How do you feel about this for a thank you note

[jeepgirl30]

My DS8 attended a bday party last week and already received a thank you! At first thought though, I was a bit , it was a form letter basically with To ____ and the kid filled in my son's name, then a typed note saying thank you for your gift and for coming to my party, I hope you had a good time. Then signed by the kid.

I don't really care either way for us but I know some people are very picky on thank yous! Is this wrong to do? Would you be offended?

I'm asking because DS's party is coming and I'm thinking of perhaps going this route. We usually do the note cards, i write what he wants to say on a piece of paper and he copies it onto the card.

 

[JaneBanks]

I wouldn't be offended in the slightest! Sounds pretty cute actually!

 

[luvmy3]

Wouldn't bother me at all.

 

[pixiedustaholic]

Way better than no thank you at all!

 

[Hoodie]

My aunt had my cousin do this. She did include a space for the item that was given.

I don't have a problem with it. They're pretty young to start writing thank you cards by themselves.

That said, I think I'd end the practice by 10ish.

 

[MissyDVC]

No problem with it

 

[okeydokey]

I think it's a nice "starter" note for an 8 year old. It teaches him the importance of writing the note but makes it doable on his level. As her gets older, he can write more until he does it all himself.

 

[DisneyNutMary]

It wouldn't bother me, it's hard to get an 8 year old to write a whole thank you note, much less write one for each guest at the party. There was definitely some effort there and the child is obviously being taught to write (somewhat) personal thank yous.

I can go one better for you, I was at a birthday party for a 7 year old where I was handed a think you note right after cake, the note was completely written by the mother. I can see how efficient she thought she was, handing out the thank yous instead of mailing them later, but the girl should have at least signed them- she is in 1st grade and has mastered writing her first name, so that's not the issue.

 

[mjkacmom]

I think that's fine - for a 5 year old. An 8 year old is capable of stringing a few senteces together. Ds7 went to a party last week. He was given a piece of paper that said "thank you for coming to my party, and for the great gift," a gift he hadn't even opened yet!

 

[LuvLDM]

I think it's fine.

 

[dislaney]

Way better than no thank you at all!

I totally agree!

 

[dismom2]

Any thank you is better than no thank you, so I would be fine with it. These days, we rarely get a thank you card for anything anymore, but we appreciate it very much when someone does take the time to give one.

 

[lil mermaid]

While I wouldn't be offended by it, I wouldn't do it myself. I think an 8 year old is old enough to write a proper thank you note.

 

[scrapquitler]

My DS8 attended a bday party last week and already received a thank you! At first thought though, I was a bit , it was a form letter basically with To ____ and the kid filled in my son's name, then a typed note saying thank you for your gift and for coming to my party, I hope you had a good time. Then signed by the kid.

I don't really care either way for us but I know some people are very picky on thank yous! Is this wrong to do? Would you be offended?

I'm asking because DS's party is coming and I'm thinking of perhaps going this route. We usually do the note cards, i write what he wants to say on a piece of paper and he copies it onto the card.

According to Miss Manners or Emily Post or one of them that I remember reading, if you thank the gift giver IN PERSON when they give you a gift, then no thank you note is "required"...so if your DS gave Birthday Boy his gift at the party and Birthday Boy said "Thank you" then, any thank you note is a bonus.

And for an 8 year old, I'd think it's fine to give a thank you note as described. They did make some effort...I'm not willing to criticize ANY thank you note. I"m just not that picky and I figure some effort is a good thing.

 

[Mimi1965]

My kids thanked the gift giver AT THE PARTY
We never wrote notes for that

 

[minniecarousel]

I like the idea.

We lived far from our relatives when I was a child & I almost dreaded getting anything from them because it meant I had to write a thank you note. Sad - huh?

My sister-in-law has always insisted that her kids write thank you notes. I'm in the camp that as long as my kids thanked the person at the time they received the gift, no written note was necessary.

These days, I like to write notes thanking my family for their gifts -- which I find odd since I dreaded writing those notes as a child. I guess there was no lasting trauma -eh?

 

[focusondisney]

My DH works in management for a family owned company. We attended the son's wedding last fall. Large affair: over 500 guests. The son works for my DH. While the hapy couple was still on their honeymoon, we recieved our thank you note. Pre-printed, generic thank you for your presence. Probably even addressed by the printers.

That I found tacky. From a child's birthday party, I wouldn't have minded.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

It's a thank you note! Better than what you get from most adults!

 

[goofy's friends]

I do this for my son. My daughters wrote theirs at a young age, but my son has some reading/writing/spelling issues. It's a big deal to get him to fill in the blanks correctly. Those of you saying age 8 is too old may not be taking into consideration that there is a very good reason for doing it that way.

 

[aprilgail2]

. Ds7 went to a party last week. He was given a piece of paper that said "thank you for coming to my party, and for the great gift," a gift he hadn't even opened yet!

We got one of those from a party my daughter went to-I found it very tacky!
I am a thank you note fanatic- I don't care if my daughter thanks someone at a party or its christmas and she thanks a relative in person-she is following that up with a thank you note that gets mailed! She tends to sit right down and write them too because there is no sending the gift cards/money or playing with the toy the person gave you until the card is written!