how do i convince my wife about DVC

[tony webb]

im all set and ready to buy....she s being hesitant

 

[chalee94]

you know, the guy in "miracle on 34th street" got his wife liquored up before asking her if they could have santa claus come live with them...

i'm just sayin'...

( )

 

[TLSnell1981]

Have all your ducks in a row when you discuss it next. Do you love WDW? Do you have the funds to purchase DVC? Do you want to save money? ( on rooms, dining, etc) If she answers yes to these questions, you may not have a need to ask anymore....it's a no brainer!

 

[StormTigger]

Don't ask, make it a Christmas present.

"It's easier to ask for forgivness then premission." - I love that line (but it's not always the best advice. )

 

[grizbuzz]

My husband visited a dealership and decided he had to get a new car...that evening! I told him, sure, but he had to let me get DVC. Although he hadn't been convinced DVC was a good idea prior (we'd done lots and lots of research), he suddenly decided that we should join! So we made a deal. Traded in our car that evening and got DVC the next day

And we don't regret either purchase.

 

[TLPL]

If she doesn't like stuck just going to Orlando, mention Hawaii, South Carolina, Anaheim DVC locations may help.

 

[calypso*a*go-go]

Don't ask, make it a Christmas present.

"It's easier to ask for forgivness then premission." - I love that line (but it's not always the best advice. )

Great minds think alike -- that's exactly what I was going to suggest!!!

 

[tiggerrr]

It's important that you have all the "logical" items tied up, like whether you can afford it. But the selling point in any major life decision has to resonate emotionally with a person. The have to "see" themselves after they make the decision. Think about buying a home. You might work all the numbers to see what you can afford, but when you actually decide on a home, most of the time it is because you can see yourself living there, you like/love a particular feature, you say to yourself "we could do this ...."

It will need to be the same thing with spouse. Neither one of you will buy DVC because you can afford it. Think about the deep down reasons that you really want DVC. If those will resonate with her, share them. Take some time to reminisce about previous trips to Disney, look at old pictures. Talk about what it would be like to go every year or every other year or more that once a year. Figure out what her most favorite things about WDW are and discuss the fact that you can do them most often.

Talk about the rooms - "wouldn't it be nice to have a full kitchen". Talk about touring style - "wouldn't it be nice to visit a park and only watch the live entertainment, no rides" or whatever non-commando style appeals to you. Talk about the theming of the resort your looking at. Talk about things you have never done at WDW because you've never had time. These boards are full of great ideas. Create a picture between the two of you that puts you right there on your vacation. Create ideas about a tradition for each new trip (eg. every trip we're going to eat at a different pavillion in EPCOT or a different resort) so that you create the image that going back over and over again is exciting, not boring.

One of the DVC booth people talked to us about Food & Wine, about high tea the GF, horseback riding at FW, watching the fireworks from CR, renting a poontoon boat. We'd never done any of those things before we bought DVC, but they created good feelings in us about being able to do them.

If she can't do that, or doesn't find that picture appealing, IMHO you need to think carefully about committing to DVC for fear that you have two very different opinions about the wisdom of you buying DVC.

I'm sorry if this is an overly long post, but this is the type of thing I feel strongly about. It is easy to concentrate on the "cold, hard facts." These are important to take care of, but they will not be the reason you buy, nor will they be the reason you love DVC.

 

[TLSnell1981]

It's important that you have all the "logical" items tied up, like whether you can afford it. But the selling point in any major life decision has to resonate emotionally with a person. The have to "see" themselves after they make the decision. Think about buying a home. You might work all the numbers to see what you can afford, but when you actually decide on a home, most of the time it is because you can see yourself living there, you like/love a particular feature, you say to yourself "we could do this ...."

It will need to be the same thing with spouse. Neither one of you will buy DVC because you can afford it. Think about the deep down reasons that you really want DVC. If those will resonate with her, share them. Take some time to reminisce about previous trips to Disney, look at old pictures. Talk about what it would be like to go every year or every other year or more that once a year. Figure out what her most favorite things about WDW are and discuss the fact that you can do them most often.

Talk about the rooms - "wouldn't it be nice to have a full kitchen". Talk about touring style - "wouldn't it be nice to visit a park and only watch the live entertainment, no rides" or whatever non-commando style appeals to you. Talk about the theming of the resort your looking at. Talk about things you have never done at WDW because you've never had time. These boards are full of great ideas. Create a picture between the two of you that puts you right there on your vacation. Create ideas about a tradition for each new trip (eg. every trip we're going to eat at a different pavillion in EPCOT or a different resort) so that you create the image that going back over and over again is exciting, not boring.

