Hotel Etiquette

[all4fun]

ASMo is built with concrete cinder block... so the noise between rooms is pretty muffled. Seriously, the values are where some cast members stay when a hurricane rolls into town because they are so "solid". We were there in September for a week and barely heard a peep once inside our room - just the occasional loud child running by - but not a big deal. Like other said, from your concern, you sound like you're considerate of others so this will probably translate to your family NOT being the "problem" children. If anything it will be other people bothering you. hth.

 

[HelenePA]

Nope NOTHING works... sometimes its 2 min.. other times.. its well lets not go there.. seriously there is NOTHING to make this child sleep NOTHING I co slept with the girls (actually we still co sleep, not by choice).. we never had to do this before. I also hate crying children.. but he wont go to sleep while I hope him, while he watches tv, while I read him a book, while in a stroller, while walking, while in a car, Ummmmm yeah. overtired undertired, just plain old tired... its all the same thing to me.. .Sorry to my soon to be neighbor!

 

[taximomfor4]

Nope NOTHING works... sometimes its 2 min.. other times.. its well lets not go there.. seriously there is NOTHING to make this child sleep NOTHING I co slept with the girls (actually we still co sleep, not by choice).. we never had to do this before. I also hate crying children.. but he wont go to sleep while I hope him, while he watches tv, while I read him a book, while in a stroller, while walking, while in a car, Ummmmm yeah. overtired undertired, just plain old tired... its all the same thing to me.. .Sorry to my soon to be neighbor!

My youngest did this to us in spurts. She would go to sleep fine (in her own crib, own room), for a couple months. Then she would suddenly NOT anymore. We would go through heck trying to get her to go to sleep well again, it would take WEEKS of not enough sleep on our parts, but I was determined that she would have to learn to go to sleep again. SO we'd struggle every night for WEEKS. Then she'd go to sleep fine for a few months again. Then the whole terrible-sleeping-thing would happen again. I feel for you! I would sit by her crib, then eventually lie on the floor by her crib, then slowly crawl closer and closer to th door, till I eventually could sneak out. She just didn't like to go to sleep! Before our first hotel stay with her, I would put her in her crib in the evening, and go take a shower so I couldn't hear her crying. I did this for several weeks before the hotel stay. Lo and behold, a few nights before it, she didn't really cry at bedtime at all!!

My brother, on the other hand, has little girls as well. They tried to take a beach vacation last summer when their youngest two were 1 and 2 yrs old. Neither girl would go to sleep properly in the hotel. The whole family was miserable. So now they won't do any hotel vacations for a couple of years till the girls can go to sleep better. (They had been planning to try WDW this year.)

Good luck!! It is NOT an easy thing!

Beth

 

[HelenePA]

it really isn't a fun thing to let your child cry, but after so long there is nothing else I can do! I can only hope and pray his sleep habits change in the next few months... I do NOT enjoy letting my child cry please dont anything think that! I hate it as much as you all do!

 

[dabrnigrl]

For the baby that has to cry it out, please define a few minutes really. Is it 2 or 3 or is 10 minutes? Because if it is ten that is too long and would drive me nuts! I hate to hear a baby cry and never let mine. Could you not push him in the stroller or something? You probably have tried but I hope if I'm your neighbor you figure something out. Maybe he'll fall asleep on the way back to the room, Disney does wear you out. Good Luck.

Baby crying is at a level that is very, very annoying to some people, they were just talking about this on the disability thread. I guess many autistic people absolutely can't deal with it.

I would never let my son cry in a hotel for 10 minutes.

I was saying in my own home.

I attempt to do that.

However, it is does not work.

He wants nothing but to be held, which to me will begin to start problems later on if I don't try and attempt to solve it.

I wake up as soon as I hear him stir ( I, too, being a very light sleeper).

I go in and start music to try and soothe him to sleep, and get back in bed.

He calms down for a minute and then starts up again.

So, then I get up and start continue the music and pat his butt and he calms down and is quiet, until I stop patting and walk out of the room and get back in bed and he starts crying again.

So, then I just let him cry for a few more minutes and then I start the same routine again until he asleep.

BUT I would NEVER disrespect anyone else in letting him cry it out in any other place than my home.

That is why I am nervous about doing a stay in a hotel.

 

[dabrnigrl]

ASMo is built with concrete cinder block... so the noise between rooms is pretty muffled. Seriously, the values are where some cast members stay when a hurricane rolls into town because they are so "solid". We were there in September for a week and barely heard a peep once inside our room - just the occasional loud child running by - but not a big deal. Like other said, from your concern, you sound like you're considerate of others so this will probably translate to your family NOT being the "problem" children. If anything it will be other people bothering you. hth.

Thanks for this helpful infomation.

I feel as if I am considerate, but I think some are getting the wrong impression, which is really making me worry.

Maybe I should fully introduce my self to our neighbors and feel them out, so I can see what I am dealing with.

There are some posts on here that are scaring me.

