How do you talk your spouse into going?

[fanofdisney]

We have been talking about going this Christmas. Dh keeps saying he wants to wait and see how our money goes. It's 3 months away so we need to get booking! I say pay for what we can, and use our Disney Visa for the rest. We're trying to get pregnant again, so I want to go now because I know if we have a baby it will be a while!

Any tips?

 

[bigbabyblues]

In our house, there's no talking anyone into it at all. We decide together when we're going to go, find out how much it will cost, and save the money to pay for it. lf we don't get the $ together, we would cancel, but that hasn't happened to us.

Does your DH realize that Christmas week (that's me assuming when you're going, since you said at Christmas) is the busiest week of the year, and you need to do some ADR's and planning if you'll go then?

l hope you get to go!

 

[jennilouwho]

We had planned on going again in 2009, but I get pretty sick when I'm pregnant and I had a pretty crazy delivery (ending in a c-section) with my first. We want 3 or 4 children though, so after having my son, I told him that I am going to have to go to my happy place again before I am able to supress everything to have another child. Worked fine and we're going in December of next year! He doesn't mind going there, but he doesn't want to do any of the planning, which is fine with me! I live for planning!

 

[fanofdisney]

FYI- We're talking about the first week of December.

 

[blanq]

Well, this is how it works in my house. I say to DH, "We're going to WDW; I booked the trip ." DH says "Okay. Sounds good. When do we leave?"

It's a bit easier in my household, since I am the designated travel planner. We travel several times per year, and not always to WDW. Our family (DH, DS-13, and me) have a long list of places we want to visit so everyone is on board with where we go. We also have a yearly budget for travel, so I work within the guidelines we have established. I am the one who determines the when and handles the details. It works for us.

Anyway, obviously your DH has some reservations about this for some reason, so I wouldn't recommend springing a "We're going to WDW, honey" surprise on him. I am not sure what "we'll see how our money goes" means; your DH seems to being a bit passive with this statement. Does he want to go? Can you afford to go? Is your DH concerned about the extra expenses a new baby is going to add to your HH and is he possibly feeling overwhelmed with the prospect of a new baby and a costly trip to WDW? If you both want to go, then how about sitting down together and writing out a plan to get you there. Maybe Christmas is too soon for you. I understand you are trying to add to your family, but maybe putting that off for just a couple of months, and going to WDW a few months later, allowing for a few more months of saving, might be an option.

 

[cdrn1]

It was pretty easy for me; all we had to do was have a grandchild. He had never been prior to DGD and steadfastly refused. DGD is 2.5 and she has been three times, and Grandpa has been twice with her!

 

[cleo]

I agree completely with blanq. If you have to talk someone into it, there's probably a good reason to at least sit down and figure it out together, or hold off on your plans altogether.

I'd find out if there is another reason he doesn't want to go, since he's just a tiny bit vague about the money issue. That may be his only worry or he may feel overwhelmed with the idea of a baby AND an expensive trip.

What about making a trip in late January/early February as a joint 'Christmas gift'? It would mean delaying your baby-making plans, but if you really want the trip, that would be an ideal time to go. You wouldn't necessarily need ADR's (which, I think, are sometimes a bit of an 'excuse' for pushing to get things booked ) and the parks will be MUCH more pleasant for touring.

Also, if money is tight, I would think there are some places you could agree to cut back on if you go (ADR's being one of them), which would also give you some time to work out finances.

 

[jennilouwho]

By the way, I do think if you can't pay for it up front, it's best to wait. I can see where his concerns our if you can't really afford it right now. We're saving for our trip, plus we have tons of VISA points. If it turns out we can't afford to go next Dec, we won't be going..

 

[AKLRULZ]

Fortunately she's a fan! Good luck!

 

[cosmo531]

I usually just say "hey..lets go to Disney today". Then she says "yes".
we throw some drinks/snacks in the car and take off.

sometimes the roles are reversed.

 

[ajcolorado]

We're kind of the reverse. My husband is the Disney guy and I, frankly, am feeling like I've done Disney for awhile. But my husband is such a good guy - he continues to be loving to our 19 year old who is breaking his heart. He's making personal sacrifice so that I can pursue something that is important to me. He's polite to my relatives, even when they drive him a little crazy. So, if he wants to go to WDW again - and he does, we're leaving on Thursday - well, I'll go. It is a pretty pathetic personal sacrifice on my part.

So my suggestion...maybe being wonderful will work.

 

[MinnieGirl33]

I say, "We're going on ____"

because if momma ain't happy ain't nobody happy

Seriously, he has been converted & really looks forward to our trips as much as I do - even if he won't admit it until 2 weeks before we leave.

 

[Micca]

I used to have to convince DW that we needed to go. When DD became a CM, the decision to go became much simpler.

 

[mking624]

DH usually says "we're not coming back for awhile" once we hit the last day of our trip....and we usually go again the next year. But typically, there's some reason why we're going again. In 2003, it was because of Star Wars Weekends...my costuming club had been invited for the first time to march in the parades. So we went. In 2004, it was because I was a Disney Store CM and we wanted to take advantage of my discounts. In 2005, I still had some remaining free tickets from being a CM plus we wanted to see the 50th celebration. This year, it's because of free dining. I don't need a reason to go back, but DH usually does (he needs a reason to do ANYTHING)...how convenient there's always a reason! I take it as a sign from God.

 

[cdrn1]

I usually just say "hey..lets go to Disney today". Then she says "yes".
we throw some drinks/snacks in the car and take off.

sometimes the roles are reversed.

LUCKY!!!!!!

 

[NC State]

Husband and I love Disney, our daughter is 20 and not at home much. So we both plan together and can't wait to go again, just 54 more days!

 

[monorailsilver]

How I talk my dh into a Disney trip is to not go on any vacations for a few years.

This way he will want/need a vacation & will tell me to just book it.

I did that for the past 2 trips (well last year not so much but 2002 more so).

I have 3 kids now & I remind him I like to go when they are free. We took dd#1 when she was 15 mo, ds when he was 22 mo & now dd#2 is 6 months but I will wait til she is 2.5 since she will still be free so that leads me into 2008.

I was going to plan a beach vacation next year but I think I am not going to this way dh will REALLY need a vacation.

Plus he told me I have to have it paid off before I go & I told him I want to go for 10 days so I have to work on paying it off now.

Good luck

 

[cosmo531]

LUCKY!!!!!!

yes, and I thank God every day for it. We're close enough to do day-trips (but usually stay at least one night).

Its nostalgic for us too, as Wifey and I had our fist date at WDW.

 

[fanofdisney]

So much for that. We were at lunch today, and dh said "so are we going to Disney or what?"

 

[disneypharm]

For several years, I kept asking DH to go to Disneyland for vacations. He remembered going to DL and WDW with his parents and all he talked about was long lines, heat, and expense!! In spring of 2003, our second child was just turning 3. DH was planning a golf trip with his friends in Las Vegas. I convinced him to drive to Las Vegas with us (me, DD5 and DD3, and my parents). He could stay in Las Vegas for 3 days golfing and then he could join the family at Disneyland later. That trip turned out to be a great trip. He loved it so much that he wanted to do it again in WDW. He is now the planner for our Disney vacations. He takes care of everything, booking, ADR, schedules and so on!!