How do I handle this comment? Wedding related..

[moon]

I think the OP's friends are being mean, and that she has the right to wear whatever she wants; but I've never heard before today that white symbolizes joy.

I knew about the purity meaning and about Queen Victoria, but joy? I just don't see it. I can't think of a less joyous color that white -unless is black. White is a serious, formal, elegant, classy color. White wedding dresses are a tradition, and I that's the reason they ar worn.

OP, I'm sure your gown is beautiful and you will look radiant in it because you are happy. Have a wonderful wedding!

 

[RNMOM]

Rora, If these "friends" are in your wedding party, I would seriously suggest limiting your bridesmaids to only the remaining ladies. I would not want anyone to stand up with me who I knew felt this way and who cared so little about my feelings. Loose them.

Look, you are doing what 99.99% of American girls do every year by wearing white. It is your choice to do so. What do they want you to do, put a scarlet letter on the front of your dress?? Dang. Invite them to find something else to do that day and downsize the wedding party. JMHO.

Whatever you choose, enjoy the day. It is all about you and your hubby to be.

 

[Art 1]

. . . to some people. To others it symbolizes other things (like joy or affluence) and to some people it is simply a wedding dress with no meaning at all beyond that.

In the USA a white wedding dress for many years has symbolized purity, now if others want to change what it stands for to suit their needs that's fine too.

 

[Cornhusk]

Reminds me of the saying


"Married in white, you will have chosen all right. Married in grey, you will go far away. Married in black, you will wish yourself back. Married in red, you’ll wish yourself dead. Married in blue, you will always be true. Married in pearl, you’ll live in a whirl. Married in green, ashamed to be seen. Married in yellow, ashamed of the fellow. Married in brown, you’ll live out of town. Married in pink, your spirits will sink"

Besides, I heard that blue was originally meant for purity and later the white gown would be a symbolism for the Christening gown.

 

[pyrxtc]

blue was originally meant for purity, white was a fashion trend that stuck. They just happen to make more gorgeous gowns in all white than they do in other colors right now. A few pages back, I posted a link to how and when white got started. before that it was simple blue dress. The white and the elaborate dress both came from the same place.

 

[Scurvy]

Art 1, it's true that many people equate a white wedding dress with signifying purity in the US. It's equally true that many people do not identify the dress as having anything to do with the bride's purity, as you can see from this thread. Certainly no one in this country seemed to care what color the bride wore before around the end of World War II, though the big white wedding dress has become much more common since then. These days wedding dresses come in many colors, but the color traditionally associated with a bride is white. For many people, a wedding dress is white for no reason other than the fact that it has become tradition. There is no hidden significance to the color.

Personally, I find it terribly crass for anyone to be judging the bride's purity on her wedding day. It seems a subject that should be left to the bride and groom to ponder. I can't imagine being particularly interested in how "pure" someone is unless I happen to be in a romantic relationship with them. It simply isn't my business, nor is it anyone else's.

No one is required to follow any traditions or customs when planning their wedding, but I personally like to try to follow the "rules" of US etiquette. In response to the question of whether it is appropriate for "impure" brides to wear white, Miss Manners had this to say: "Dear Queen Victoria launched the white wedding dress fad at her marriage in 1840. When the color of the wedding dress came to be considered a declaration that its contents were new or used, Miss Manners cannot say. She only knows how relieved she is that this has ceased - or so she thought, until you spoke up." If the etiquette experts in this country don't feel that only virginal brides are entitled to wear white, then I don't feel that my personal opinions or beliefs about the color should matter to other brides at all. And neither should anyone else's. The only opinions that matter are those of the bride and groom.

 

[Kelrykengab]

Does it really have to symbolize anything?? Is your groom going to be saying as you walk down the isle "Oh, good there is my bride, so glad she is wearing the color for purity, joy and marshmellows". Enjoy your day and wear whatever you wish in whatever color you wish and enjoy it for the smashing wedding dress that it is....a dress! What you do together as husband and wife will symbolize what kind of people you are and you know that (who you are) already.

 

[Andy B]

Back in the "olden days" you skipped the heavily veiled look if you weren't a virgin
You know -where the veil covers the front of the face-then is lifted off-like Princess diana did.

Otherwise-thats a dumb comment-lost of couples live together before marriage.

Actually in 'The Olden Days' White was not common for Wedding dresses.

 

[WriteDisney]

Does it really have to symbolize anything?? Is your groom going to be saying as you walk down the isle "Oh, good there is my bride, so glad she is wearing the color for purity, joy and marshmellows". Enjoy your day and wear whatever you wish in whatever color you wish and enjoy it for the smashing wedding dress that it is....a dress! What you do together as husband and wife will symbolize what kind of people you are and you know that (who you are) already.

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Great response!

 

[dicar123]

Oh, don't worry about those "friends" for one second!

Normally, I am a very modest person. I found a beautiful wedding dress that fit all of my odd requirements (long sleeves, no bow on the butt, and with some style to the neckline because I am large busted and anything close to my neck makes me look like a freak). Well, the sleeves stopped barely past my shoulders and it was cut pretty doggone low.

The seamstress offered to add some covering, but the beading around the neckline was so pretty I thought that would detract from the dress and I just loved it.

I showed more cleavage in my wedding dress than I have ever shown before or since!

Several relatives I hadn't seen often were heard to ask, "Where did she get THOSE?"

But I still love, love, love the dress.