How do you convert someone?

[magicalmickey]

Hi!

I was wondering how you convert your husband/boyfriend to be a Disney lover? I LOVE Disney World and plan on going every year for the rest of my life! However, my boyfriend just doesn't like it! It really disappoints me. Is there any way I can make him change his mind? Please help if you have any suggestions or have experienced this yourself. Maybe I should try a voodoo spell or something!

 

[sissybells]

Try singing this over and over. LOL

Salagadoola mechicka boola bibbidi-bobbidi-boo
Put 'em together and what have you got
bibbidi-bobbidi-boo

Salagadoola mechicka boola bibbidi-bobbidi-boo
It'll do magic believe it or not
bibbidi-bobbidi-boo


Salagadoola means mechicka booleroo
But the thingmabob that does the job is
bibbidi-bobbidi-boo


Salagadoola menchicka boola bibbidi-bobbidi-boo
Put 'em together and what have you got
bibbidi-bobbidi bibbidi-bobbidi bibbidi-bobbidi-boo

 

[ReneeQ]

I hate to say it, but you usually can't convert them. I'm sure there are a few cases, though. My husband and I have been married 14 years. He "tolerates" Disney World, I "LIVE" for Disney World. He will go only about once every 4-5 years. I go about 3 times a year.

I have just learned to go without him. We are even DVC Members. But if I "force" him to go more often, he doesn't have fun, he is miserable and wishes he wasn't there, which ruins the fun for me. And I resent spending the money on his ticket and food, if he's not even enjoying himself. I have plenty of other people to go with, and actually like going solo. Though it took me years to get comfortable with that.

You have to just accept each other's likes and dislikes, and move on. I will add that we don't have children, so I don't have the issue of wanting him to see the kids first reactions to Disney, so that problem helps me "let go."

Good luck!

 

[panfan]

You said he doesn't like WDW....was he there with you and just didn'l like it or was it when he was a kid , or with someone else?? I have had experiences with people who said they didn' t like it till they went as adluts or as a 'couple's" only trip.

If the answer is that you went together and he just didn't like it...then maybe you are in trouble ! I know WDW isn't everything in life but I do enjoy our annual vacations as a family and before the kids as a couple !

Let us know what his past WDW experiences were and then maybe we can be more specific with our advice!!

 

[bravesfan92]

I fully understand where you are coming from. My husband HATES going. He tolerates it because I like to go. But we only go about every 3-4 years. I think I would even get tired of going every year. He says he doesn't like it, because he feels like Disney is ripping you a new butthole by taking advantage of people. He says Disney is supposed to be something that Walt wanted everyone to have the opportunity to see, but in reality a lot of people don't get to see, becuase of the ridiculous prices. Anyway, that is his opinion.

 

[magicalmickey]

I will try Bibbidi-bobbidi-boo! That's a great idea!

Unfortunately, yes, he went with me in 2002. He'd start getting grouchy and want to go in around 4:00 everyday. He had an okay time the 1st time but can't fathom why anyone would want to go back once they've already been. He doesn't like rides either
. How can someone not like Spaceship Earth for example?
Anyway, Renee, I have thought about solo trips because it is so hard for me to find someone who can go or who wants to go (especially for a week). I was kind of afraid I'd look like a looney-toon there by myself, but I am so glad to hear that someone else goes solo. I think maybe more people do than what we realize. I met a couple of people there solo on business trips the last time so maybe it's not so weird, huh. It looks like for my Jan. 05 trip I will be there half the week by myself anyway. But then again, you can do whatever you want, even if you want to ride Winnie the Pooh 10 times in a row! Ha-ha!

 

[maine_jennifer]

Can't tell you how to convert someone, but I can tell you SOLO trips are a blast!! You get to go where you want, when you want, ride a ride as many times as you want, wait in a long line if you want to, eat what and where ever you want! You can even swim and nap whenever you feel like it.

I did my first trip in Feb 03. Wasn't planning on going back until Jan 04, but once I got there and got back, I knew I couldn't wait 11 months to go again! No one wanted to go back with me, so I planned a SOLO trip for Aug 03. I had an absolute blast, people are willing to talk, if you get the ball rolling

good questions for rides - ask the person in front of or behind you "have you been on this before?" If they have, you can talk about it, if not you can still talk about it with them!

good questions for restaurants - lean over to the table next to you and ask what they recommend.

I never felt funny or silly or even alone! I always had someone that asked if I was alone and I would always tell them yes, because I deserve it and no one wanted to have as much fun with me.

When you're there as a family/group, do you sit and look for people who might be alone just to laugh at them? Most people don't. Most people are too concerned with how much fun their having to bother studying other people.

 

[keddy]

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[eeyoregirl]

I have met quite a few guys (and girls) who say that WDW is "just for kids." They have a preconceived notion that all rides are for 3 year olds. This is mainly due to no exposure and/or closed minds. Convince him (or her) to go once, and chances are, conversion in some capacity is inevitable. The MK may not be a favorite destination, but what about EPCOT for science and technology enthusiasts, the DS for movie buffs, and the AK for animal and nature lovers? There is truly something for everyone at WDW.

If anyone from Casting is reading this, my dream is to become a CM!!!

