How did I get so stressed?

[ck_1]

Be honest now, has anyone had this experience?

You're going along with the wedding plans and everything has, for the most part, gone smoothly. You've taken care of all of the major things and begun to live your life as usual while waiting for the big day - practically twiddling your thumbs! And then, out of no where, suddenly it's like you wake up one morning in another life and are so stressed out, nervous and scared!

Oh my goodness. How does that happen???

Calm. Deep Breaths. I know... it'll all be okay.

Less than 4 weeks until the wedding.

 

[PrincessMo]

Don't worry that happens to many of us I am sure. Yeah all the sudden I started to panic as well. It was also like nothing anyone could say or do was right ya know? Plus some people didn't want to cooperate or let me know or even thank me for all i had done. So, yeah towards the end I was stressed out. And the morning we left to go to WDW which was 2 days before the wedding we get into a limo at around 4:30 am and it was me, fiance, his neice, his mom, his best man and his best mans gf. Well both the mom and best mans gf complained about the limo, how early it was blah blah while i am sitting there the bride with no sleep worrying about if i have everything and hoping everything goes ok at the airport and on the plane with my dress. I was so angry. To top it off, right before we got into the limo my fiance went to the double lock the door and the key broke in the door!!!! So, after that then getting into the limo hearing these women complain the whole time I was fumming.

Yeah I am always the nice person but during the last stretch till wedding time I turned into a you know what sometimes. I am a nervous person to start so it was natural that I was nervous and panicy. So, don't worry it is completely normal.

BTW, I will one of these days get a trip report up there because there are more stories like that revolving around the wedding trip.

Have A Magical Day!

 

[Mary626]

Completely normal! Happened to everyone I talked to about it! OMG it totally happened to me... I practically had the entire wedding planned at least 5 months before hand... but the last 2 weeks before the wedding, look out, i was one giant ball of stress!! I don't know why that happens. I think it's a combination of nerves and having to deal with everyone ELSE'S unpreparedness... like "what do you mean you don't have a hotel room booked, it's two weeks before the wedding!!" or all of a sudden five guests RSVP'ing saying they are coming, when they never mentioned it before and the rsvp cut off date was two months ago...

The home stretch is definitely the most stressful and is when the words "we should have eloped" are said the most often!!! (I know I said them quite a few times right before the wedding!!)

Don't worry, you'll get through it and everything will be wonderful,

 

[PrincessMo]

Beautiful picture Mary!!

I love the color blue you picked out it is a lovely color and really helps make you stand out even more. You look gorgeous!

Have A Magical Day!

 

[ck_1]

Thank you PrincessMo and Mary626! I hope that the nerves settle so I can enjoy getting married. They do settle, don't they? I'm a bit concerned as well, that we're not going to be able to relaxe and enjoy our honeymoon. After your wedding were you able to enjoy your honeymoon? I feel like after everything is said and done, we're going to need a vacation for just the two of us.

 

[JJClemson]

Hi ck 1! So, I am not yet married but have heard this kind of stress is completely normal! You just have so much pressure on you right now, and have prepared very long for this important day and just want it to be wonderful. I think planning a wedding is such a stressful event. Don't get me wrong, it is definitely fun and exciting, but my goodness, it takes a toll on you!

Let me give you an example. DF and I have been visiting my family for the past week in NJ. My mom is an artist and she is making all our save the dates, invitations, place cards, etc. Well, we get home from the beach about an hour ago, and my parents' kitchen is in complete shambals She had been working in save the dates for the past 6 hours and had 8 different samples from which she wanted us to choose. I think the poor woman was just over tired b/c she was screaming "Jen, you must choose which one you want right now b/c I am in creative mode and want to make them all tonight!" They all look wonderful and DF and I were just overwhelmed, and of course my Dad, Nana, and brother are all giving their opinions. We finally choose one, but geez what a process!

I am sure you have had many instances like this throughout your wedding planning process, as have all brides. Just think of all the things we have to do to plan a wedding. On top of that we have to work or go to school full time, get to know (or tolerate!) a new family, and still concentrate on building a lovely life w/ our prince charmings. It is so normal to feel stressed! Keep taking those deep breaths I hope you feel better and have the perfect wedding!

 

[JonetteA]

The stress is normal. And it will get worse believe it or not! Just do the things you normally would do to calm down. I just cuddled up with my husband to be, and hung out with friends as much as I could. That seemed to help. But realize after a certain point there is nothing that you can do. Just relax and enjoy your time with the people you like/love.

Jen make sure to post your STDs.

 

[janine]

I was like a bear with a sore head for a good 2 months before the wedding. Nothing seemed to go smoothly, but on the day, it was PERFECT !

 

[ck_1]

Thank you everyone! I think I've just about had the worst weekend trying to sort through these feelings and not feel overwhelmed by everything. I'm mostly just worried... worried about the reception dinner, worried about my parents, worried about the cost, worried about my dress, my hair, the shoes, the boquet that my fiance's Mom is making - that I haven't seen, worried about the cost, getting there, how to transport the dress, pictures, that I don't forget anything, that everyone likes the favors, my MOH's gift is just right, that I find something red because my mother is Asian and it means good luck, that we have someone to watch the cats, a kennel to keep the dogs, the cost, I can go on here...

Hu... I actually feel better now that I've just poured that all out here.

Thank you for the support. I really didn't think I'd get like this.

19 days left!

 

[Codie]

Thank you everyone! I think I've just about had the worst weekend trying to sort through these feelings and not feel overwhelmed by everything. I'm mostly just worried... worried about the reception dinner, worried about my parents, worried about the cost, worried about my dress, my hair, the shoes, the boquet that my fiance's Mom is making - that I haven't seen, worried about the cost, getting there, how to transport the dress, pictures, that I don't forget anything, that everyone likes the favors, my MOH's gift is just right, that I find something red because my mother is Asian and it means good luck, that we have someone to watch the cats, a kennel to keep the dogs, the cost, I can go on here...

Hu... I actually feel better now that I've just poured that all out here.

Thank you for the support. I really didn't think I'd get like this.

19 days left!

I was surprised when I got like that too. I generally get a little high stress, but in this case, up until the last month it just seemed like there wasn't anything to do...and then suddenly I felt like there was EVERYthing to do and no one to help me. I really felt SO lonely and cranky. My dear dh was soo good to me and one day even called his sister to get her to help me...she showed up with a case of Corona and ready to help with anything. It really helped......until about an hour after she left when I got all lonely and cranky again BUT it all does pass. Seriously, by the time I knew that it was almost time to be in Disney (on the plane) I was flying on cloud 9 and by the time we were checking in to the hotel (and being specially treated by the check-in cm's b/c of the wedding) I was higher than cloud 9...DISNEY makes everything wonderful and it's a whole new high when you are there for your wedding. Relax (as best you can) and get ready for the most amazing time of your life

 

[dsnyfan6/18]

don't worry it's normal. i was surprised at how well i was doing, and I didn't start getting stressed out until about 3 weeks prior, and then i went nuts! the wedding was absoutely perfect, i couldn't have asked for more, and i'm sure that's how yours will be!

 

[phisigprincess]

Being the planning nut that I am, I figured i had everyone done - no worries! Heck, I was engaged for 2.5 years, what was left. All of a sudden (right at the point you are) I went nuts!! Nothing was done, there was 100 "last meetings", etc. etc. etc.!! Trust me - once that dress goes on and you're walking down the aisle the stress melts away and it's completely forgotten. You'll be fine and as long as the big things are done (ie. a groom, a time, and a place), it'll be a perfect day for you!!