Honeymoon Registries??

[okeydokey]

I think it's horrible tacky. I didn't even have a store registry when I got married.

 

[lsyorke]

What irritates me is the Christmas gift registry for the kids

This one I have no problem with. I have no clue what the grandkids are into, so this makes it much easier to point and click to a present that they truly want. I'd be buying for them regardless!

 

[indimom]

Well, this is the first I've heard of it, but I don't think it's any tackier than any other registry. (The first time I heard of a wedding or baby shower registry I was horrified. I've acclimated since then and think they are great!!!) I would rather put my money toward something that will be used and appreciated than something they don't need or wouldn't like.

Oh, and I would assume that something like this is a one or the other type of gift, not that you buy for both. If I'm wrong, then that is tacky.

If I knew the couple didn't have an established home I would buy off that gift list. But, if they had an established home (like my sis and her new hubby who married this summer and combined two homes and had too much stuff), I think a honeymoon registry is a fantastic gift option and would have fun shopping off the registry list.

All of this comes from a 37yo who was married 15 years ago and did not have a registry of any kind. We were moving into our first apartment after the wedding and a registry would have been nice since we got repeats of things we didn't need and didn't get other things we would have used daily. Another of my sisters was married the same summer and we actually swapped a toaster (she got three) for some towells (I got four sets). Probably pretty tacky, but we were all poor post-college couples trying to make ends meet and it made sense for us at the time. We did appreciate all the gifts and seriously debated about doing this, but decided no one would be upset if we kept it "under the radar."

 

[VAfamily1998]

What irritates me is the Christmas gift registry for the kids,

My brother (married, but no kids yet) has specifically asked me to set up "wish lists" for my kids, and keep them updated. He wants to be very generous to his nephews, but his work keeps him extremely busy and it is much easier for him to be able to just look at a list and click and buy. He does not live close enough to give them gifts in person (currently he lives in China, but in the past 5 years he has lived in Detroit, Chicago, Houston, St. Petersburg Russia, and Sakhalin Island!) so internet shopping is often his best option.

So, I create these registries for my kids, but I don't go around telling friends/relatives about it--except my brother since he has specifically asked.

 

[dicar123]

Honeymoon registries? Good grief.

But I'm the same person who was complaining to friends about having to write my own address on the thank you notes for the baby shower and bridal shower we attended.

Yes I know, these aren't women who would have my address, and if I'm going to write it down or tell someone, I may as well address the envelope myself. But still, the idea irritates me.

 

[*JoGo*]

My SIL is doing this for her wedding. She already has a household set up. It's not different than a regular registry... and not expected to buy from each registry, but an either/or thing. Except she's not setting up a regular registry. She's also not having a bridal shower, as she doesn't need any household stuff.

They're going on the honeymoon regardless. I think it's great. So many people now already have all their household needs, or are even combining two households. I'd rather give a gift they WANT rather than something I think they'd like but will just collect dust or be donated. I'd just be wasting my money.

 

[Nicolepa]

My BIL had one for his second marriage. I felt that they were wanting us to all finance his extravagant trip to Italy. Add to it some of the "items" were very tacky. One was something like "Breakfast in between the sheets" or something of that nature.

I'm only in my 30's and I found it tacky bordering on offensive (based on the wording of the items on their list). We bought him a Christmas ornament of the Leaning Tower of Pisa instead.

 

[Nancyg56]

I don't think the registry is in addition to a gift, but in place of it. A lot of couples now already have a house or apartment set up (as most live together before marriage) so they may not register for the typical bridal registry stuff. A Honeymoon registry is to give them something to make their vacation better....a nice meal, an excursion, upgrade their room.

As a guest of a wedding YOU have the choice of what to give....something off their store registry (like Bed Bath and Beyond), something off their honeymoon registry, cash or whatever you want to give them. I see nothing wrong with registering for what you want, but I also know that doesn't mean it's waht you will get!!! LOL!

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I think this as well. I really do not care what people register for, they are all wish lists adn I can choose to use them or not.

