How did you know you had met the person you were going to marry?

[ilovefh]

Our story is so odd, I just love telling it!

I was working at a middle school and coaching field hockey. Because I can't handle too much free time I mentioned to the JV field hockey coach that I was looking for part time work. She happened to be the manager at Blockbuster so she hired me!

About 6 months later, in April, she hired a new guy. She kept telling me I would know him because he was always in renting movies! One day I stopped in on the way back from work at school and he happened to be there picking up his uniform! I thought he was old, weird and creepy! He invited me out to get some pizza at the place next door. I went with him really because I was bored!

After that we worked together for a while and I had no interest in him! We would flirt, but just for fun, but I still thought he was old, weird and creepy! He didn't go out much so I would always invite him out with us in the hopes that he would come out, but to no avail!

I knew he was into me because he was always covering my shifts for me so I could go out! In July my best friend and I decided to take a cruise at the last minute. He covered all my shifts for me so I could go. We worked together the night before I was leaving and my shoulder hurt from sleeping on it wrong. He rubbed it the whole shift. He left around 8 and came back at 11 when we closed, happy with some liquid courage.

We chatted in the parking lot and he kissed me. I went on the trip with my best friend jokingly saying I was going ot marry this guy. No way I said, he is old weird and creepy!

I came back and gave him the excuse that I couldn't date him, I didn't want to date anyone (Lie!). I even tried to hook him up with my best friend's sister. He was upset and one night when he, gasp, would not cover a shift for me I asked him why he was upset. I again lied to make myself feel better and said "I didn't say I would never date you, just not right now." Meanwhile I was dating other people!

One night in August after a bad second date I did not want to go home at 7pm so I called him and went to watch a movie at his house. I spent the night and I think I can count on one hand the number of nights I stayed at home in the 6 months before I moved in!

It was tough for me at the beginning! I wanted a college educated, professional, clean cut guy with lots of friends, and a big family. This guy was none of the above and worked at Blockbuster 20 hours a week! I even tried to break up with him in November. He was sick so I spent the night and figured I would break up with him in the morning. I did, but then asked if we could still watch The Davinci Code together since it came out that day. He figured we should just not see eachother. I cried! He said we could watch the movie that night and after that I never left! When I realized he worked to support just himself (his house was paid for, car paid for, didn't have cable, etc), and he would do anything to support his family, when he had one, I was hooked! I said those three magic words in December, just 5 moths after we started dating, moved in a month later and a year later he proposed with a ring made from my grandmother's diamond ring!

So to make a long story even longer, when did I know? Probably that summer when I "thought" I had no interest! I had a cold and said I needed cough drops. He said he would go to CVS to get them for me, but there was no way I was going to owe this guy anything so I said thanks, but no thanks. He left, got the cough drops, knocked on the window and put them in the movie return box for me! He has been treating me like royalty ever since! Turns out he was not so old, weird or creepy! (For those wondering I was 25 at the time, he was 32/33) I was definitely looking for a guy...but not looking at work, so I would say it happened when I least expected it to!

 

[iggbees]

i'm not married yet (but i'm probably commonlaw in some states by now ). however, i do know that my boyfriend is the person that i want to spend the rest of my life with. i've been through so many ups and downs and crazies with him and he hasn't left me yet. i haven't had a friend my whole life who treats me as good as he does. i've had a lot of personal problems and he makes me want to work them out and better myself because i love him so much.

i've had so many stresses lately about all my friends getting married and knowing their fiances for 3 or less years and having to hear about wedding planning through facebook (which really ticks me off). i finally realized that i could care less whether my boyfriend and i "get married" because all that matters is that we care for each other and know that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. i honestly don't envy my friends having to plan weddings and spending a fortune on one day. i'm not saying that i don't want to get married, but the way i feel about my boyfriend, it can wait.

 

[suejai]

Because it was easy.

By that I mean that I never had any angst with DH. If he said he was going to call, he called. If he said he would pick me up at 8:00, he was there. I didn't worry every minute that I had said or done something to make him angry and he was never going to call again. I didn't worry about what he was doing when he wasn't with me.

