no, you're not alone. I know of other husbands/fiance's who have done quite a bit of the wedding planning process.