I find the honeymoon registry no more tacky than shower or wedding ones. I never bought a gift from a registry list; we always give a check. The couple can use it for what they want: china, linens, tools, groceries, spending money on their honeymoon or whatever.

I don't THINK the honeymoon registry is an attempt for an additional gift; merely another choice. Now if a greedy couple EXPECTS an additional honeymoon gift, I hope they're bitterly disappointed by a lack of response.

Jim

Exactly. You cannot win. When DH and I married I did not register anywhere. I had been married before adn I had my own home. Holy Moly! Did I hear how difficult it was to purchase gifts.!!!!!!!

This one I have no problem with. I have no clue what the grandkids are into, so this makes it much easier to point and click to a present that they truly want. I'd be buying for them regardless!

 

[dicar123]

Exactly. You cannot win. When DH and I married I did not register anywhere. I had been married before adn I had my own home. Holy Moly! Did I hear how difficult it was to purchase gifts.!!!!!!!

When dh and I married, we were using my twin bed as a sofa, had a card table with 4 chairs and a tv my parents had bought me for college. We didn't register anywhere. People kept calling me and asking "But...what are your colors?"

We needed everything and I didn't AT ALL care about what color anything was. We got all of the basics plus about 4 different sets of Corningware. We didn't return any of it and over the years if we needed a different sized casserole dish we'd go shopping through the boxes. We have a few pieces that have never been used...20 years (this March) later. We still joke about the never-ending Corningware supply.

 

[KDIPIAZZ]

Hello,

My nephew is being married and with the shower invitation I received 2 cards-one with the store registry and one with "honey fund" registry.



Julia

It was tacky right off the bat to include any registry info with an invitation

 

[ilovefh]

We had a Disney honeymoon registry as well as a regular one to Linens and Things. (Which coincidentally went out of business the week after my wedding and made exchanging the doubles or broken items impossible. We loved our mixing bowl set, but not with two broken bowls!)

DH had owned his home for 10 years and I had been living with him for the past two years. We had already combined our homes and really had almost everything we needed as far as housewares.

We were going on our honeymoon regardless. Our friends and family knew us well and knew Disney was something we loved.

I don't think anyone gave from both.

I don't think honeymoon registries are any tackier than regular ones. Honestly I'd rather get the couple something they can use and like rather than something they "had" to register for, but might not even use. If their household is already set up, they may not need much and register for things just to have a registry.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

Personally I don't see any difference between a honeymoon registry and a regular gift registry. If you are fine with the one, why does the other bother you? Very few people are starting from square one anymore when they get married and they most likely already have all the necessities taken care of.

It seems to me that people can't win no matter which way they go about it. If they include a registry, they are tacky; if they don't include a registry then someone is going to to complain about not knowing what the bride and groom want.

 

[Nancyg56]

We have a few pieces that have never been used...20 years (this March) later. We still joke about the never-ending Corningware supply.

Personally I don't see any difference between a honeymoon registry and a regular gift registry. If you are fine with the one, why does the other bother you? Very few people are starting from square one anymore when they get married and they most likely already have all the necessities taken care of.

It seems to me that people can't win no matter which way they go about it. If they include a registry, they are tacky; if they don't include a registry then someone is going to to complain about not knowing what the bride and groom want.

That si how I see it. I usually don't get fussy over anything my friends or family includes on their invitations. I love them and will not look for faults. The only time I got my bloomers in a bunch was an invitation we recieved from a coworker of my Dh. THe entire invitation to the wedding was a poem telling folks that the couple was purchasing a home so all they wanted for gifts was money. It was the tackiest way of instructing guests that their was a fee to go to teh wedding. This was only one of two weddings I declined becasue I was in a snit over teh gift grab

 

[AmandaNied]

One of my good friends had her wedding in Hawaii. The e-invites stated intead of us "receiving two waffle makers, we want to have a good time on vacation." Choices included: a night at the condo, snorkeling, pay for a day of their rental car, ect. We sent some $$ and a nice card. I didn't take offense, but I would never do that. I don't think many people took advantage either- her "bought" column was pretty bare.


