How did you survive your kids' teenage drama?

[redrosesix]

I agree. This boy is probably having a tough go at it and is looking for some support from your daughter. I know my son could hardly wait to go into basic to get away from his steady gf but when he came home at Xmas they "hooked up" for a few days here and there. His best friend went into the Navy and same deal, unfortunately his ex-gf got pregnant over Xmas Exodus and he is now the father of a bouncy baby boy.

ITA -- basic training is always a lot harder than they expect it to be. It's definitely one of those situations where you say "what have I gotten myself into? " and when it seems like everyone around you is getting mail from home every day (which isn't actually true, but it seems like it) it can be a very lonely place. Ditto for the time just before they leave ie. it seems like they either break off relationships for no good reason other than it seems like the right thing to do, or they have to feel like they have somebody at home waiting for them.

We're not there yet with our DD, but my SIL said her kids definitely needed her more when they were teens than when they were under 10 -- not just the amount of drama, but the issues are more important eg. it isn't about misplacing a doll, it's about losing a best friend.

 

[Darsa]

Mine's only 14 but I can certainly sympathize with you! Here's a for you and for your DD, who sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders!

 

[Goofycampers]

He texted her the night before he left for basic and tried his best to get her to break up with her boyfriend and become engaged to him. That way he knew she'd be waiting for him. I'm sure he was scared and this comforted him but a couple of months ago he proposed to her and she said no that time too. I'm pretty sure we'll be seeing some letters in the mail from him soon.. Without going into all the details, I really want this kid to stay away from her but I won't say too much about that to her. I just feel he'll drag her down. I think she still has feelings for him but luckily you are right , she does have a good head on her shoulders.