 

[dabrnigrl]

Nope NOTHING works... sometimes its 2 min.. other times.. its well lets not go there.. seriously there is NOTHING to make this child sleep NOTHING I co slept with the girls (actually we still co sleep, not by choice).. we never had to do this before. I also hate crying children.. but he wont go to sleep while I hope him, while he watches tv, while I read him a book, while in a stroller, while walking, while in a car, Ummmmm yeah. overtired undertired, just plain old tired... its all the same thing to me.. .Sorry to my soon to be neighbor!

I totally know how you feel.

That is my son too.

He will remain quiet if I hold him in bed, but the co-sleeping is why I won't hold him.

But, I guess next week, he to will his wishes granted.

LOL!

The year of magic, they say.

But, my son is very particular compared to my daughters when they were younger.

But, I have never allowed them to sleep with me.

I am already sleep deprived and the chance I do get to lay in my bed I want it to be just me and my husband.

Because, co-sleeping can last forever.

So, I rather try the cry it out method.

 

[PeachesDoesHair]

Having a one year old and a three year old, I guess I don't mind crying so much. I mean, it's not like you enjoy being in a 260 square foot room with a crying baby. If it did bother me that much, I would probably just see if the resort could move me. Having said that, if you just have to let your baby cry for a few minutes, as long as you are doing it at a reasonable hour then I think you are okay. We live in an apartment, so my kids are used to being consious of others living near by. I think as long as you are mindful of your neighboors you will be fine.

 

[dabrnigrl]

it really isn't a fun thing to let your child cry, but after so long there is nothing else I can do! I can only hope and pray his sleep habits change in the next few months... I do NOT enjoy letting my child cry please dont anything think that! I hate it as much as you all do!

I think some people forget all children are different.

All children are not handled or structured the same.

Trust me, I have two seperate discipline methods for both my DD5 and DD2.

The are two seperate personalities and learning levels.

Kind of like you can't feed all children the same formula, or use the same type of diapers for all of them.

They are all handled DIFFERENTLY.

 

[PeachesDoesHair]

I'm always paranoid with my kids I think you do the best you can do. Like the above poster said, kids are so different. Disney wore my kids plum out so we never really had to worry about them acting out in the room...LOL. The Magic Kingdom is the only thing to outlast my nightowl three year old daughter.

 

[fan_of_small_world]

I'm not sure I'm reading your post correctly, so please forgive me if I'm wrong. Are you worried about setting habits on vacation that you don't want continued at home (i.e., co-sleeping)? If so, I can say from experience that kids are so far off of their normal routines that no matter what you do or don't do, something may very well have to be "corrected" once you return home.

I wouldn't (and didn't, on past vacations) worry about the sleep arrangements if breaking from the norm works for getting the baby to sleep. Especially when we were in the same room as DD's older brother, since I didn't want her to disturb his sleep either. Yes, it took day or two to get her back to her regular sleep routine, but she did. It also took some time for other things to go back to normal with both kids, so I just go with the flow and realize that nothing permanently damaging will come of it.

Like I said, I'm not sure this is what you meant.

 

[dabrnigrl]

I'm not sure I'm reading your post correctly, so please forgive me if I'm wrong. Are you worried about setting habits on vacation that you don't want continued at home (i.e., co-sleeping)? If so, I can say from experience that kids are so far off of their normal routines that no matter what you do or don't do, something may very well have to be "corrected" once you return home.

I wouldn't (and didn't, on past vacations) worry about the sleep arrangements if breaking from the norm works for getting the baby to sleep. Especially when we were in the same room as DD's older brother, since I didn't want her to disturb his sleep either. Yes, it took day or two to get her back to her regular sleep routine, but she did. It also took some time for other things to go back to normal with both kids, so I just go with the flow and realize that nothing permanently damaging will come of it.

Like I said, I'm not sure this is what you meant.

I am going to co sleep with him on vacation, because it is polite to others, and I know everything is going to be out of the norm.

I am prepared for that.

I was just trying to get a feel out on peoples opinions of their neighbors with young children.

I feel I am taking the appropriate things to do.

That will be co sleep him till he goes to sleep, attempt to rotate him to his crib and then when he wakes up again bring him back to the bed with me.

I don't mind sleeping with him once in a while, and I do sometimes, but on a normal routine I will let him cry and soothe him in his crib instead of allowing him to co-sleep.

I was agreeing with the poster that was having a problem with her son, and I would rather try to let him cry it out than let him co-sleep since that is what he is wanting, because that will cause years of problems.

I am well prepared for the failure of normal routine.

LOL!

Actually there probably won't even be an attempt of it.

Besides the obvious, breakfest, lunch, nap, dinner, and bed time.

Who knows what time they actually will be, but I will make them appropriate

 

[NotUrsula]

Nope NOTHING works... sometimes its 2 min.. other times.. its well lets not go there.. seriously there is NOTHING to make this child sleep NOTHING

But have you actually tried Disney boot camp? Seriously, if this is his first trip, the odds are that you will find that a long day at the parks knocks him cold, and it probably won't even be an issue. Even kids who are normally light sleepers usually end up down for the count at WDW.