 

[GeoffM24]

I have only been on one trip to Disney with someone who doesn't get the "magic". I drove to Florida with a buddy after we graduated from college and we stopped at Disney for two days. He was only interested in the "thrill" rides.

The whole time I had wished I was there with my then girlfriend now wife.

For me much of the fun of Disney is remembering the fun I had when I was there at ages 8 and 10. He just didn't get it.

The funny thing is that he *thinks* he gets Disney, but he surely does not.

I have thought about it many times and I am not what you would think of as a typical Disney type, I don't really watch a lot of Disney movies, I have hobbies like collecting and shooting firearms, motocross, lacrosse, hunting, etc.

There is just something at Disney that makes even me feel like a kid!

 

[airhead]

I find that the people who say they don't enjoy it or that going once was enough,are people that don't enjoy "active" vacations. These are people that prefer to sit or lounge on a beach or deck of a ship. you may never covert them,but you can certainly atleast get them to go to Orlando and maybe do other things that
they'll enjoy. When I'm on vacation,and not just WDW,I like to be doing things. I HATE sitting on a beach or just sitting by a pool. This is just the most boring thing in the world to me! My SO LOVES to sit on the beach or poolside with a book or just sleep. I promised that while we were at WDW on our 2 week vacation,I would go to the pool for longer than 30 minutes and not be a pest!
Gotta compromise a little!!

 

[ABCMom]

DH and I are complete opposites on most things - but Disney is the one thing we agree on!

Does he play golf or like to fish? There are other things he could do at WDW instead of the parks - and then you can go off to the parks and have a jolly time on your own.

 

[Nicoal13]

My DH doesn't like to go either. He went with me and my family in 2000 and didn't like it at all.

He has agreed that he will go once we have kids but only once. If I want to go more often I will have to take the kids myself or with other family members.

I find that the more I bug him about going, the less he wants to go. So if I don't talk to him about Disney, he will more than likely be willing to go in the future.

For now, I just go there with girlfriends and enjoy it without DH.

 

[bethbuchall]

Originally posted by ReneeQ
I hate to say it, but you usually can't convert them. I'm sure there are a few cases, though. My husband and I have been married 14 years. He "tolerates" Disney World, I "LIVE" for Disney World. He will go only about once every 4-5 years. I go about 3 times a year.

I couldn't have written this exact same thing...except that we have been married for almost 16 years, and I don't get to go more often. I did tell him after this last trip that I am going again in two years, but he doesn't have to come if he doesn't want to. By then the kids will be 15, 13, and 7, so I will be ok on my own with them.

The main reason that he doesn't like it is that he just can't see past the money that is going out. That is how he feels about all vacations, dinners out, etc. He is content to stay home and spend his money on more practical things.

Beth

 

[cooldisneymom]

Ditto!!!!! to Beth and ReneeQ. We will be married 14 years this December, and the same thing. He hates it and I live for it. My DD and I go with my parents at least once a year. It's the only vacation I knew as a child. My father is 60 and my mother is 63 and I can hardly keep up with them in the park! Too bad my daughter won't feel that way about her dad and Disney. Oh well, it's just the way it is. You can't make someone love something they don't. You just have to accept them for who they are.

 

[Jsteph]

I think for Guys it is a money issue.

If I lived in Orlando I would have season tickets in a second. I love riding rides. Last year I bought Season tickets to Six Flags here in Atlanta for the wife and I. We went probably 10 times. Rode the Roller coasters and went home mostly, well we had to ride Monster Plantation for the wife.

Anyway, I am looking forward to going to Disney this year with our 4 month old, my Mother, my brother, his wife and 5 year old daughter. I can not wait to see her face when we get to Disney.

But to make it an every year thing starting now, we will have to see how the Disney test goes. You know, spending money hand over fist. I am not sure my stomach can take that hehe.

 

[amwhitaker]

Been there done that going back! Did I say without my husband? Otherwise known and labeled by friends as "The Anti-Mickey"? He has tolerated past visits, but he is not into it at all. He always tells me to grow up, hence the saying under my name. He did admit that the best roller coaster he has been on is the Rock 'n Roll at MGM. That's as close as he will admit to liking anything about WDW.

 

[lc1965]

I can't say how to convert someone because it seems that you either GET the Disney Disease or you don't. Some people are just born with this sad immunity.

You might try bringing him along if you go with a large group. Then you are vacationing together, but you don't have to drag him to the parks -- you can go w/ others. He can take in some sports events or play himself (golf, parasailing, etc.) You can take in the shows together & anything else he's up for, like fireworks or cruises. I always tell people who don't understand (go figure!) that you can spend 3 weeks at WDW w/o ever setting foot in the MK. There's just so much to do.

 

[jeancbpugh]

My DH hates lines and hates being told what to do. Disney is not the place for him. Nevertheless, we've been 14 times in 15 years of marriage, so he's a good sport. I also go solo once a year for a long weekend.

Last family trip, he commuted from Florida to NY for work everyday...he flew up in the early morning, and came back to the BC at night around 9:30...in time for me to run off to do enight or hit the pool by myself. The last morning he flew down just to help us pack up and fly home. (Hey--I told him I was perfectly capable of travelling with the kids without him, and I've done it plenty of other times, but he WANTED to come along.)

My point is: work with what you each want.

Jean

 

[madison66]

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