One of the DVC booth people talked to us about Food & Wine, about high tea the GF, horseback riding at FW, watching the fireworks from CR, renting a poontoon boat. We'd never done any of those things before we bought DVC, but they created good feelings in us about being able to do them.

If she can't do that, or doesn't find that picture appealing, IMHO you need to think carefully about committing to DVC for fear that you have two very different opinions about the wisdom of you buying DVC.

I'm sorry if this is an overly long post, but this is the type of thing I feel strongly about. It is easy to concentrate on the "cold, hard facts." These are important to take care of, but they will not be the reason you buy, nor will they be the reason you love DVC.

Good points! I've been to WDW so many times and experienced so much, I never thought of anyone having to go through the basics. I would have bought DVC years ago if I had ever taken the time to listen to a presentation. I didn't realize the flexibility of DVC. We had owned a timeshare previously, that we loved.....the resort was sold.....and well too many things changed. While Disney may change some, I think the fundamentals will stay the same.

PS I also thought of doing DVC for DH for a gift, our anniversary, but didn't know how to get his siggie on everything.

 

[Cinderella]

Take Tigerrs advice - paint a picture. Most people are visual and those are ace tips. They made me wish I was at the food and wine festival and on a pontoon boat right now.

 

[Granny]

im all set and ready to buy....she s being hesitant

You've gotten great advice, but all I can think of is...what is she "hesitant" about? Too much money? Not sure she'd like going to WDW that much? Not sure it's worth it? Doesn't like the idea of timeshares in general?

Let us know what she's hesitant about, and we can give you plenty of ammunition to get her over to the dark DVC side!

 

[DeeCee735]

Beg ???

 

[Amy5000]

I think I remember one guy posted that he convinced his wife by taking her to the spa at ssr for the weekend. I think that might work.

 

[Muushka]

you know, the guy in "miracle on 34th street" got his wife liquored up before asking her if they could have santa claus come live with them...

i'm just sayin'...

( )

I quote that scene at least once a week.
At around 6 when the phone rings I know it is my husband. I say

"HELLLOOOO, HELLLOOOOOOO! Yes, of course Sandy Clause can come and stay with us".
Sometimes I blush when it is someone else .

PS OP, good luck with the convincing!

 

[JW9DVC]

Christmas, birthday, anniversary all work for reasons to make a gift purchase. You really need to look at the vacation benefit for the entire family. These are not just regular hotel rooms and offer a greater way of vacationing for more than 45 years! Was there something else she was interested in, like that new car? A remodel of the house. If its cost, this really isn't expensive. No matter how you look at it. Your maint. fees are like paying a cell phone bill. The depending on the number of points you want or need. Thats a cheap car payment. Without the gas prices, insurance, and all the maint on that car that will last you only 10 years, not 45+. JW

 

[dwelty]

It's Simple, tell her what a room went for at the Contemporary Hotel in 1972 (about $23.00 per night) Now have her look at the rates there (Over $400.00 per night) And that's for a standard room, not a villa.

It's a no brainer....

 

[javamom]

Hi there. I agree with several other posters about the emotional attachment to the decision.

Bottom line is this: you know your spouse, you know what your spouse may perceive as the upside of vacationing a/o Disney vacationing. Play up to your spouses interests, and what will be of benefit to her in "her eyes."

On the otherhand, if you don't know her that well... I suggest a spa visit a/o lots of alcohol!!!

 

[TLSnell1981]

Beg ???

Hold your breath until you turn blue?

 

[wendyinoc]

Change your home page of your computer to the DVC Page.

 

[crisi]

You know your wife.

What I know is that if my husband bought me a five figure "gift" that I didn't want and he did - he'd probably get it in the divorce settlement. I don't forgive things like that well.

Do you go to Disney at least every other year?
Do you like to stay in Moderates or Deluxes?
Do you have or intend to have children?
Is she motivated by saving money? Going other places?
Can you afford it?

For a lot of people their best bet has been taking a Disney trip and renting points to stay DVC. Most people find that once they stay in a one or two bedroom, they really see the benefit of DVC (my husband likes the 'nookie perk' of having the kids in a different room, your wife may like the washer and dryer, or making eggs in the morning, or having a jacuzzi).