How did a trip that start out so well end so bad??? Updated 8/17 post 173

Thanks! Sometimes I think it is just me reading too much into things but by the posts I see I am in justified in feeling the way I do.
My husband would always tell me that I was being too sensitive and reading too much into things, too. Now he pretty much agrees with me, but I stopped talking about it so much. He'll agree to a point, then he starts getting ill with me because they are still his family and he starts to become defensive.

But you are quite justified in feeling the way you feel. That's why you have us on the DIS, free therapy!!! Vent away, friend, vent away...
 
Man I can feel your pain. Sounds like some family members of mines I took years ago. One DSis was cursing her kids out:scared1: and the other one was stealing anything not nailed down and punching a bus driver in the face and mooning him:eek:. I started writing the trip report and it was removed it was so bad:lmao:. Never again, The next 7 trips were WITHOUT THEM:worship:.

I cant deal with ignorance at all,LOL

I can relate and Im glad you planned another trip to make new lovely memories.:wizard:
 
Man I can feel your pain. Sounds like some family members of mines I took years ago. One DSis was cursing her kids out:scared1: and the other one was stealing anything not nailed down and punching a bus driver in the face and mooning him:eek:. I started writing the trip report and it was removed it was so bad:lmao:. Never again, The next 7 trips were WITHOUT THEM:worship:.

I cant deal with ignorance at all,LOL

I can relate and Im glad you planned another trip to make new lovely memories.:wizard:
All I can say is - WOW! You are smart not to go back with them. :sad2:
 
That's terrible what you had to put up with. Just be glad they weren't there for your whole trip! :scared1:
 

DH and I decided about 6 years ago to no longer travel with FIL and MIL, not that we did too much of it, but after one 2 day trip to the Cape, we said never again.... :sad2:
 
Okay...where did I leave off? Oh...my blood is already starting to boil. Ohh..I actually have to back track for just a moment. If you remember earlier, they were wanting to watch Fantasmic last night. Well, of course, they didn't listen and everyone but my DSiL and Dne went inside. The stadium reached capacity and my DSiL was not allowed admission. She said she "tore that CM a new one." Ummm...nice but I remember telling you to stay together for that reason. Ummm...she said she didn't think that applied to her. Must be nice to be so "special". So, she called my inlaws and BiL to tell them they had to leave that it wasn't fair if she and my DNe missed it. AND THEY DID!!! I could not believe it. THey would NEVER do that for us. Of course, I wouldn't ask either. I think she has them running scared that they would never see their grandchildren if they don't comply with her every need/want.

Okay...so we're walking around and my DMiL tells me they are excited about dinner but don't think my DSiL and DBiL are joining us. I flipped out and said how inconsiderate that was. I made the ressies and can't just go from a party of 10 to a party of 6. Everyone knew in advance how much it cost and I had noted on the ressies it was BiL's bday.

So...I had enough and went to talk to my DSiL. She said they just didn't feel like going and didn't want to spend the $$$. Ummm..I let her know how inconsiderate it was and it wasn't fair for my family to possibly miss out after they already committed to it. She said they would send my DNi and DNe with my in laws. I, again, told her how unfair it was that it was a character meal and didn't she want to see her children's reactions? Remember...they are not too into it though since she sent DNi on first ride of Splash with me.

Anyway...they finally decide they are going. We walk to take the monorail to GF and just as we get on it the skies open up. We are so grateful we are on the monorail and have indoor plans for a awhile. This was not good planning on my part and we wore our Family Vacation tshirts and I did not bring a change of clothes for the group picture. My son was filthy from his breakfast at Chef Mickey's. So....we finally get in and I bring my DD to the bathroom to change into her Aurora dress. DSiL changes her DD to Tinkerbell. FiL comments out loud that my DD looks big in her dress and she's too old to be dressing up but about how cute my DNi looks. Umm...they are only a year apart. Now my eyes fill up for my DD. She pretends she didn't hear. She's used to that. We waited quite a while and my DS's patience is wearing thin. He is starting to pitch a fit. My DMiL says well...we don't have to go. Umm..yes we do. I have a reservation! I am holding my son as we wait in line and he just leaned over and bit me hard on the shoulder. I yelled very loudly at him and put him in time out. Of course, he began to cry. My MiL told me I was making a scene and embarassing her that I should just let it go. I explained to her that I will discipline my children when I see fit and biting is not EVER accepted regardless of where you are. Heck...I have even put him in timeout at church. I might be a hard a$$ but my children will behave!!!