Basically, he was refreshingly honest and trustworthy. I knew he was solid and I'd always be able to count on him. He had a good sense of humor, good character, was handsome, and enjoyed talking about all sorts of things. He never bored me. He was the real deal.

This is how it was for me too. The other big tell was how dogs reacted to him. The first time I saw this was when we were just getting to know each other and still in the military. He was standing in the middle of a group of other soldiers at Fort Lewis in Washington and a stray dog showed up and wriggled his way through the crowd and forced his way to DH and threw himself on his back exposing his tummy, he had up til then avoided contact with everyone. Animals and kids always behave this way with DH to this day. DH looks, and is, tough, but he's a big sap inside.

And when we held hands it tingled. And he listened to me when I talked, he still does. The list goes on and on.

It sounds so cliche to say that you will just know, but it was true in my case.

 

[dawnn12]

i was trying to get over a bad breakup i was online one night and looked up people in my area i seen a screenname who was online at that time and we started talking well we talked for a few months we got so friendly we would get up early to talk to each other before we went to work i was working at night(a 2nd job) and i told him to stop in if he ever wanted to finally meet well he stopped in tuesday night we talked for hours then he surprised me and stopped the next night asking me out on a date we were engaged within a month moved in together within the next month i found out i was pg with our dd and we were married a yr after she was born so i found my true love when i wasnt even looking

 

[jfoofj]

When I was in college I had my palm read for fun during our spring fling weekend. The palm reader told me that I hadn't met the person I was going to marry yet, but he was from around my hometown area but he was living in Florida right now. I didn't believe her... WELL... on my 3rd date with my ex-husband (yeah, I know, it didn't work out... wish she had told me that part ) we were talking about past jobs and he said that he had worked at Universal Studios for a year when he got out of college... which was during the time frame I had my palm read. Weird, huh?

As for DH... we knew each other to say "hey how are you" at work for a few years but I didn't even know his name... I just knew he was the hot guy from the dept down the hall from mine. After I got divorced I moved into a condo in a small town outside of the city we worked in. I saw him at the grocery store, gas station, pharmacy etc and he asked me if my husband and I had moved to the area and I said no, I had gotten divorced and bought a condo on my own and he grinned a HUGE ear to ear grin... weird... usually people said "oh, sorry to hear that". WELL after he grinned he said "I got divorced too" and it was my turn to grin. He asked me out for that weekend then he had to cancel because he could get his son that night... right then and there I knew he was a "good guy" because he picked spending a Sat night with his son rather than going out on a date with a vixen like me. We ended up going out on our first date the following Tuesday night. After a few months of dating we introduced our kids (who have been best friends ever since) and the rest is history!

 

[watersbland]

DW and I met through yahoo personals. We each worked opposite schedules so she came to meet me the first time while I was working 6pm-6am one night. We sat in an empty foodlion parking lot, propped up against my patrol car and talked off and on all night between calls. Everytime I would get done with something and come back she was right there waiting for me to come back. And I swear the first time I laid eyes on her, it was like one of those cliche moments you see in movies where time stands still. Fast forward 4 months and we broke up due to distance and completely opposite schedules. We stayed in contact and both dated other people for about 6 months. She took a job dispatching at the PD I worked and though we were both dating other people we became inseperable. Finally one night she just looked at me and said, "what are we doing with x and x besides wasting time? We both know that we should be together." I agreed and we got married 2 years later in our back yard. While I was heartbroken when we split up and overjoyed when we got back together, I don't think either of those were the defining I'm going to marry her moments. The first time I remember thinking I could marry this woman was when I took her to Thanksgiving dinner to meet my family and she made us stay an extra 2 hours so she and my mom and sister could finish their conversation. In that moment, I knew that we fit together in so many ways and that this was the icing on the cake so to speak. We have been together for 5 years and married 3 so I guess I should write yahoo personals that endorsement letter sometime soon!

 

[AllyBri]

Still trying to heal after a breakup, feels like it'll never get better! How did you know your spouse was "the one."

