How do you feel about "Save the Date" cards?

[Ciao Mickey]

I don't like them.

What possible excuse can you give for not attending a wedding when they send you a card (in my case refrigerator magnets) a year in advance of the wedding?

I felt obligated to go to the wedding, even though I really didn't want to.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

If they are out of state they are necessary. Plane tickets are a nightmare in price to close to the date.

 

[Charade]

I don't like them.

What possible excuse can you give for not attending a wedding when they send you a card (in my case refrigerator magnets) a year in advance of the wedding?

I felt obligated to go to the wedding, even though I really didn't want to.

We used them and we think they're a great idea especially if the wedding is on a holiday (Memorial Day weekend) like ours was. A lot of people said they loved them (they were cute).


I think they give people a heads up well ahead of time. Nowadays a lot of people have things planned long in advance.

 

[Charade]

If they are out of state they are necessary. Plane tickets are a nightmare in price to close to the date.

Good point!

 

[Christine]

I think they are a good idea and in no way commit you to having to go.

For me, I have had to miss a wedding because I got the invite only 8 weeks prior to the event. I had already booked a trip and couldn't cancel. Had I known a year (or even a few months prior) I could have changed my schedule had I wanted to. I would never view them as coercion to go to an event--just a courtesy for those they really want to attend but need more planning that the standard 6-8 weeks.

 

[freckles and boo]

I don't mind them. I appreciate the "heads up". If I don't want to go, I will send back the RSVP with regrets.

 

[RitaE]

I think they are good for people that have to be at your wedding or else. Like when your Niece is getting married and your sister will never speak to you again if you miss it. But then again, in that case I usually expect my Sister to call or email me and tell me the date. But a card to stick inside the day planner is still nice.

When it isn't a close friend or family member my thought is usually "Honey, you just aren't that important to me. I'll be there if I'm there."

 

[Oreo Cookie]

We used them and we think they're a great idea especially if the wedding is on a holiday (Memorial Day weekend) like ours was. A lot of people said they loved them (they were cute).


I think they give people a heads up well ahead of time. Nowadays a lot of people have things planned long in advance.

I agree, the cards are helpful.

Plus if someone doesn't want to attend a wedding they can still RSVP no. Save the date cards don't commit people to events, but they help them plan their calendars if they want to go.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Such a small thing to get ones panties in a wad over!!!!


I don't mind them at all.
It really is almost a necessary evil in many cases.
I just went to one wedding with a very tight group of extended friends and family... they sent these notices out months in advance in order to insure that there were no big conflicts of interests with other weddings, etc. within the extended circles. They actually find it a good idea to plan these things and clear the dates pretty far in advance.

Now, the fridge magnet REALLY gets me...
Ummm, like someone's proposed wedding date deserves to be displayed in my face, for months, in my much coveted refrigerator space... NOT!!!!

 

[Ciao Mickey]

We used them and we think they're a great idea especially if the wedding is on a holiday (Memorial Day weekend) like ours was. A lot of people said they loved them (they were cute).


I think they give people a heads up well ahead of time. Nowadays a lot of people have things planned long in advance.

They're great to have for a wedding you want to attend, but what do you do in the case that you don't want to attend the wedding?

In my case, the wedding was for the daughter of a cousin I only see at funerals or weddings. I really didn't want to go to the wedding, but couldn't think of an excuse to get out of it only because they sent a STD card so far in advance.

 

[Anewman]

I don't like them.

What possible excuse can you give for not attending a wedding when they send you a card (in my case refrigerator magnets) a year in advance of the wedding?

I felt obligated to go to the wedding, even though I really didn't want to.

What card, I never received it.

 

[Wishing on a star]

They're great to have for a wedding you want to attend, but what do you do in the case that you don't want to attend the wedding?

In my case, the wedding was for the daughter of a cousin I only see at funerals or weddings. I really didn't want to go to the wedding, but couldn't think of an excuse to get out of it only because they sent a STD card so far in advance.

So.... Just do not RSVP with a commitment to attend.

A 'save the date' card is really not any preconceived commitment.

If you feel 'guilty' about not wanting to attend the wedding, then, I can understand.. But, really, the 'save the date' card is really a non-issue.

 

[Stacerita]

Now, the fridge magnet REALLY gets me...
Ummm, like someone's proposed wedding date deserves to be displayed in my face, for months, in my much coveted refrigerator space... NOT!!!!

I don't mind these ones. They actually have a purpose and a use. In fact, my cousin who got married a year ago sent out save the date magnets two years ago. I still have the magnet on the fridge. Its holding up my cinnamon mickey head recipe.

 

[Disney Doll]

I think they are the wedding invitation company's way of getting more $$ out of the bridal couple.

If you have a lot of people coming to your wedding from out of town, then send out your invites early...like 3-4 months in advance...to give them time to prepare.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

They're great to have for a wedding you want to attend, but what do you do in the case that you don't want to attend the wedding?

In my case, the wedding was for the daughter of a cousin I only see at funerals or weddings. I really didn't want to go to the wedding, but couldn't think of an excuse to get out of it only because they sent a STD card so far in advance.

Why do you need an excuse? If someone invited me to something 10 months from now it doesn't commit me to it. Just say no.

 

[chrisw127]

Actually, I like them. Especially for out of state weddings. Of course, I happen to love weddings in general.

 

[bsnyder]

I agree with most everyone else here - the cards don't obligate every person invited to actually attend.

And I can almost guarantee that the bride's father (or whoever else is paying for the wedding) doesn't think so either.

 

[Charade]

What card, I never received it.

I didn't send you one.

 

[Pigeon]

I chuck them and don't think twice about it. When I get an actual invitation, I'll see if I can make it.

 

[Rock'n Robin]

One got us in trouble. My SIL sent us one for my niece's bat mitzvah. It was in NC, we are in Ohio. This was 1 1/2 years ahead of time. 9 months out we found out it was the day after my daughters' dance recital. We did the recital and drove all night, but missed the temple part. I had no intention of paying for a year of dance and skipping the recital, but that is exactly what SIL thought we should do--said if we were jewish, we would have skipped the recital and understood, especially since we were supposed to have "saved the date". This was over a year ago and we are still hearing about it--DH says we won't even bother with my nephew's bar mitzvah in 2010 unless his sister apologizes for the crappy way she treated us once we drove all night and got there.
Robin M.