So...we get this lame picture and go to sit down. We are seated off to a side room. I tell my DH I am very glad this was included in the DDP and we weren't paying cash because we were separated from a lot. Somehow my DH and myself get split up (like usual) as we were placed in two tables across the aisle from each other. I sat with our kids, my DSiL, DBiL, and their kids and my DH sat with his parents. My DS pitches yet another fit and will not sit down. I have to stand and hold him and rock. People...this was at 4:45; it's not like it was a late dinner. Now I am mad and I am determined not to leave. My DH got his food and took my DD to get hers. They start to eat and eventually I get my DS to sit. Here is a picture of him sitting....

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So...the characters start to come alone. For the life of me....I could not get a picture of my DD alone with the characters. My Niece would always just in and the in laws thought it was funny. Afterall...she is cute. :scared1: I finally get my son to cooperate but now he is sitting on my lap. Here he is with Cinderella. He wouldn't get off my lap for any characters.

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I cropped some pictures...here are some of my DD that is supposively too big to be in a Princess dress.

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So...the above picture was actually funny. First of all,. look at the attitude on my DD. SHe was playing right along with the character. When the Stepmother came over my DD asked her why she was so mean to the mice. The stepmother replied, "Well...you don't like mice do you?" My DD replied, "Yes, I do like them, some live in my basement but my mommy doesn't like them so my daddy exterminates them for her." The stemother never broke character and said; "Charming child...charming". The things kids will say.

So we finish dinner and the In laws ask why can't we just use some of our credits to pay for our niece and nephew since BiL and SiL have no money. We tell them we can't. This really pisses me off because they make just as much as us. They just don't pay their bills and always cry poor mouth.

So...we get back on the monorail to go to the MK. We had already viewed Wishes so we did not intend to stay for that. We rode some other rides and decided to take the train from Spash Mountain to the exit. Our BiL, SiL couldn't fit their carriage so my in laws walked it over there so they could ride with us. Again...they would NEVER do that for us. So, they get off and my kids start pitching a fit how they want to get off too. Umm..we wanted to leave but, okay...we agreed we would play for a while. They played and went in Mickey/Minnie's house. Somehow, my DS lost his binky. Oh...can the night get any worse. I know it can...I was just feeling so beat down at this point. We get back on the train to leave. As we get to the exit; Spectromagic is going by. What a view from up there but we couldn't stay up there. We left.

So...just a couple of notes....when we got home SiL were talking about the Blues club at DTD. I didn't know they went so I asked oh when did you go there. She replied; when MiL and FiL watched out kids. I looked at BiL and he was shaking his head no like don't tell her. WHy??? Because In laws never offered to watch our kids. NICE...REAL NICE....

Another thing that happened after we left is that they hopped from AK to HS to watch Fantasmic. Now remember, I told them they could not do this since they didn't have park hoppers and SiL said she would try anyhow. Of course, they coudln't get in and were told they could pay the $50 per ticket to upgrade. They said no so my DNi threw herself on the ground and pitched such a fit that they let them in. That's right....THEY LET THEM IN! Not only did they do that they escorted them front and center to Fantasmic! I was so upset when I heard this. Of course, they were laughing because they got their way.

Up next....our last day. For one of the first times we were actually glad to go home. We were going to meet them at Epcot and use our GAD vouchers to get fastpasses for them. Why I thought they should benefit from our volunteerism I have no idea. We were also supposed to do Kim Possible (my DD was very much looking forward to this) as well as pick a pearl in Japan.

How much of that do we actually do??? Stay tuned. popcorn::

I didn't really get to eat at this meal since I was always dealing with my son.
 
What a day! For what it is worth - I think your daughter looked quite adorable in her Aurora dress and she is not too old to be dressing up. FIL should be respectful of his grandaughter's feelings. :headache: Your daughter was a trooper, but I know that had to hurt her. I love her interaction with the step-mother. So cute!

I cannot believe that they let them in HS without a park hopper just b/c a little girl pitched a fit and then walked them up to the front row of Fantasmic. That must have been some fit!!! :sad2:

Poor thing - I am so sorry the day didn't work out very well for you. I am so happy that you have another trip to make up for this one.
 
What a day! For what it is worth - I think your daughter looked quite adorable in her Aurora dress and she is not too old to be dressing up. FIL should be respectful of his grandaughter's feelings. :headache: Your daughter was a trooper, but I know that had to hurt her. I love her interaction with the step-mother. So cute!