Have not thought about this in a very long time.
Met my DH 46 years ago, we're married for 44 years. I don't know how I knew he was the one, but I just knew it at the time. Thinking about that moment now, it's as clear as if it just happen this morning.

DisneyJules, I'm a big believer in if it's meant to be.........

 

[DisneyJules]

Have not thought about this in a very long time.
Met my DH 46 years ago, we're married for 44 years. I don't know how I knew he was the one, but I just knew it at the time. Thinking about that moment now, it's as clear as if it just happen this morning.

DisneyJules, I'm a big believer in if it's meant to be.........

So sweet, thanks! I've always been a big believer of things happening for a reason, it always seems more difficult to see when you're in the middle of a situation, but I know with time it'll make more sense in the big picture.

 

[GeorgeG]

She told me...

 

[piglet50]

we were in the same english class. he was funny and had the greatest blue eyes. we were both dating other people at the time. i told him his girl was wrong for him. the next year we were both free and started dating. we've been married for 32 years. it just keeps getting better.

 

[Katieinwonderland]

When DH and I first met, I couldn't stand him! We were both working in the same store and he was patronising and annoying and kept telling me what to do. I went home and told everyone how much I couldn't stand him, and it wasn't until I was laying awake at night thinking about him that I thought maybe I was thinking about him for other reasons.

We had a long (looooooong!) distance relationship for the first year - I was in my final year at university in England, he was in his final year in Connecticut. But the way things worked out, we were able to see each other every single month that year, even if it was just for a week. Things just happened and one of us would be able to fly over. It was tough, but not for one second did I consider it not worth it.

We've been married just over a year and I'm still head over heels in love with him

I'm a big believer in things that are meant to be. DH was meant for me and I was meant for him. After break ups, I know it feels horrible, but it will be OK

 

[mickeyboat]

I met DH when I was 12. We started dating when I was 13 and we started talking about marriage after we had been together for about 9 months. Crazy, huh?

I moved away after that but we got together again during my first year of college. We started talking marriage again right away and got engaged after my sophomore year.

We have been married 17 years.

 

[HM]

I didn't know for a long time after we met.
What really did it for me, was watching him care for a preemie baby of our coworkers one night. I was scared to death of that tiny baby, but he was so good with him. I just knew he was a good man and would be a good parent and that sealed the deal for me.

 

[Aisling]

He came from money!

 

[maddmike]

He came from money!

Thats an answer I can appreciate. I took one look at her bank account and I knew instantly...she's the one!

 

[xoprincessmomxo]

He came from money!

Lucky you!

 

[NeverlandClub23]

He came from money!

Does he have a brother??

 

[Handbag Lady]

Mine is kinda funny, actually.

We met at work and started dating. The Beauty and the Beast stage show came to town, so he got really great tickets. I was to drive to his house, and then he would drive from there, as he knew the theatre/parking much better than I did.

I showed up in my favorite vintage 1950's black evening gown. He opened the door and he was wearing a suit and a single red rose.

He then told me to take my dress off.

I balked, he said it was okay, don't worry. So I did.

He ironed it.

I put it back on and we were on our way.

 

[2binak]

Because it was easy.

By that I mean that I never had any angst with DH. If he said he was going to call, he called. If he said he would pick me up at 8:00, he was there. I didn't worry every minute that I had said or done something to make him angry and he was never going to call again. I didn't waorry about what he was doing when he wasn't with me.

Since I had always done all of the above with previous boyfriends, I thought it might mean that he was it.

Same for me. My relationship with DH was just so easy and comfortable. It didn't feel like I was trying to be his girlfriend. It just happened.

 

[Nie0214]

I just know. I never believed in that "love at first sight" hoopla, but by the end of our second date, I knew I didn't ever want him to go. I've never felt so completely at ease and happy, it just feels right. We fit together and compliment eachother so well. He is exactly the man I would have described to be my perfect match had you asked me the day before I met him. Every day I fall further. It's unbelievable.

I never in a million years thought I'd turn to complete mush over a man. I'm so lucky.