If you are concerned about waking him to get him ready for bed, then do it at the parks. (Yep, that's what I said.) We always do this with the little ones in my family at WDW. When we head back to the parks after our afternoon break, we go to the EMH park, and we stay until closing. The jammies and toothbrush go in the diaper bag, and when we see the small one start yawning, the teeth get brushed in a restroom, and the jammies go on, with a nice comfy stroller blanket. Most of the time within 30 minutes it's snoozeapalooza. (The truly stubborn child held out until the fireworks were over, but was sound asleep before we walked under the train station. Nothing more to see.)

 

[dabrnigrl]

But have you actually tried Disney boot camp? Seriously, if this is his first trip, the odds are that you will find that a long day at the parks knocks him cold, and it probably won't even be an issue. Even kids who are normally light sleepers usually end up down for the count at WDW.

If you are concerned about waking him to get him ready for bed, then do it at the parks. (Yep, that's what I said.) We always do this with the little ones in my family at WDW. When we head back to the parks after our afternoon break, we go to the EMH park, and we stay until closing. The jammies and toothbrush go in the diaper bag, and when we see the small one start yawning, the teeth get brushed in a restroom, and the jammies go on, with a nice comfy stroller blanket. Most of the time within 30 minutes it's snoozeapalooza. (The truly stubborn child held out until the fireworks were over, but was sound asleep before we walked under the train station. Nothing more to see.)

YOUR IDEA ROCKS!

That is such and excellent idea.

I going to try and when I get back I am going to tell you how it worked.

Man, I hate to say it, but why didn't I think of that.

GENIUS!

 

[NotUrsula]

Well, I wouldn't go THAT far ...

There is a chance that it won't work, so you do need a plan B. However, here's hoping that it works for you as well as it does for my extended family. (You should bring a padded reclining stroller if you use this plan; you do want baby to be comfy and able to sleep while his parents/siblings enjoy their evening.)

 

[epcotfan]

The only times I've been bothered were by unsupervised children or inconsiderate adults. In July at CSR there was a family that let their kids play outside at about 6:30am for several days in a row. It was really annoying. Especially after having a late night out. Again on the same note, another child was left unsupervised in a hotel room hallway (not at Disney) and was bouncing a ball against the walls early in the morning. Then again some adults can be a pain in the rear as well. There was a lady who would pull out the room's chairs and sit, smoke, and talk on her cell phone for hours outside of our room.

I think most people expect to hear a shower, toilet or low voices. It is constant crying or screaming that is annoying.

 

[fan_of_small_world]

If you are concerned about waking him to get him ready for bed, then do it at the parks.

That is a great idea! Mine are too old to do that now, but in the past we've done it coming home from visiting famly and friends. Carrying them in from the car usually didn't wake them, but we learned quickly that all the fuss of changing them would. So, on went the jammies, with a quick diaper change once back home and in their room!


dabrnigrl, it really sounds like you have a great handle on everything, and you'll have a great trip. As most here have said, a little crying in a family destination like WDW is to be expected. And clearly you have a plan for dealing with crying that goes beyond a few minutes.

So, welcome to the DIS, if I didn't say it earlier. There is a ton of great info here! I joined last spring in preparation for our first trip with the kids in October, and I learned so much here!

 

[ducklite]

Thanks for this helpful infomation.

I feel as if I am considerate, but I think some are getting the wrong impression, which is really making me worry.

Maybe I should fully introduce my self to our neighbors and feel them out, so I can see what I am dealing with.

There are some posts on here that are scaring me.

Just because they are made of concrete it doesn't mean that they are soundproof. Especially if there is a connecting door--the noise goes right through that.

Maybe you could ask for a room that doesn't connect to another one--that could alleviate a lot of the noise issue--both coming from your room and potentially coming into your room from the neighbors.

I don't know if I'd try to talk to the "neighbors." I'd be creeped out if someone staying next door knocked on my door unless there was a fire, or tried to start more than a "Hello, nice weather today" conversation with me.

That said, any baby crying for more than 2-3 minutes at night in the room next to me is going to be enough to make a call to the front desk. I understand that babies cry, but I think that if the parents can't settle the child in 2-3 minutes, it's time to leave and go to the lobby or car until the child is quiet again. Even if it means that the parent has to stand there at the crib and rub or pat the child for an hour to keep them quiet, it's really the right thing to do.

Anne

 

[dabrnigrl]

Ok, I don't think I would even have the courage to just knock on the neighbors door.

I was just saying it to be funny.

I would be freaked out to.

I don't like when random people just talk to me either (more than hello).

So, I wouldn't be able to do it.

But, I think I my intentions on how I was going to handle the kids was right on from the get go.

I just wanted to get a feel for the overall opinion.



Every ones opinion has been more than noted.

I might be super parinod now. LOL!



Sometimes, they say "you wish you didn't ask".

LOL!

 

[TheDizMom]

Noise and kids are just part of WDW. If you don't like it this is not the place for you. What you are discribing is par of the course so don't worry about it. As long as you don't let the noise levels get out of control no one will be upset, and trust me you won't be the only people getting up early to be there when the gates open.