house guests

[anniemae]

We have friends who live in another state. They will be going to a wedding which we will be attending also. They are about 4 hours away, so they must stay overnight. The event is about an hour from our house. I feel like I should invite them to stay with us, but I really am not up to it. We really like these people, and will get together the day after the event before they head home.

Would you feel obligated to invite them to stay with you? We have room, but it will be tight as there are 4 of them (2 adults, 2 kids).

 

[dngnb8]

We have friends who live in another state. They will be going to a wedding which we will be attending also. They are about 4 hours away, so they must stay overnight. The event is about an hour from our house. I feel like I should invite them to stay with us, but I really am not up to it. We really like these people, and will get together the day after the event before they head home.

Would you feel obligated to invite them to stay with you? We have room, but it will be tight as there are 4 of them (2 adults, 2 kids).

I would invite and let them know the limitations

i.e. Youre welcome to stay here. The kids will probably have to sleeping bag in on the floor and we are an hour away, but it will save you a few bucks.

 

[wishesuponastar]

If they are not asking to stay with you, don't feel bad about offering your home if you're not up to it. It sounds like you wouldn't be too happy with them staying so I wouldn't suggest it and you will all still be friends.

 

[mamacatnv]

Tell them this, that you just are not up to it. If they are good friends they will certainly understand and then you don't have to worry about them "wondering why you didn't extend an invite" they may not think twice about it but you have, so I would just tell them outright and then make the plans for the following day.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

If you really aren't up to it, don't add stress to your life.

I sometimes have guests, but there have been times when I really couldn't accommodate people, and have told them maybe next time.

 

[marybet]

I would not feel like I had to ask them. If you are an hour from the event they may not even want to stay with you and it would put them on the spot if you asked. If you were in the same town as the event it would be different.

Has the friend even hinted that they might like to stay with you? There's another thread about people not wanting to stay at someone elses house, they may fall into that category. If you only have one bathroom it would make getting ready a real hassle.

I would not bring it up unless your friend does and then I would just say that you can't do it this time, maybe another time.

 

[RNMOM]

I would find a reasonable hotel very close to the wedding and suggest you all stay there together and make a fun time of it for all of you. If there is a pool the kids can be entertained and you can all enjoy a couple drinks in the sun.

 

[tlbwriter]

I would not feel like I had to ask them. If you are an hour from the event they may not even want to stay with you and it would put them on the spot if you asked. If you were in the same town as the event it would be different.

I agree. I would rather stay in a hotel than at a friend's house an hour away, especially with kids. It would never occur to me that someone an hour away would feel they needed to host me.