How do you talk your spouse into going?

[pigletforever]

DH has never been and I told him I wanted one last BIG family vacation before DS17 goes to college next fall. DH said plan it. I have already talked him in to going back next fall if there is a special (Free Dining or something like it) We will be taking MIL then because she has never been either. Usually on any vacation DH doesn't care where we go as long as I do the details and just tell him when and what to pack and when to be at the airport. So we usually go where I find a good bargain.

 

[mmmcq]

Maybe do a little pre-work - call and find out what's available in the resort that would be your first choice and 2nd choice and what the cost would be. Add in DDP or not, park tickets, check airfare, etc. And then work out a budget to show him. Don't forget MVMCP or Candlelight Processional if you're inclined to go. Although this could actually make him more uncomfortable with going - if the cost is too high. But I would think you'd want to find out one way or another...soon. If it is a question of cost - offer to take a lower cost alternative hotel than perhaps you'd like. Try to find discount air (we're flying in and out of Tampa on Southwest because we got tickets for $200/RT/each) which might mean staying longer.

In my case we hadn't been to WDW since 4/04 and this past April we gave up ressies for a Disney cruise and 5 days at WDW to go visit his parents in CA (recently relocated there) and his brother in Tuscon,AZ all on the same trip (because DH had a conference in AZ which messed up our vacation). We spent way more on that trip on cross country airfare, house rental, 5 star hotel, cars, meals, etc. than we would have on WDW and cruise.

So when looking ahead to 07 and where we might vacation and when.....(trip with DH's family is in the planning stage - all 20 of us - do I have to go??????)..and I realized that we wouldn't have a week to ourselves again - our family for two years.

So I mentioned that I thought we ought to make the time by taking the kids out of school for a few days, that it ought to be special (oldest DD goes to college next Aug) as in Thanksgiving/Christmas and that it ought to be WDW. Unfortunately......he had no recourse since I was such a sport about ditching our WDW plans this year to rebook an extended DHfamily trip in CA & AZ. He owed me! He said "sounds like a good idea", which of course was the "right" answer.

Best of luck.

 

[Tiffer]

sexy lingerie!!!


KIDDING!!! I learned my lesson, he is a non-WDW lover! So I used to leave him at home! Now I am getting divorced. I wonder if that had anything to do with it??

 

[arielsleepingbeauty]

I say "Hey I am taking the girls to WDW in May, are you coming with us?"

 

[mmmcq]

fanofdisney - Gosh, how did I miss your post....... Yeah, yeah.....now you can plan away. Way to be patient. Sometimes just waiting and laying low works!

Have fun.

 

[ricktib]

"Pretty please? We'll eat at Ohana this time." (DW's fav. restaurant on the planet)

 

[twoeeyy]

My husband could care less if we go on vacation ( but once we are there he has a good time ) So I do all the planing.

We were not going this year until about 2 weeks ago I got such a good 'DING" fare that when he got home I told him we were going to WDW in Oct.

We are both self-employed so getting time off is not an issue.

 

[ssleblanc]

...how convenient there's always a reason! I take it as a sign from God.

You can't argue with that!

I'm still trying to convince mine. He isn't going this trip because he can't take off of work during the middle of a semester, and my trip is planned around a business trip at Coronado Springs. He was unsure of taking the kids and spending that money, but after he indulged in something that was very expensive and could be considered a waste of money (he knew this and was hesistant to tell me) - I didn't get angry like he expected, I just looked up and said, that's ok, I'm taking the kids with me to Disneyworld in September, it is going to cost me a lot less than that. He couldn't argue.

I am trying to convince him to go next summer. He's never been to WDW and isn't too excited to go. But I think that the kids are working on him and we should be able to fit a trip in next summer. For me, I'll have to convince him we can afford it (we can - I just need to provide him the numbers to prove it - and I will only go if we can fully pay beforehand without going into debt), and have the kids beg.

 

[AnninIowa]

Let him know there won't be anymore trying-for-a-baby until you return from your trip!

 

[i3utterfli82]

DH was not excited about going to Disney...rather take a cruise.

I decided Disney would be better for DD, and I booked the trip.

He has no choice now!!

He has warmed up and is getting excited...especially because I booked the dining package (We LOVE food!)

Plus he wants to drink around the world in Epcot

 

[Leota]

Congrats & have fun planning!

I used to have to wait years between trips to WDW with DH. Half of my trips were without him because he didn't really want to go. Now, all I have to do is say "Why don't we go down to WDW for _____?" & he says "Sounds great".

I think he's been converted.

 

[bigbabyblues]

FYI- We're talking about the first week of December.

I'd love to go during that time, I'm jealous!!!

 

[mom_of_5]

We talked about it for years, DH always putting it off saying we will see how money goes. Well this year I just made the plans told him when he needed to take off for vacation and then asked him to kindly pay the travel agent for our Disney trip. He agreed that is was about time and did not argue, I think he liked the fact that I took charge and did everything (except pay) without him having to be involved.

 

[helenm29]

Since my husband is already a Disney freak, it's NOT a problem! usually, he's the one to suggest it...I just run with the idea! He just has to be very careful when he even mentions going. We tend to go about every three years so I know when "it's time". It's just getting a little more difficult to get the family all together to go because my oldest is 19 and going to be going to college full time this next year. I just don't know if it would be the same without him! Will the magic still be there? Helen

 

[js]

After being married 16 years, I learned there should be no talking involved in trying to "talk" your spouse into doing something
I've been able to take multiple trips a year with this method