How do I handle my new boss? Help!

[NY Disney fan]

My new boss is aggressive, combative and speaks to me very disrespectfully. I just started working with him for only a few weeks now. He barks orders, never says good morning, won't talk to me the whole day and then expects me to know what he's thinking. If I am not 1 step ahead of him, he will chastise me in front of the whole team. His whole team is scared of him. I try not to take it personally but don't know how to handle someone like this? Help.

 

[tink_lover]

I worked for someone like that for 2 years and finally realized they weren't going to change - so I did. Have a great new boss who treats me and his team with respect.

 

[DWGal210]

I agree with the previous poster - unfortunately, I don't know what you can do; your options are probably to either "suck it up" (which sounds mean, I don't mean it that way) or find another job. Those types of people are just like that, and trust me, nothing you can do will make the situation any better. I guess you just have to decide if you like the job enough to stay.

Good luck!

 

[NeverlandClub23]

I had a boss like that at my last job (he got fired eventually for cussing out a customer). I read "Don't Let The Jerks Get The Best of You".

 

[Wall-E1]

I would watch the old "9 to 5" movie for some pointers on how to deal.

 

[NY Disney fan]

Thanks for books recommendation!!! I do not want him to get the best of me. I was in the job 5 years before he came along and I would prefer to stay, not leave. So I have the will to stick it out. I know people don't change and that scares me. I guess time will tell.

 

[mefordis]

OMG! Are your bosses initials PL?? I had one of those and that was his name. Your post describes him to a T. I left the job but not after losing a LOT of dignity and sleepless nights. Honestly, I would start looking for a new job right now. It isn't worth the stress to put up with these insecure, bully-types. They always pick a preferred "whipping boy" so hopefully you will not be that person, but no one is immune to their bullying, except for those who rank higher in the company, whose *you know whats* he can only too happily kiss up to!

My sincerest, warmest thoughts are with you and I hope you can get out with more self respect than I did!

My new boss is aggressive, combative and speaks to me very disrespectfully. I just started working with him for only a few weeks now. He barks orders, never says good morning, won't talk to me the whole day and then expects me to know what he's thinking. If I am not 1 step ahead of him, he will chastise me in front of the whole team. His whole team is scared of him. I try not to take it personally but don't know how to handle someone like this? Help.

 

[mefordis]

Like I said in my previous post, I would be at least casually looking. If you CAN stick it out without being completely stressed out and miserable, you may outlast him.

Thanks for books recommendation!!! I do not want him to get the best of me. I was in the job 5 years before he came along and I would prefer to stay, not leave. So I have the will to stick it out. I know people don't change and that scares me. I guess time will tell.

 

[AKL_Megs]

I had a boss like that for about a year. I always did all of his work, and he took the credit. This went on and on and on for months... and then one day, he got fired. It turns out that HIS boss had noticed, and I got his job!

Hopefully, something good can come out of this for you.

My advice, ignore him. Know exactly what you know you have to do, and do IT and nothing more.

 

[Judy from Boise]

Do you have any kind of relationship with his boss?

 

[PUZZLDY5]

Just be greatful your not married to him. LOL Could you imagine. Usualy people at work are on their best behavior. But seriously, You really need to think about how much of that you can take for your own sanity. I know the job market is tough right now but there is a lot to say about happiness at your job.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

We had a bully in my office. Everyone would shake when he was screaming. They finally paired him up with a secretary who was not about to take his crap. The first time he started screaming at her, she went in his office, closed the door and told him he had better not ever speak to her like that again. Others may have taken it, but she's not about to. She also pointed out that she had the decency to have this conversation with him behind closed doors and would appreciate if he would do the same, if he needed to speak to her about any issues. He still would get cranky from time-to-time, but whenever he'd start crossing that line, she'd let him know about it. We were amazed. I think bullys do what they do, because they can. Then again, it could backfire and you lose your job.

 

[manning]

Do you have any kind of relationship with his boss?

More like do all of you have any kind of relationship with his boss.

When in the army we would get company commanders like this. Each post would have an inspector general (IG). Whenever we got one of these goof balls we would all complain to the IG office. Their reaction was wait a minute there are too many complaints and investigate. Result...goof ball gone.

 

[Luv Bunnies]

Perhaps you can talk to other people who work for him. See if anyone has figured out how to best work with the guy. At least you'll find other people to commiserate with and you'll know you're not alone.