How do I get rid of this feeling....

[Caropooh]

My Mom passed away Oct 27, 2007. (see Day of Remembrance thread) I miss her every day. Of course I have the days I forget that she is gone, but I also have times when I think I can bring her back. Almost like if I wish enough, I can will her back. I then get the image in my mind of when I placed the box of her ashes in the ground. I then think of how stupid that that thought is. She was cremated, she's ashes now. It's almost like I'm thinking if she hadn't been cremated, I could bring her back because then there would be a body.
Am I making any sense? I'm 47 years old and like to think of myself as rational, but these thoughts just aren't rational.

 

[kimis]

I lost my mom in 2006 and I think about her everyday. Actually this holiday season seems to be the worst so far and I am not sure why. My mom was my best friend. We would talk on the phone sometimes 4 times a day. She was always there. I have learned you just take it one day at a time. On the hard days I look at my grandkids and think "your great grandma would love this". Others don't seem to understand the emptiness we feel but one day they will. In the mean time find a friend or get a couseler you can confide in. I will keep you in my prayers.

 

[LuvOrlando]

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[donaldduck352]

We are so sorry for your loss.Its hard to let go.
Be strong and know everyone here is here for you

 

[Steffiesunshine]

You are in my prayers.

My mom passed away in 2003, and my sister passed away in 2006. Sometimes, I just burst into tears. You will always miss her, and sometimes you will obsess about her. Wondering if can bring them back someway, even though you know that is unrealistic.

Bargaining is one of the phases of grieving, and still find myself doing it. Just keep all the good times in your heart, and think of things you did that made you laugh, or the happiest times of all. Sometimes, the smiling can stop the heartache for a little while.

 

[safetymom]

All I can tell you is that time is the great healer. The days do get softer but it never goes away.

It was 14 years since my mother died the other day but sometimes it seems like it was just yesterday. I just know that some days I will think about how she died and what could I have done differently. Nothing will bring her back so I try to keep her memory in my heart and carry on.

Just take comfort in your memories.

 

[quasar4legs]

My dad died 14 years ago and even now when I visit my mum's house I expect to see him pottering in the garden or working in his garage. Some days I almost ache for missing him. For me it has gotten easier over time but there is always a senses of loss.
I think when you love someone so much it is supposed to hurt, what must be teribly sad is for people to die and have no one to mourn them.

Big koala cuddles to you, your mum must have been a special woman.

Trish