I cannot believe that they let them in HS without a park hopper just b/c a little girl pitched a fit and then walked them up to the front row of Fantasmic. That must have been some fit!!! :sad2:

Poor thing - I am so sorry the day didn't work out very well for you. I am so happy that you have another trip to make up for this one.

Thanks!

That's part of what is frustrating. My DH and myself work so hard for what we have and never expect to be given anything. They are just the opposite but somehow everything just magically appears. They are the type that can fall in poop and come out smelling like roses. So frustrating!! Keep trying to remind myself I am the better person.

Thanks for the compliment on my DD. That meant a lot. It is hard because what ever she does it doesn't seem good enough for them. Just simply breaks my heart.

We are so thankful we are able to take the trip in December so we can make wonderful memories and do the things we didn't get to do in May.

Thanks again.
 
Your daughter did love lovely. She's not too old either. Danielle was 10 on our last trip. She finally did BBB and dressed for dinner at Park Fare. Now she won't do that again, but I'm glad she did it this once.

So sorry they ruined your day and dinner. I don't like people who think they are entittled and think of the themselves first. I also don't like when thing are unfair, but life's not fair. I do believe what goes around comes around and someday they will reap what they have sown.
 
I cannot believe what I'm reading. Literally, my mouth is open and I keep saying things like "What??" and "Are you JOKING?" to my computer. Oh, the disgust. I'm so sorry for you!
 
Your daughter did love lovely. She's not too old either. Danielle was 10 on our last trip. She finally did BBB and dressed for dinner at Park Fare. Now she won't do that again, but I'm glad she did it this once.

So sorry they ruined your day and dinner. I don't like people who think they are entittled and think of the themselves first. I also don't like when thing are unfair, but life's not fair. I do believe what goes around comes around and someday they will reap what they have sown.

Funny...my mom says that exact same thing about them. She hates how my DD gets treated and how down right rude they are in general. My DD is dressing as Belle come December and we will be sure to make a huge fuss about her. I'm glad they didn't take the magic out of it for her.

I cannot believe what I'm reading. Literally, my mouth is open and I keep saying things like "What??" and "Are you JOKING?" to my computer. Oh, the disgust. I'm so sorry for you!

Yup....I do that just about at every family function. Again, thanks for giving some validity to my feelings.

Hey.....this might just make a funny t.v. show. :rotfl2:
 
I am so irritated for you!! :headache:

I don't know what your FIL's problem was but even with the cropped pics you can tell that the Neice is just about as tall as your DD... :confused3 She looked adorable... She's not too old to dress up if she wants to... Your FIL is to old to act like a butt head though... :rolleyes1

I have a BIL/SIL who sound similar to yours... I bet we could compare stories and entertain each other for hours... popcorn::
 
Loving your tr...not loving your extended snobby family! I feel your pain. It stinks when you play by the rules and teach your children to respect othere and the rules and other people are unfair and mean and get their way. It's tough to raise children with values, but it is right and bravo to you for standing your ground!!
 
I just caught up! :thumbsup2 I feel for you with the in-laws. The subject of a "family trip" to DW has come up alot-DH & I ignore it!!! We wouldn't even go to a carnival w/any of them!:sad2:
 
Wow...I don't know what to say.:eek: I can't believe your FIL saying that to your daughter. She looked cute in her dress. No way is she too old to dress up. I am shocked that a CM let them in for Fantasmic:scared1: I'm sure they see lots of kids having fits every day. At least you'll have a relaxing, family trip in Dec.
 
Oh, I forgot...your DD looked Adorable!!! That would have made me cry as a mother. My DH is the same way w/not making more drama about of it and gets mad at me when I love to give the drama back!
 
Okay folks...so this is where is starts to get juicy.

We told SiL, BiL, MiL, FiL to meet us at 9:30am outside of MGM. We were just going to go early and have them call us when they got there but they would have none of that.

We took the boat from BWV to HS. That was fun.

Get there at 9:30...no family....10:00...no family - call cell phones and no anwer. Finally at 10:30 they show up. Nice waste of my time. Anyway, I tell them we need to go to TSM to see if there are any fastpasses left. They already start complaining about they want to go on RnRC. I say to go ahead but I want to see if they were fastpasses as this was our only HS day. The rest of the family were there for another 5 days so could return if they wanted. They reluctantly followed and amazingly there were fast passes left. I think our return time was around 5pm. This was fine since we had 6:45pm ressies at T-Rex (or so we thought). So, we head over to RnRC. The wait was only 15 minutes so we decide to wait and do Child Swap. My in-laws offered to wait with the 2 littlest ones (DS2 and Dnephew2).

