How can i convince my BF not to get Plastic Sugery?

[Vixen]

my BF has puffy under eyes and a lil doble chin.. he said that he wants to get those things fixed in Dec. but i think its a really bad idea! i dont know what to do first im sacred seeing all those disaster that have happend to people then i know it gets addicting... Please help me with some advice! i dont want him 2 get these things done

 

[LadyZolt]

First, how old is he? If he's under 40, then he sounds "high maintenance" about his appearance and that smells like trouble to me. Most guys think they look great with their four strands of hair combed over their bald spot and their beer bellies hanging over the tops of their sweat pants.

Second, you need to try to ask him gently why he feels the need to have this stuff done. If there's an older relative (dad, mom, grandparent) with the double-chin, he might think this surgery could prevent it from happening to him, but there are no guarantees. Assure him you love him and will always love him no matter what.

Then, remind him that beauty is only skin deep anyway. We all age -- get wrinkles, sagging skin, thin or graying hair, whatever. This indicates maturity, experience and hopefully wisdom from having lived life. To look your best at any age, eat right, exercise and take care of yourself.

If he really is that self-focused on his appearance after all your efforts and seems dedicated to this course of action, be prepared for this pattern to continue and decide if that's what you want to deal with in your future. I hope that this all works out for ya! Be supportive and listen to what he says when you ask.

-Dorothy (LadyZolt)

 

[SwedishMeatball]

I think you're jumping the gun assuming that it could become an addiction. If this is really impacting his self-esteem, then maybe it's for the best. It's his face and his choice.

 

[LindaR]

Well, you have the right to voice your opinion.......but he is a grown man and if this is something that HE wants to do then that is HIS decision to make.

You cannot control another person!

If this issue causes such a problem, then perhaps you need to really take a long hard look at your relationship. What you both want out of it and where its headed.....

 

[Vixen]

First, how old is he? If he's under 40, then he sounds "high maintenance" about his appearance and that smells like trouble to me. Most guys think they look great with their four strands of hair combed over their bald spot and their beer bellies hanging over the tops of their sweat pants.

Second, you need to try to ask him gently why he feels the need to have this stuff done. If there's an older relative (dad, mom, grandparent) with the double-chin, he might think this surgery could prevent it from happening to him, but there are no guarantees. Assure him you love him and will always love him no matter what.

Then, remind him that beauty is only skin deep anyway. We all age -- get wrinkles, sagging skin, thin or graying hair, whatever. This indicates maturity, experience and hopefully wisdom from having lived life. To look your best at any age, eat right, exercise and take care of yourself.

If he really is that self-focused on his appearance after all your efforts and seems dedicated to this course of action, be prepared for this pattern to continue and decide if that's what you want to deal with in your future. I hope that this all works out for ya! Be supportive and listen to what he says when you ask.

-Dorothy (LadyZolt)

he's only 36 and yes all those 2 thing do run in his fam.. im just sacred because down here you cant really trust plastic surgeons .. i just told him that im going to support him no matter what ... and i also let him know that beauty is skin deep.. see the thing is he is in a band that is pretty bog down here and he think he has to look young beacuse of this i tell him look a keith richards hes all old and wrinkled plays great and has fans all ages !

 

[mjkacmom]

I'm all for plastic surgery if it helps with self-esteme. Large noses run in DH's family, and if my child wanted a nose job, happy 18th birthday. I know people who've had some things done (mostly nose and ****s), and have not become addicted.

 

[hemispheredancer]

As a person that has had a procedure done (for medical and cosmetic reasons..insurance covered) I am all for it if it will make you feel good about yourself. I don't feel the need to get anything else done so I can't really say I am addicted to PS. My husband really did not want to lose his "big girls", but ya know what? They are mine and I am the one who has to carry these "big girls" around. Who was he to tell me I shouldn't get it done? I pretty much told him that my decision was made and I was doing it regardless of his opinion. So, whether you support him or not is up to you but just respect his decision. He will be the same person when it is all said and done.

 

[SaraJayne]

It isn't up to you whether he gets it done or not.

If it's going to help his self esteem, I'd be encouraging him to have it done, not discouraging it.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I would find out why he wants it done. It the issues bother him that much, then encourage him to get it done. Self-esteem is a wonderful thing.

But, help him find a GOOD doctor. Maybe he needs to come to Los Angeles or San Diego for the procedures?

Maybe there is a better surgeon down in your area or closer to you?

 

[luvmy3]

he's only 36 and yes all those 2 thing do run in his fam.. im just sacred because down here you cant really trust plastic surgeons .. i just told him that im going to support him no matter what ... and i also let him know that beauty is skin deep.. see the thing is he is in a band that is pretty bog down here and he think he has to look young beacuse of this i tell him look a keith richards hes all old and wrinkled plays great and has fans all ages !

I agree with the other posters that said if he's an adult it really his decision and if its going to help his self esteem there really isn't anything wrong with it. and there isn't much you can do to change his mind. As his friend I can understand why you would be concerned about the bolded but instead of discouraging him to have the procedure maybe you could help him find a cosmetic surgeon that is reputable and he can trust.

 

[Robinrs]

You can't. It's not up to you. Just be supportive.