How did this happen? FB question!!

[kelleyrn2000]

Here is the scenario:

DH's stepgrandfather apparently saw one of my friend's facebook pages. I put a "like" on my friend's status update. The FB friend has a daughter with the same name as my dd,and he was posting an update on her condition (she is in the hospital and is making improvements). I never put a comment, just a "like".
DH's SGP does not know this person at all, but is my FB friend.

I have my account settings for Friends to see things, but no Friends of Friends.

I got a call from MIL and apparently all of DH's extended family thinks that MY DD is in the hospital for pneumonia! Poor DH's grandmother has been worried sick for no reason. Apparently DH's stepgrandpa got to my FB friend's page, saw the status update that HE WROTE and it had the child's name (same as my DD) and he thinks that it was about my DD???

So basically when I post something on another FB page, if that person doesn't have their privacy setting to Friends only, then my family can read their pages? The family now is in agreement DH's stepgrandpa shouldn't be on FB!! He's already under suspicion by the family for possible online gambling...thinking of blocking him from my FB now!

 

[GoodFairies]

If someone doesn't have his/her profile set to private, anyone can read it. It has nothing to do with being your friend or not. Why would you be mad at the relative? It's not his fault people don't safeguard their information. He's old and he misunderstood.

 

[kelleyrn2000]

No, not mad at him for that, just frustrated. Like I said, the family thinks (including grandma) that he is secretly online gambling, but we can't prove it, so it's just another reason we don't trust him. I thought there was a way to block certain people from seeing certain things on my FB page without defriending, but I am still trying to figure it out.

 

[RadioNate]

Here is the scenario:

DH's stepgrandfather apparently saw one of my friend's facebook pages. I put a "like" on my friend's status update. The FB friend has a daughter with the same name as my dd,and he was posting an update on her condition (she is in the hospital and is making improvements). I never put a comment, just a "like".
DH's SGP does not know this person at all, but is my FB friend.

I have my account settings for Friends to see things, but no Friends of Friends.

I got a call from MIL and apparently all of DH's extended family thinks that MY DD is in the hospital for pneumonia! Poor DH's grandmother has been worried sick for no reason. Apparently DH's stepgrandpa got to my FB friend's page, saw the status update that HE WROTE and it had the child's name (same as my DD) and he thinks that it was about my DD???

So basically when I post something on another FB page, if that person doesn't have their privacy setting to Friends only, then my family can read their pages? The family now is in agreement DH's stepgrandpa shouldn't be on FB!! He's already under suspicion by the family for possible online gambling...thinking of blocking him from my FB now!

Yes. I think. If your friend has THEIR page set to "friends of friends" or "everyone" than YOUR friends can see anything posted on their walls. Stuff you post, stuff they post, stuff complete strangers post.

I'm sure he looked because he thought it was your DD. I'm not sure how this translates to him not being on FB at all except that through a profile pic or something he should have realized that it wasn't your DD.

I'm guessing on your 'recent activity' it said "kelleyrn2000 likes Jane Smiths status" with a link. Because he though Jane Smith was your DD he clicked the link and because Jane Smith didn't have her page set to private he could read the status update and therefor your 'like.'

Simple as that.

Now where he went wrong is not realizing that this was a different Jane Smith and telling everyone that your DD was sick.

 

[cat83]

This makes me angry a bit... I hate how facebook does this.
We were actually just testing this last weekend.

He didn't even have to look at your profile.
On his homepage, it will say "kelley likes joe's status", and then will have "joe's" status in quotes.

People do not have to seek it out at all- I dislike that I can like or comment on someone, and then it is broadcasted on all of my friends' homepage.

Its one thing to say that the other person should have better privacy controls, and that people can see their posts if they go looking for them.
But I do NOT like that my family will see other posts and pictures that I "liked", as soon as they log in.
Facebook simply gives them these things to see, and it makes no sense to me.

 

[kelleyrn2000]

So I just figured out how to block him from seeing my friends wall posts, so it shoudn't be a problem anymore. Hopefully it works!

 

[cat83]

really?? what do you do?

 

[kelleyrn2000]

Well, I think I did it. I went to my page. Then under the box where you put your status, there is a "settings" and I was able to click on that. After a delay, a box comes up with some more options and that's where I was able to put in his name to block him from "seeing friend's wall posts". I hope that works!

ETA first hit options under the status box, and then a Settings button will appear, that's where I found it.

 

[cat83]

I think that only blocks them from seeing things that your friends post on your wall.
I tried that out a few days ago, and my sister was still able to see things I comment on or like

 

[kelleyrn2000]

I think that only blocks them from seeing things that your friends post on your wall.
I tried that out a few days ago, and my sister was still able to see things I comment on or like

oh, shoot. That's frustrating!

 

[trip]

I'm confused OP. What does his possible online gambling have to do with FB?

 

[beaucoup]

FB confuses a lot of older people. He was on your wall, saw you liked a friends status, followed the like link, read it & got confused that it wasn't your wall he was still reading.

If he's like elderly I know that are using computers & internet, they get confused by many things online.

Either help him understand it or cut him some slack. I guess you could set your privacy so he can't read your wall at all, but that sort of defeats the purpose.

 

[beaucoup]

I think that only blocks them from seeing things that your friends post on your wall. I tried that out a few days ago, and my sister was still able to see things I comment on or like

You are correct. It won't stop him from being able to click on like links on your wall.

 

[RadioNate]

Ok I poked around FB a bit. I looks like on your privacy setting pages if you click "customize" there is a setting for blocking what others do on FB. It might not get you entirely what you want but it is there.

Your other option is to create a list that just includes him and block him from your wall entirely.

FB by design is a social tool. It meant to be used for people to connect with others. You can really only control what you do and your settings. It isn't his fault he saw a status of someone you are friends with. If they wanted their profile more private, they would set it that way.

I get why 'correcting' someone would be annoying but is this really that big of a deal?

 

[kelleyrn2000]

Ok I poked around FB a bit. I looks like on your privacy setting pages if you click "customize" there is a setting for blocking what others do on FB. It might not get you entirely what you want but it is there.

Your other option is to create a list that just includes him and block him from your wall entirely.

FB by design is a social tool. It meant to be used for people to connect with others. You can really only control what you do and your settings. It isn't his fault he saw a status of someone you are friends with. If they wanted their profile more private, they would set it that way.

I get why 'correcting' someone would be annoying but is this really that big of a deal?

I will check out that setting. Oh, and I'm sure DH's grandma "corrected" him already

 

[mckryan]

This is why I remove anything from my wall that shows where I've made comments or liked someone's status. After I make a comment on something, I go back to my profile and remove it from my wall.

 

[sbell111]

This makes me angry a bit... I hate how facebook does this.
We were actually just testing this last weekend.

He didn't even have to look at your profile.
On his homepage, it will say "kelley likes joe's status", and then will have "joe's" status in quotes.

People do not have to seek it out at all- I dislike that I can like or comment on someone, and then it is broadcasted on all of my friends' homepage.

Its one thing to say that the other person should have better privacy controls, and that people can see their posts if they go looking for them.
But I do NOT like that my family will see other posts and pictures that I "liked", as soon as they log in.
Facebook simply gives them these things to see, and it makes no sense to me.

Well, it is social networking and you have stated that those people are your friends. Therefore, it only makes sense for them to see the stuff that you say that you like.

If a person is not social or those people are not your friends, perhaps the person shouldn't be on facebook or should be more careful who he/she chooses as friends.