It doesn't take much for a wedding to become riddled with issues. The Preist in the town we were married in (he was new and didn't know either of us) didn't like the "circus show"- he didn't like the fact we included neices and nephews in the readings or the songs.

I got a little 'tiffy over a cousin's wedding- we RSVP'd and my husband's aunt called and stated..well, the invite was only addressed to YOU and DH- not your child. I said we wouldn't be able to make it as it was 100 miles away and couldn't arrange child care, so we would have to decline then. ( nothing was indicated verbally or in writing that it was an adult only reception) When my inlaws went to the wedding, they said I don't know why they said you couldn't bring DS- the Bride's family brought all of her neices and nephews and the place was crawling with children....but only from HER side of the family. Werid..

 

[dakcp2001]

One of my good friends had her wedding in Hawaii. The e-invites stated intead of us "receiving two waffle makers, we want to have a good time on vacation." Choices included: a night at the condo, snorkeling, pay for a day of their rental car, ect. We sent some $$ and a nice card. I didn't take offense, but I would never do that. I don't think many people took advantage either- her "bought" column was pretty bare.


It doesn't take much for a wedding to become riddled with issues. The Preist in the town we were married in (he was new and didn't know either of us) didn't like the "circus show"- he didn't like the fact we included neices and nephews in the readings or the songs.

I got a little 'tiffy over a cousin's wedding- we RSVP'd and my husband's aunt called and stated..well, the invite was only addressed to YOU and DH- not your child. I said we wouldn't be able to make it as it was 100 miles away and couldn't arrange child care, so we would have to decline then. ( nothing was indicated verbally or in writing that it was an adult only reception) When my inlaws went to the wedding, they said I don't know why they said you couldn't bring DS- the Bride's family brought all of her neices and nephews and the place was crawling with children....but only from HER side of the family. Werid..

Weddings are expensive and you pay per person, so unfortunately only the closest family & friends get to bring dates and or children. Sometimes you have to cut the extended family even if you would rather have them attend.

There will be no children invited to mine, but that is because of one particular relative whose children spent another family wedding running up & down the church aisle screaming until the priest had to STOP the ceremony to ask who should be minding the children. Then the parents (my future in laws, lucky me) had the nerve to complain and moan about how rude the priest was. I though the bride was going to punch someone. BTW this is the same mom that sent me the email about the xmas gift card not being enough, if you saw that thread.

 

[nancytoby]

Wedding registry AND a honeymoon registry?

Pure unabashed greed.

Any solicitation of money from people for a personal event is the very definition of tacky.

 

[mom2rb]

There will be no children invited to mine, but that is because of one particular relative whose children spent another family wedding running up & down the church aisle screaming until the priest had to STOP the ceremony to ask who should be minding the children. Then the parents (my future in laws, lucky me) had the nerve to complain and moan about how rude the priest was. I though the bride was going to punch someone. BTW this is the same mom that sent me the email about the xmas gift card not being enough, if you saw that thread.

This is the same reason we had no children at my wedding. Except the mother stopped the ceremony by standing up and screaming at her child to sit down.

 

[PrincessDana]

Well, my SO and I are in our 30s/40s and set up in our household as well.

If we decide to get married and "have a wedding", we won't be registering anywhere at all and absolutely no gifts will be expected. If people insist, we will ask them to donate to a charity or to a church.

We will be inviting people to share in our day. There will be no thoughts of "recouping" the cost of our wedding, we would just want the people we invited to celebrate with us.

 

[deegack]

Rude and tacky. Also registry information is not suppose to be included in wedding invitations (shower invitations are kind of ok). I would get them a copy of Miss Manners book of etiquette. OK I wouldn't but would think about it.

 

[rigs32]

I really wonder why people feel compelled to ask for specific items for a wedding, shower etc. I find it rather tacky.

More tacky than receiving 12 toasters and having to ask 11 of the givers for the receipt? Or should they just keep/donate/regift all of the toasters? I ask in all seriousness. I'm not a fan of over the top registries, but I want to make sure that my gift is something the couple can use and not a multiple.