how many couples do this on new years??

[bambii]

my husband went to a neighbors house to have a few drinks and i dont feel comfortable at a party when people are drinking. everyone i see does things as a couple on new years.. but that is how we are... is anyone else like that or are we a rare couple...

 

[mr.bungle]

it's a little strange imo. but hey you're you and do what you feel is right. are you meeting up with him before midnight so you can have a smooch and ring in the new year?

 

[Lanshark]

If this works for you then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

 

[kirbsam]

lighten up and go join him.

 

[Dan Murphy]

I think it is just fine, bambii, and certainly no need to lighten up, your thoughts and feelings are yours, and what they are is fine.

And a very Happy New Year to, you and hubby, and your boys also.

 

[Micca]

DW and I have agreed that "dragging the spouse to something they don't want to attend" is no good for anyone. This idea has worked for us for 34 years.

 

[Illuminations_Rocks]

DW and I have agreed that "dragging the spouse to something they don't want to attend" is no good for anyone. This idea has worked for us for 34 years.

As a newlywed, we agree with this! Honestly, if DH doesn't want to be there, he tails me (which I find annoying) or he will just sit somewhere and then I'll feel bad that he's not having fun. So... I leave him at home (or he does me, he likes bars which I just do not).

I don't know about New Years, as well we've only had 3 together and they've all been together, but I don't think you're strange!

 

[chisnpeke]

Nothing wrong with it at all. I don't feel too comfortable around people drinking either, so I choose not to go to parties that will have alcohol. Happy 2009 Bambii!!!

 

[Mermaid02]

As long as you don't mind him going and he doesn't mind going without you- what's the problem?? Happy New Year!

 

[BaxFam]

If this works for you then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

I totally agree!
I would never make my husband sit through something he was uncomfortable or bored with.

I did see on another thread that a lady was planning on taking her kids on a cruise w/o the husband, because he didn't want to go.

I would hate for my husband to miss the family time, but if he was against it, I certainly wouldn't force him!

 

[DawnM]

DH is not nearly as sociable as I am....I go without him all the time!

Dawn

 

[eliza61]

DH is not nearly as sociable as I am....I go without him all the time!

Dawn

That's us! Some times he'll go but if he declines we have no problem splitting up. I go and he stays home. We've been married 24 years though so we definitely don't sweat the small stuff.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

We were not together this year because he had to work. We both drink so that is not an issue.

I do think it is odd to not go to a get together because people are drinking, however it is up to you to do what you feel is right for yourself.

 

[dimimi]

We were not together this year because he had to work. We both drink so that is not an issue.

I do think it is odd to not go to a get together because people are drinking, however it is up to you to do what you feel is right for yourself.

I agree. I am curious how your evening ended? At our house, if one of us does not want to go somewhere, my DH and I would have probably stayed together. However, most of the time when people get together, they have a drink...it may be alcohol, it may be soda....my husband and I are drinkers, however, since our 20's I can't remember ever seeing someone "drunk." I think you'd have a good time if you don't concentrate on what people are drinking.