I tell dd what chores she has to do and she does them. Since I am not working right now my dh only does the 'outside' chores and any really heavy ones inside. I do the vast majority of the chores, of course, but I base the number of chores that I ask dd to do on what extracurricular activities she is involved with at the time, i.e., don't ask her to do much/anything during certain sport seasons, during heavy speech competitions etc.