Now people....I had told SiL, BiL before we left to measure Dniece6 before we left so they knew what she could go on and there were no disappointments. Do you think they did???? So, we get there and sure enough she is too short. DNiece starts to cry uncontrollably. DBiL is arguing with the CM that it is okay if she rides because after all he is the parent and can make decisions for his DD. OMG!! :scared1: So, then they want us to get out of line because it wouldn't be fair. No way in he$$ was I going to disappoint my DD. She has been looking forward to this ride for months. My MiL, and FiL reluctantly agree and keep my DS. We went on and it was awesome!!! When my DD got off she told my DNiece it was no big deal though so her feeling weren't hurt. ;) So, then they decide they want ToT. I knew my DD wouldn't like this but she refused to believe me. I went with my BiL, SiL and DNiece as well as my DD. DH does not ride this ride. DD decided to chicken out after the little preshow. With that DNiece didn't want to go either so BiL offers to take them out the chicken exit. I go on with my DSiL. It was her first time and she liked it. She then went on with my DBiL (they gave him a special fast pass since he had to take the girls out the chicken elevator.) WHen they were on the ride my DD goes to the gift store and decides she wants to buy a hotel bell of all things. Anyway, we get it and they come out. I then said I wanted to go on the Great Movie Ride so the little kids coudl ride something. I don't know how I missed it but it was closed.

Well...now it was close to lunch time and we were hungry. We had the dining plan and knew we wanted Starring Rolls. In laws wanted to know where they could eat. They packed lunches. I said I had no idea. They then said they weren't ready to eat so we shouldn't eat either. Ummm...no my kids were getting cranky and hungry. So, they follow us to starring rolls. I said we were getting two adult meals and could share with OUR CHILDREN. Again, it is not fair my DNiece wasn't eating there. Could we use credits for her. Ummm...no...that is against the policy. So, we get lunch and dessert. You know once we come out DNiece cries because she doesn't have it so they go in and buy her a lunch. So, we eat. I then go to Honey I Shrunk the Kids playground so the girls and everyone else could ride Star Tours. It was HOT as he$$ and that is hard work following a 2 year old around. I was up top of the net climb thing and wouldn't you know it was my in laws..they wanted to see my DS. So, we come down and they take pictures. THey see how hot I was and tell me I am crazy for following him around that he is a boy and boys will be boys. Ummm...boys can still get hurt or kidnapped so I will follow him around all I want; thank you. Everyone is off the ride. T

hey then decide they want to do Playhouse Disney. I have seen this so many times that I know skip it - just not one of our favorites. My MiL laid in the guilt....but I want to see all of my grandchildren. Fine...we wait in the hot line. The show begins and all I can hear when it starts is a man yelling in a loud tone from the back, "This is Queer!" So, I turn around and guess who it is...that's right...FiL. Who talks like that??? :confused3

So, next they want to watch Beauty and the Beast. I knew my DS2 would not sit thru this. I say you all go and we will meet you. So, MiL begins to cry because she wants us all to go. So, again, I waste time. As I knew, DS2 was impatient and started pitching a fit. DNephew strangles him and pushes him down. So, I yell at him. Everyone then yells at me for yelling at him because, after all, boys will be boys. Nice, huh. I actually have pictures of him strangling my son but I don't want to post them here for obvious reasons.

We then go to TSM for our fast pass time. I don't remember why but MiL and FiL didn't get fastpasses for this so didn't ride.

They all talk about how they are going to see Fantasmic that night. Okay, I tell them, you need to line up 1 hour in advance and keep your party together because they will not allow you to enter if it is full even if your party is in there.

