Honeymoon Registries??

[Ember]

I hate weddings. I used to enjoy the romance of the day, watching people you care about dedicate their lives to each other... But then I learned that the most important thing to many couples isn't their life long commitment, it's how to get exactly what they feel they deserve out of their loved ones in terms of gifts. (Note: I'm being cynical, and I don't really believe this, but boy does it seem like it at times.)

I can't count the number of brides and grooms that I've heard bemoan the fact that they may get gifts they don't want. They plan and scheme to ensure that everyone knows what gifts they find acceptable and then go out of their way to make sure everyone knows their demands. Registry cards are included with invitations (Come celebrate my wedding, and bring me THIS, too!), registry information prominently displayed on website, and not-so-subtle poems about how cash is really all they want or need.

Now, I have no issue with registries in and of themselves. Should someone ask for the information, by all means supply it. But don't jam it down people's throats, and for goodness sake, you don't invite gifts to a wedding, only people!

This issue is a personal pet peeve for me and I will decline invitations with gift instructions included, as clearly the couple is not really concerned with my attendance, only the gift I will bring.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

I don't think the registry is in addition to a gift, but in place of it. A lot of couples now already have a house or apartment set up (as most live together before marriage) so they may not register for the typical bridal registry stuff. A Honeymoon registry is to give them something to make their vacation better....a nice meal, an excursion, upgrade their room.

As a guest of a wedding YOU have the choice of what to give....something off their store registry (like Bed Bath and Beyond), something off their honeymoon registry, cash or whatever you want to give them. I see nothing wrong with registering for what you want, but I also know that doesn't mean it's waht you will get!!! LOL!

DH and I already lived together before getting married but we 'upgraded' our things with the registry...meaning the cheap walmart toaster was replaced with a nicer one as was the can opener and the mismatched dishes! But that was us!

This is what my friend did. She is a veterinarian and already had her home established when she got married. So she had things on her bridal registry such as shot glasses and bar sets because she truly didn't need anything else. So she also set up one of those honeymoon registries. I called and asked her what she would prefer. She preferred the honeymoon one but told me to do whatever I was comfortable with. I believe I bought her airline miles or something like that. I spent the equivalent of what I would have spent on a regular gift off her registry and she got something she truly wanted.
I'm a stickler for old fashioned values and what not but I truly felt this was a better use of my gift.