How do you know you are done having kids ?

[deerhart]

2 bouts of preeclampsia and finding out that any more pregnancies would result in blood thinners for the entire 9 months at my copay being 20-40% of 3k each month....

So a vasectomy (dh had it done almost 6 years ago when he was 28) was our only option and if we want any more kids adoption is it. We have discussed it because we would love a little girl (as we have 2 boys) but then its hard to disrupt the life we currently have and figuring out how it would all work is difficult.

 

[LisaNJ25]

When my 3rd child as 3 months old and I for pregnant with my 4th. DH had the vasectomy before #4 was even born. I wasnt taking any chances.


Good luck with whatever route you take.

 

[busyshrew]

You mentioned that your DH is Vietnamese.

I would not assume that for you two, adoption from Vietnam is out of the question even if they are "closed" to international adoption. It was my understanding that most asian countries continue to expedite adoption to families where one or both of the parents-to-be are of the same race/nationality.

 

[pyrxtc]

You mentioned that your DH is Vietnamese.

I would not assume that for you two, adoption from Vietnam is out of the question even if they are "closed" to international adoption. It was my understanding that most asian countries continue to expedite adoption to families where one or both of the parents-to-be are of the same race/nationality.

Thanks, I'll have to look into that. Looked into it and found that you can go to that country and adopt but cannot bring the child back to the US with you. New laws will be signed in may and should be passed by the end of this year.

I wonder if after that, we could go there and adopt and then bring a child back with us instead of going thru a US adoption agency and paying their fees. MIL could easily translate everything for us and she knows her way around and hotels/food/airfare, all of that.

 

[foltzy]

We originally wanted 4 kids. After we had dd we thought maybe 2 more, after ds we knew we were done. We're really happy with the 2 we have.

 

[*pixie*dust*]

You mentioned that your DH is Vietnamese.

I would not assume that for you two, adoption from Vietnam is out of the question even if they are "closed" to international adoption. It was my understanding that most asian countries continue to expedite adoption to families where one or both of the parents-to-be are of the same race/nationality.

If a country is currently open for adoption, even on a limited basis, people of the same ethnicity are sometimes expedited. If a country is closed though there is no expedition. Vietnam has a history of opening and closing it's adoption program due to corruption in the system. They are working hard to improve the system.
I would highly recommend looking at other countries that are currently open such as Russia and Khazakstan where children of mixed ethnicity Caucasion/Asian are often available. Also, please don't forget there are grants and loans available to adoptive parents as well as the 12K tax credit that can be used to offset costs.

 

[ShannonMB]

I found this link for you. It may be of interest. They can still harvest sperm from your DHs testes without a reversal, then do IVF. Just another option to consider...

http://www.malereproduction.com/ivf_vs_vasectomy_reversal.html

 

[disney-super-mom]

I never really knew for sure that I was done having kids until I went to a baby shower recently. I was looking at the mommy-to-be while she was opening her gifts and found myself thinking, "I'm soooooo glad that's not me."

That's when it hit me that I'm really and truly content with my family as it is (two boys, ages 10 and 6, and a great husband of 18 years).

 

[pyrxtc]

When I see babies I wish they were mine and I had more. I think that speaks in itself that I don't feel done. Oh, but to start over... would be fun anyways !