At 5:30pm we say we have to leave to catch our reservation for T-Rex and our friends were meeting us there as they were going home early the next morning. I THOUGHT this was enough time. This is where I went wrong. I really should have researched the transportation better. I thought you could just catch a bus from HS. I walked around and around because the sign said DTD C something or other. I even asked a CM and they said wait by the charter buses. A charter bus finally comes (30 minutes into it) and I ask how we get to DTD. He apologizes and says due to the people parkign at DTD to avoid park parking fees they stopped the direct transportation you have to go to a resort first. Had we known this we would have just walked back to BWV to catch a bus. Anyway, the kids were really hot and tired and were starting to whine and cry so there would be no walking for us. So, we walk to the boat. 10 minutes later te boat comes and another 10 minutes later the boat finally leaves. It goes to the Swan/Dolphin first so I say lets just get off here. Okay... 2 buses pull up, no DTD. Now, it's already 6:30 and there is no way we will make it there on time so we call our friends. No problem....we will check in and wait for you. Another bus comes that says Magic Kingdom so of course we don't get on that. He then switches the sign to DTD and takes off without seeing if anyone wants to go there. There was a family next to us also waiting for a DTD bus. One finally comes at like 7pm. We get on and hear the bus radio how they were down bus drivers. The bus made the most convaluted trip to DTD I have ever been on. It stops at BC/YC and BW (expected that) but then it goes on to OKW, Saratoga Springs and the PO resorts as well. UGH!!!! So, we call our friends and they say no problem they are sat them and they are having drinks. What time did we get there????? WHy 7:45pm a full hour past our reservation time and 2 hours 15 minutes past the time we left HS. Our wonderful friends already had nice cold beverages waiting for us. The waitress came right over. I apologized profusely and she said no problem that people are late a lot when they take Disney transportation. Our wonderful friends were also kind enough to save some of their appetizers for our kids. So, we tell them how awful our day has been and how much we will truly miss then. I have to tell you, this waitress was the best server we had our entire trip. The food was better than I expected as well. The astroid shower scared my DS every time it went off. We were hoping to do some shopping after our meal as this was our only DTD night/day. We grabbed a yummy margarita at the stand and then my DS spotted the train. We gave him two rides and his sister was a great sport and went on with him. After the second ride he wouldn't get off so I had to forcibly remove him kicking and screaming. Sadly, there would be no shopping at DTD this trip. Boy, am I glad I let my DD get that foolish ToT bell so at least she had something for this trip.

I can't find any pictures of this day. I think I was just too disgusted to take any. Whenever I wanted to take a picture of my DD my DNiece jumped in anyway because, after all, it's not fair to take a picture of my DD but not my DNiece; right? :scared1::eek:

Next up...Magic Kingdom with the in-laws. Oh how I'm looking forward to that - NOT! Put it this way...it only gets worse! :rolleyes1

We have an 8:15am ressie at Chef Mickey's so we say we will call them when we get to the park. I researched the transportation and we decide the best way to go is to take a bus to MK and walk to Contemporary. We also have 4:45pm ressie at 1900 Park Fare for all of us. Yes...I told everyone how much it was beforehand and even said it was my DBiL birthday when I made the ressie.

I might have to take a couple of days off before I write my next installment because I can already feel my blood boiling again and don't know if my body can handle two days in a row of this.


OMG..I totally feel for you!! I have a horrible SIL and BIL and I know that I could NEVER do Disney with them. They haven't pushed the issue yet but I'm hoping that they never ask to come!!
 
Loving your tr...not loving your extended snobby family! I feel your pain. It stinks when you play by the rules and teach your children to respect othere and the rules and other people are unfair and mean and get their way. It's tough to raise children with values, but it is right and bravo to you for standing your ground!!

Thanks...I keep telling my DD that I am raising her to be a productive adult that knows how to work for what they want and not expect anything. I keep trying to tell myself that I am the better person.

Wow...I don't know what to say.:eek: I can't believe your FIL saying that to your daughter. She looked cute in her dress. No way is she too old to dress up. I am shocked that a CM let them in for Fantasmic:scared1: I'm sure they see lots of kids having fits every day. At least you'll have a relaxing, family trip in Dec.
Thanks! I was shocked too but he says things like that all the time. Things like...you have to watch what you eat you are a little chubby and look at your cousin she is not chubby at all. They said the CM made some comment like she was going back to Mexico tomorrow so she was going to give them a little magic.

Oh, I forgot...your DD looked Adorable!!! That would have made me cry as a mother. My DH is the same way w/not making more drama about of it and gets mad at me when I love to give the drama back!
Thanks! Yeah....my DH keeps telling me to leave it alone and not make a big deal of it but when my children get hurt it is a very big deal!
 
Yes, I forgot to mention, your daughter looked adorable and should be allowed to indulge in dressing up as much as she pleases.

If they sold princess dresses in a size 18, I'd so be wearing one to work right now.
 
Good grief... it sounds quite horrible. We had an in-law trip last year.... and we vowed never never again. So this year, we're sneaking away WDW and WWOHP.....;) seriously.

I'm enjoying your report and your photos. Though, I am sorry that you had to deal with it all. Also, my DD was 9 last year... and still liked dressing up. You're never too old..... sounds like FiL needs to get over himself.
 












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